Dilemma about son and domestic abuse

moralissue

MyRubyRed wrote: »

Re your son perhaps you need to get his dad to speak to him too?

Me and my husband are very different parents. Not that either of us are bad parents but my husband is very practical ie he got up in the night more than I did when he was a small child, he will do anything like running him anywhere (never moans) will iron for him (son does his own ironing but if he asks his dad to iron the odd thing he will) he will socialise with him if the occasion arose etc BUT anything like this and it is left to me.

What I mean by that is he will do anything I ASK him to do ie if I say will you drive over to Uni and talk to him he would, if I said will you email him then he would. Literally anything son or me asked him to do he would do if we asked.

So what I am trying to say in a round about way is that although OH looked ill when he found out about the knife incident and then looked very puzzled when he read the GF's emails etc he hasn't actually done anything at all about it If I mention son he will gladly speak about it BUT he hasn't brought it up voluntarily at all or even sent son an email..nothing

jha

are you saying that you have had no communication since fri night? not even a receipt to say he has read email? or have i read this wrong? can you check his facebook to see if he has been online?

moralissue

Yes no contact since Friday night. He last posted on his Facebook on Friday too. I don't have receipts to check if people have opened their email.

jha

I sincerly hope that he is ok - he needs to know that at this difficult time ( break up with gf) he needs to let you know he is ok. Could he be with her? sending you a big hug, pm me anytime

moralissue

jha wrote: »

I sincerly hope that he is ok - he needs to know that at this difficult time ( break up with gf) he needs to let you know he is ok. Could he be with her? sending you a big hug, pm me anytime

Thanks :A He could be with her or she could be with him anything is possible :rolleyes: but I hope he is at Uni.

I could driver over there tonight its only about an hours drive

mumslave

Hi moralissue, just caught up on how things have been. So you havent heard from him over the weekend is that right? I wouldnt personally rush off up there yet, I know you must be worried, but it may be that he is just licking his wounds just now, if you chase after him too much, he may become worse with regard to accepting your help and advice in this situation. The Uni would surely contact you too if they felt something was amiss.

I hope thats all he is doing and you hear from him soon.

jha

moralissue wrote: »

Thanks :A He could be with her or she could be with him anything is possible :rolleyes: but I hope he is at Uni.

I could driver over there tonight its only about an hours drive

I dont know i tend always to err on the side of caution due to experiences and probably as you drive there he will email you or something:rolleyes: Is there a landline to his house or anything HTH

tandraig

I too am torn between saying - if it will put your mind at rest go over there - and - let him come to you.
another way might be to phone GF and ask how she is? and sort of find out if he is there? sneaky - but might work

MyRubyRed

tandraig, I would go with the "sneaky" option you suggest above unless Moralissue has heard anything in the meantime? My heart aches for her. She is obviously worried sick

rachel6188

I hope you hear off your son soon. Take care of yourself x