Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

MrsE_2

Princess_Jane wrote: »

I'm really starting to dislike Christmas.

Inlaws land for a month, massive rows last year as MIL insisted she wanted family Christmas for eight at ours - WE LIVE IN A TINY END TERRACE AND DON'T EVEN HAVE A DINNER TABLE! or plates for eight people!

I stuck to my guns and insisted we went out, which everyone enjoyed and we're repeating this year.

But a month of guests is making me feel sick already!

A month of your MIL:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

MrsE_2

Atomised wrote: »

I am really surprised by the amount of people who spend christmas day apart from their partner:eek:!

I was surprised at that too

DH & I wouldn't dream of spending it apart.

Our DD invites her BF over after dinner, he has/wants to spend it with his mum & our DD wants to spend it with us.

His family celebrate xmas-eve so DD goes to them for xmas-eve & her BF comes to us for xmas-day evening.

Does anyone who actually lives with their DP spend it apart (except working)?

MrsE_2

red_devil wrote: »

went out once for xmas dinner, never again, its not as nice, its dear and you dont get any leftovers for other meals.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Yeah, no turkey sandwiches:mad:

Princess_Jane

red_devil wrote: »

went out once for xmas dinner, never again, its not as nice, its dear and you dont get any leftovers for other meals.

Trust me, the state my MIL can leave my kitchen just making a cuppa - Christmas dinner doesn't bear thinking about.

Plus as mentioned we don't even have seats for everyone, never mind a dinner table - turkey picnic on the floor?!

red_devil

beg borrow and steal them;)

margaretclare

Princess_Jane wrote: »

Trust me, the state my MIL can leave my kitchen just making a cuppa - Christmas dinner doesn't bear thinking about.

Plus as mentioned we don't even have seats for everyone, never mind a dinner table - turkey picnic on the floor?!

So why have you got to have them for a month? If your house is so tiny, where will they all sleep? And where do you eat in the normal course of things?

Princess_Jane

margaretclare wrote: »

So why have you got to have them for a month? If your house is so tiny, where will they all sleep? And where do you eat in the normal course of things?

MIL and FIL live in France..when they come to the UK they sleep in the spare room of the house we rent from them..SIL and her daughter live over the road from us..in an even smaller flat..

OH and I eat sitting on the settee (from plates, obvs)

shell_girl

MrsE wrote: »

I was surprised at that too

DH & I wouldn't dream of spending it apart.


Does anyone who actually lives with their DP spend it apart (except working)?

Yes- we've lived together for three years and have never spent the day together. I was working last year on the day and so was driving past his Mum's house and popped in- it was the first year anyone had crossed the threshold on Christmas day in her house :rotfl:

OH's dad died quite young, up until then they'd had very family Christmasses (as in immediate family only) and this has carried on. My family's tradition is similar, lock ourselves away from the world and enjoy eachother's company. We (OH and I) always say it's a bit of a wrench saying goodbye on Christmas Eve... but as I said earlier- how could I enjoy his company knowing his Mum was alone? She wouldn't want to spend Christmas anywhere but home. Obviously we haven't got kids- at the moment we're the 'kids' so we go to our families.

When we 'grow up' :rolleyes: and we're the parents, we want to give our kids the same type of Christmasses we had. My parents and OH's mum will be more than welcome to join us if they want to- but we won't be leaving the house if we can help it.

oliviasmummy

This is so frustrating isnt it. Been with hubby for almost 7years now so this is our 7th xmas together. We have been married for over 2years and now have a one year old daughter. Before we were married and living together we each spent xmas eve at home (our parents house) and would then spend xmas morning at home then either have lunch at home or alternate each year havign xmas dinner at hubby's parents or mine. DH parents are seperated and when DH was younger he used to go to his Dad's for tea on xmas day. We try to split our time equally between all 3now we are married. Since we got married the first year we had my parents and DH mum, step dad, 3sisters, grandma and auntie round for xmas dinner then last year we had his Dad and step mum, sister who lives with his dad and his nana and grandad for dinner with my parents also and visited the others for tea and same previous year. DH mum still has 3 girls at home one whom is disabled and an 8year old and eldest daughter who is 17 also has a one year old baby that lives there too so we find its easier to visit them than wait for them all to come to us and that way we can speciify times and choose how long to stay etc.

The other dilema we have is that every boxing day DH uncle(mums sister) has a family party which we attend every year and have doen for the last 6years. This year my parents have asked us for xmas dinner (well they asked last xmas but hey ho) and have also asked my grandma as my grandad passed away in june this year so dont want her to be on her own. We are all really looking forward to this. BUt we always find it difficult to split our time fairly when visiting the other 2. Now DH Dad has asked us for tea on xmas day as they are having a party which we would love to go to but I know that DH mum will kick off when she finds out we wont be going there. The problem is is that DH mum leaves everythig to last minute wont think to ask what our plans are or make plans will just expect we should be going there but its not possible to have 2meals at 3places. I think when our daughter is older and wanting to play with her toys more we will stay at home and have parents round alternate each year or just go down for a few hours in afternoon after dinner. My arguement with MIL is that we will still call in the mornign for a few hours before we go to my parents for dinner and will see them from 3pm if not before on boxing day till early hours so its not like we dont see them at all over xmas but anytime we spend with DH Dad is frowned upon by his mum which after speerating 21 years ago and being married for 18years againa dn 3more children you would think she was over it I guess not.

Am I wrong to be annoyed at this and does anyone else have this nightmare with 3families. Im so glad I dont see my dad haven't since I was 4 and dont want to My step dad is my dad and I see my parents but its so frustrating on hubby's side trying to please everyone.

poppycracker

oliviasmummy wrote: »

Am I wrong to be annoyed at this and does anyone else have this nightmare with 3families. Im so glad I dont see my dad haven't since I was 4 and dont want to My step dad is my dad and I see my parents but its so frustrating on hubby's side trying to please everyone.

So dont try . Tell MIL exactly what you said in your post...

oliviasmummy wrote: »

My arguement with MIL is that we will still call in the mornign for a few hours before we go to my parents for dinner and will see them from 3pm if not before on boxing day till early hours so its not like we dont see them at all over xmas

and say that because you want to spend equal amounts of time at each relation's house, that this is what you are going to do. It's not as if you are not going to go near her at Christmas is it? I feel sorry for people who kick off because you aren't going to do what they want, it pushes people away in the end.