Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

Skint_Catt

I have only child guilt for not being with my parents at Christmas especially as Dad is ill and getting frail now. I've never spent a Christmas Day away from them and OH has been nice enough over the 3 Christmas's we've had together (the first we spent apart as we hadn't been together long) he's always come to ours, with me and him then travelling all the way to Hampshire to see his Dad & Sisters family. In a selfish note I do hope that happens again this year but I do hate the travelling on Boxing Day - I can't relax on Christmas Day because we have to pack and leave the next morning.
New Year however I hate as we usually spend it apart so I'm hoping just him & I will go away this year.

alyth

I've just come back from my parents and we were talking about this. My brother lives down south and has two kids, so they're going to spend Christmas with him, then fly off on a holiday between Christmas and New Year. Me - I split up with ex last year after 15 years of unbearable christmases with him and his family, last year I spend an awful one with parents and brother and kids, this year it will be me, my dog, my studying books, some wine and lots of long walks - and I can't wait!

We've even all agreed not to buy each other any presents, None of us need anything, brother's kids will get a very small present as they are totally overloaded with stuff, so Christmas truly is not going to exist for me for the first time ever, and i am so pleased!

richardw

Same as last year and the year before that and before that.
Book holiday for late December/January with friends in June, tell family in August get reaction 'that'll be lovely'.
No problem.

MadDogWoman_2

No discussions in this house.

DH is rostered off work this year - 25th to 27th. :j:j:j

Plan for Christmas is as follows:
Walk to church for service (DD to little for midnight service)
Walk home, jump in car visit big brother & parents at his house for an hour or so.
Back home and have Christmas dinner at home - (prepped whilst DH on late shift on 24th).

Present opening will be spread over Christmas Day and Boxing Day as DD gets quite a lot with DH being from a large family.

We will see DH's family before Christmas to exchange gifts - DH's shifts depending, but will be seeing them on the 19th to celebrate neices 21st.

My family all get togther in one house between Christmas and New Year and have buffet that we all contribute to. But that will be decided nearer the time.

welshgirl78

Does anyone who actually lives with their DP spend it apart (except working)?

Yep, been living together for 5 years in Nottingham, but are both from South Wales so have our Christmas on the 24th and then drive down for Christmas Eve in our parents houses. My BF then comes over, usually Christmas Day night and we hve Boxing Day lunch with his parents...

We are getting married next year so things may change... BUT I think we both have a lot of each other throughout the year so why not spend some quality family time with our families who appreciate it? xxx

RickHoughton

This is going to be first Xmas since me and the !!!!! split up, we've been arguing about who is going to have the kids for the bulk of the day, my argument is that I know I'm going to be away NEXT Xmas, so I should be able to have them this year, but she doesn't seem to care. Haven't got a clue what I'm going to be doing though, as I get thrown out of my house on the 15th December, I'll be living in naval barracks, so xmas there is not going to be much fun for me or the kids, been invited to my mums for the day, but there's always a house full and I don't really enjoy the company of the rest of my family, and hour here and there is fine, but all day would kill me lol. Also been invited to my new girlfriends parents house for the day, but will feel uncomfortable with my kids there.
I did get invited to my in-laws for the day, by my soon to be ex father in law, but the m-i-l is unaware, so dont think i'll take up the offer, as I hate her as much as I hate my ex
.I really don't know what to do!!!

Gingham_Ribbon

I think it'll be fairly straightforward here. We'll be spending it at home, just the 4 of us. We'll see my family at some point in Christmas week and see DH's family after that. His sister doesn't celebrate Christmas but will be visiting his parents over Christmas, so I'm not sure how we'll go about exchanging gifts etc as I don't want their son to feel left out. Other than that it will hopefully be easier than last year (hubby was in hospital from boxing day and off work for a couple of months with chicken pox complications!)

ailuro2

RickHoughton wrote: »

.I really don't know what to do!!!

Be the better person and do what's best for your kids....

If you have nowhere to accommodate them on Christmas Day, then have a special weekend with them the week before, take them to see Christmas lights, visit Santa etc. Let them spend most of Christmas Day in their own home. Difficult to do, but you need to live with it for the kids sake.

On Christmas day you can pop in to visit in the morning, then take them somewhere on Boxing Day.

Agree beforehand with your ex if she has them on Christmas Day you are allowed to visit for an hour to give them their gifts.

Tia_24

My BF and I alternate spending Christmas between my mum's and his families, this year it's our turn to go to his family. My parents are divorced but I think I've only spent 1 Chrismtas with my Dad in about 18 years - I think it became the norm that because my brother and I lived with my mum we would spend Christmas with her - looking back that does seem odd but hey ho!

However we're currently buying a house and hoping that it will all go through before Christmas as I'd really like to spend it in our FIRST house together but BF seems set on the idea of going back to his families - need to work on my powers of persausion!

lindauk

I have to say that the Christmas when/where really stressed me out (well not just Christmas any holiday!) For the laat 3 years we have been alternating between my house and his making 24-25 at one and 26-onwards at the other all dependent on what my dad is working (he does shift work and we have grown up moving Christmas around to whatever day he has off - be it 24, 25, or 26) This doesn't go down well with BF family and if its a year where we are theres on 26th i always feel really guilty as they have already done everything on x-mas day and do it all again for us the next day. Luckily we don't have any kids at the moment but i can see when we do there being some serious family arguments when we want to spend xmas in our own house and travel to see family on boxing day. (Luckily both our familys live 20mins away from each other) but still - thats a hurdle one will have to cross when we get to it!! I have to say that I haven't really enjoyed xmas the last few years (