accused of being a bully

tandraig

poet123 wrote: »

I actually don't think I have ever read a post which has been crafted to go for the jugular, or undermine an OP more than this one.

It has been written by someone with an agenda, with a history of issues with others, a sizeable chip on their shoulder, someone who perceives they have been on the recieving end of insensitivty, and by someone with the capacity to make mountains out of molehills. In short, quite a dangerous individual. Probably also someone who wants her own way in all things and has no empathy with others, yet expects bucket loads of it for her own situation. I have met this kind of person before.

The OP did not come on here stating she was wholly innocent, she seems reflective enough to understand that some people may object to her personality. But she did come on here, that in itself is telling behaviour, someone who engaged in the type of behaviours described by the writer of the post above would have thought no more about the incident, just have been of the opinion that the other student was overly touchy and probably gone on to have a laugh at her expense with her other colleagues.

I deal with students every day, there are issues, there are personality clashes, there are bullies (fewer than you would think) but most people simply make mistakes, misjudge the situation, read someone wrongly. There is no malice aforethought, no intent to dominate, no intent to be top dog. To infer that this is the case here, is to grossly overstate the case on the facts presented, and would appear to be done from the standpoint of someone who wishes to make a point just because she can. Not because the point is verifiable, or even likely.

To the OP, go and see your Tutor (that is what we are here for) she will arrange a meeting between the two of you and mediate to ensure the situation is dealt with appropriately and causes no long term atmosphere within the group. It can be used as a learning tool, to help both parties cope with this type of incident. If handled correctly a positive outcome for both sides can be achieved. I wish you well.

To the poster above, you are entitled to your opinion, but like the rest of us are bound by convention, and there are ways of presenting that opinion. Ways in which you do so that does not say more about you than it does about the OP, and not in a positive way. It was a very hurtful post, not to be confused with/or presented as "telling it as you see it".

We can see the difference.

thanks poet - you put it so much more eloquently (and i am sure i offended more people) than i did!

I was, however beginning to wonder if i was the only one who took the post that way.

poet123

tandraig wrote: »

thanks poet - you put it so much more eloquently (and i am sure i offended more people) than i did!
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Only time will tell, still, I wasnt trying to be offensive, just telling it how I saw it;) as I knew the writer could take it straight from the hip.