blighted ovum (miscarriage)

virgin_moneysaver

so sorry Sarah to hear your news & yes it is a loss & yes I've been there, T-shirt et al, & you'll never forget it, I still think of my little one at this time of year when it happened & May 14th when the baby was due - I was lucky in that I already had my son so I knew 'I could do it' so to speak and I was pregnant again by the time the birth due date arrived which helped - I had all the same symptoms as my 1st pregnancy, morning sickness for 14 weeks & as soon as the sickness stopped the bleeding began my wonderful GP sent me to bed for a week but to no avail,scan just showed empty sac - the same hormones that were giving me the MS were the same hormones that were keeping me pregnant as it were, once the placenta had fully grown & kicked out the hormones there was no baby to nourish so that what the bleeding was, they booked me in for a D&C but I started the evacuation naturally, contractions & panting ensued & the 'lovely' Indian doctor commented on what I passed in the lav was what was left of my baby - the consultant apologised & could only explain that these things were viewed differently in her country

my M-i-L comment was the best, as all the babies in the families were boys up to then she said that 'maybe it was a girl & you might not be able to carry girls' - I also had to go back to the hospital 10 days later to visit my sister -in -law & her new baby

as you can see it never leaves you & mine was 15 years ago - & it shouldn't leave you as its part of you & who you are - take care sarah

mrcow

Sarahsaver, I am so very very sorry to hear of the loss of your baby. One thing I've learned is that it's NOTHING that you've done. I hope that you can allow your body and your heart enough time to heal, and take care.

You are so right of course, the treatment that some people (and that includes the men too!) have to endure whilst going through such a shocking experience is often dreadful.

I remember when I was in hospital miscarrying at twelve weeks, not knowing what was going on, hoping for the best,not even able to get my head around what was really happening. I asked the nurse whilst in floods and floods of tears whether the baby was going to be okay and the reply I got was, "We don't call them babies at this stage".

Maybe she didn't mean to be so hurtful, but looking back, she should never have said that to me in the position I was in. It wasn't the only bad comment I got that day.

On the other hand, many of the staff were fantastic.