Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

hayley11

We've finally decided we are having Christmas dinner at home, just me and my boyfriend. That's how I wanted it last year and my MIL manipulated the situation so she and her husband were invited and then her other son. This is our 4th xmas together and I've never had Christmas dinner just me and my boyfriend. I like cooking and I can't wait to do a christmas dinner with all the trimmngs

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I would quite like christmas on our own just once but again one of the children has asked us around. It is oh so lovely that they think of us and we have told each of them over and over again that they should spend christmas with their own little families and see us later, or before. We were asked last month so down we will go and I offered to bring and cook the gubbins

Next year, I feel its about time we booked christmas away. We have never had christmas on our own as a couple after 40 years together

tbh I could be doing without, noise, mess, cooking, non stop chat, after dinner games, tidying, keeping little ones entertained etc etc oh for the peace and quiet of a bottle of champagne, our own bed, good films, and most of all a bit of relaxation with my dh

princess_lou

I know, its so complicatedisnt it?
Me &ex used to spend xmas at my mums(we had ds young) every year. When we split up, i continued to spend the day at mums with me & ds, sister, brother, step sis , & stepdad.
I met my new partner, then me & him spent xmas at mums( of course)
Last year we had just had a baby, and he was in hospital over dec, let out xmas eve so we had christmas mrning at home( i had missed ds1) so tried to make it up by having a homely xmas, we then went to OHs bro/ sis in law.. his mum and other brother/ their partners.. good day:D

Anyway this yr i want to go bk to my mums, but his mum his letting out the old sob story:rolleyes: and he's wanting to spend it there..
I see it as we spent last xmas with his mum(didnt see mine til new yr, when we all had a big 2nd xmas type thing)
He sees it as we didnt as it wasnt at his mums house(she was at bro in laws house)??
im confused coz i thought fairs fair and also i feel bad if i tell my mum ' thanx, but dnt need u now im not by self) and also it tradition to my oldest now- not xmas wivout being there.
im hoping to get a bigger place( then we can stay at home) and everyone can spend it at ours.. and we get to start our own traditions

squirrelchops

I am pretty lucky as my family are very easy to accommodate!! I have worked many Christmases over the years which my family never had a problem with as we know we all catch up at some time whether it is Christmas Day or Boxing Day or whenever!

OH's parents are off abroad to visit his brother so will just be OH and I and his parents dog for Christmas Day with a visit to my Mum, brother and kids on Boxing Day.

Perfect.

ailuro2

Kittie - have you told them this?

One of the older folks at work has found a 3 night Vegas, 3 night LA, one week's cruise down to Mexico followed by 3 night San Francisco over the holiday season, he's seriously thinking of going for it!!

Maybe if you tell them now they'd happily let you go off and do your own thing - who knows maybe they'd like to try out a smaller Christmas celebration too?

With the recession still biting you could arrange to have Christmas when you come back from your holiday, meaning Christmas presents can be bought in the January sales.:D

kr15snw

Always a pain with us.

SIL is staying at MIL's this year with our neices, so we're thinking of going their on the 24th and then staying the night and having dinner with them. Then probably spend the evening with my family.

Only issue is what my brothers family are doing, as normally they spend the morning at their house, then lunch with mum and dad and the kids go to their dads in the evening. This then means I don't see the neices on my side at christmas if we go to OH's side.

Last year though we made the effort to go to my mums for christmas lunch and my brothers family ended up havint their own christmas at home. So still didnt see the neices! Grrr.

Think this year Ill probably pop out to my brothers and my mums in the morning before dinner, so thats 4 houses in one day. Damn. Lol.

This is our 5th christmas and we still havent slept in our own bed on christmas eve! Putting my foot down next year as it will be our first year as husband and wife

elastigirl

Normally it isn't much of a problem for us we take it in turns to go to each others parents each year and it is timed so that when we go to my parents all my siblings and their families are there and when we go to in-laws all hubbys siblings are there. However my 2nd child is due on the 19th of dec and we have put our foot down and said we are saying at home. Which will be the first xmas ever to be on our own in our own house as before i had our son i worked xmas day.

It happens to have fallen on the in-laws turn and i don't think it has gone down to well. They have ignored the fact we have told them, other than to mention that they will then have to come to us :eek: :eek:No way as hubbys siblings will be up from london who will be staying at in-laws house and we do not want a house full here if i have a newborn and am feeling carp. We will have to see what happens. I know they will want to come around over xmas time but please not on xmas day. In-laws are 30 miles away from us so it's not like we or they can just pop over for a drink if they come they will stay for ages.

grumbleguts_2

I would love to have christmas with just the two of us for once, we've been married for 30 years and EVERY christmas we've had parents come to us....... its a nightmare, I now hate christmas day, in fact for the week before its just a constant slog and we have to do all the work from buying and collecting the groceries to preparing and cooking everything, we're just treated like lackeys :mad:

Rather sad isn't it, but we don't know what to do, christmas day starts with me getting in the car and collecting and transporting the oldies, then home and work, then having to take them home again later :mad:

Better half invariably ends up knackered and often goes to bed shattered by mid evening, not much fun for us

Rummer

We are debating more than arguing! Too many options for us this year to choose from!

squirrelchops

My Mum goes to my brothers for Christmas as he lives next door and they have children so she has a nice time.

However, my Mum wouldn't foist herself upon any of us ...... she likes going to my brother but is always pleased to have time to herself Christmas Day so she can to quote 'stuff my face with chocolate, drink Baileys and watch what I want on TV'!!!! Having to get back home to let the dog out is always her 'excuse' when she has enough and wants to return home.

When I was growing up she was more than happy for us to have a very relaxed Christmas Day and to do as we pleased with no hassles!! I am very plased that both mine and OH's parents are relaxed about Christmas!!