blighted ovum (miscarriage)

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Emma, firstly big hugs you have been through so much, I am sorry you have had to go through the miscarriage and then be subjected to the insensitivities of other people.

To all the other ladies who have suffered miscarriages, reading your stories makes me sad for your and i wonder why life can be so cruel. Its not fair.

Miscarriage is something that is in the back of my mind for a long time, I am 12w+2d pregnant and have already had 2 scans for some spotting at 9 weeks and 11 weeks. The baby is currently healthy and growing but they think the blood could be coming from my cervix. I am having this investigated on Tuesday hopefully.

I thought when got to 12 weeks it would be ok, but its not is it, you can still miscarry later and be fooled by the symptoms our bodies still emit.

Its scary stuff. I know I mustn't get too stressed for the sake of teh baby but its hard.

Sorry EMma, didn't mean to hijack your thread, just wanted you to know that your not alone, many people here understand where your coming from, even if those closest to you do not.

Have a good weekend all,

Bay

happi_2

So sorry to hear what has happened to everyone and hope that sharing experiences can help in some way. I had a molar pregnancy four years ago which like the "blighted ovum" meant that although I was pregnant, no actual foetus developed and I ended up having a miscarriage. A really small number of molar pregnancies develop into a form of cancer and unfortunately I was one of those cases so ended up having chemo. for a few months (and yes, did lose my hair!)

It's a really long story, but it does have a happy ending as I was given the all clear by the hospital in 2002 and last December I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.

I know it's really hard, but try to stay as positive as you can - I'm a real "glass half empty" type of person, but throughout this I stayed really positive which I think was the only thing that got me through it.

Best wishes to everyone.

Jay-Jay_4

happi wrote:

So sorry to hear what has happened to everyone and hope that sharing experiences can help in some way. I had a molar pregnancy four years ago which like the "blighted ovum" meant that although I was pregnant, no actual foetus developed and I ended up having a miscarriage. A really small number of molar pregnancies develop into a form of cancer and unfortunately I was one of those cases so ended up having chemo. for a few months (and yes, did lose my hair!)

Mine was a partial hydatidiform mole. You're the first person I've even known to have had a similar experience. I'm so sorry you went on to have a trophoblasic tumour, was it diagnosed through Weston Park and the 24 hr urine assays?

I'm sorry emma for hijacking your thread. Molar pregnancies are 1/2000 so the odds of ever speaking to another sufferer is minimal. Like blighted ovum it's one of those things that's little known about. We had to have weekly urine tests for a year and weren't allowed to get pregnant during that time as the HCG levels of pregnancy can mask the cancer which is a factor in a molar pregnancy.

Spendless

Jay-Jay. There is a mum with a child in my sons class who has had a molar pregnancy, that developed into cancer and she lost her hair. I don't know where she was diagnosed, but highly likely she was treated thru Weston Park as we live not far away. She is due her 3rd child anyday.

gallygirl

Emma, i'm so sorry about what has happened.

You were pregnant, now you're not. The 'medical mechanics' of it really makes no difference are no-ones business but your own, and I cannot believe people are so callous, especially those close to you.

Look forward to your next holiday & good luck for the future. x

£Ronnie

OMG, I am balling my eyes out reading about everyones experiences. I have no idea how awful you must all feel, and can only send you all my best wishes for the future.

Although I know deep down how lucky I am with my two littl'uns, reading this today has made me think about it, and I am signing off now to make a conscious effort to have a great day with them.

I feel really gutted for you all, big hugs, and best of luck, for the future what ever it may bring. (God that sounds so pathetic in the scheme of things, sorry,)

jellyhead

hi ronnie,

i know what you mean about feeling lucky to have your little ones. i was the only one in the waiting room that day who had a baby to go home and snuggle with, something to 'do' with all those maternal feelings.

bailey it is scary, but i read somewhere (in the same magazine that told me my ten week pregnancy had developed toes that week, i threw it away when i got home) that if there's a heartbeat at 8 weeks on a scan then you have a 96% chance of carrying the baby to full term. i know 96% isn't perfect but it's better than the 80% before you hit the 12 week mark *HUGS* if it's any consolation i know lots of women who had bleeding during pregnancy and it wasn't harmful to the baby. cervical erosion is a possible cause.

emma i forgot to say, you mentioned periods. i was told to expect it 4-6 weeks after the miscarriage and mine happened exactly 5 weeks after the baby came out.

Jay-Jay_4

Hi emma... it's me again

I should've added that my experiences were 8 years ago and that I have had two children since. I've very much dealt with my feelings from that part of my life.

I only added my story so that you knew that you are right to be angry and upset about the people who have been less than supportive and not to gain any sympathy for myself . Time is a great healer.

I hope you're bearing up, chin up flower x x x

nadnad

my heart goes out to you emma.

its a terrible thing to go through but you will be fine, if you ever need anyone to talk to we are all here. hugs.

emma_b_4

thanks again to you all, i havent been on here all weekend as i have been partying, well its the first time in ages and it was good to let our hair down with our close friends. need to go see my gran etc soon i suppose but after what they have said i just cant be a*sed, or im thinking of printing the info out like some1 suggested.

im so sorry if this thread has upset anybody or brought the old feelings back, although i hope it has helped some ppl as it has me to talk about things.

the thread hasnt been hijacked its turned into a supportive discussion.

bailey dont worry, try to enjoy your pregnancy im sure you will be fine, it is hard cos when you get to 12weeks you think right im safe (we didnt tell ppl till 12weeks except our parents as i knew the stats of miscarriage, so was hard when we told every1 then at 15 weeks..)

when i went back for my scan to see if my the mc was complete, they sat me with all the preg ladies, in the same seats as the week b4 when i had happily been waiting for my first scan to see my baby, then i went into the same room (diff lady) where they said "hello is this the first scan you have had this pregnancy? seeing your baby for the first time 2day?"

i really wish they would read the notes first, i was admitted to hosp with acute blood loss the night after my scan, and a doc came in and said how many weeks ru? i said 15weeks, "have you had that confirmed by a dating scan?" i kind of said erm well and she said "well how doy oyu know then, nurse we need to send her for a scan dont we if she hasnt had one"

as a student nurse i will always now read the notes cos those two moments were awful.

oh and i spoke about trying again as im just unbeleivably broody, which im wandering will it fade with time? is it hormonal?
we said in october we might try, when the summers over, but i dont know, see what happens, at the moment we are using protection cos im too scared not to really.

hope every1 has had a good weekend and im sending huge hugs to you all and big thankyous for listening xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx