Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

kindofagilr

We havent this year, OH and live together (moved in April) I am expecting our first baby (due March)

So this year I am going back to my mam's on christmas eve and sleeping there, then opening presents on christmas morning and then having dinner etc at mam's

OH is going to his mam's on Christmas Eve, opening presents on Christmas Day then having his dinner then coming to my mam's for tea

Then after tea we are going to our house

Next year is where it will get interesting lol

I think we will be ok argument wise cos babybean will be here, I may invite my mother to our house for dinner and I will cook it then we can all visit OH's family for tea or something?

margaretclare

ailuro2 wrote: »

No arguments here - we're off to Orlando for Christmas.:D

We went to Malaga last year with DD who was 10yo then.

As long as we have the money I can see us being away in the Christmas holidays for a good few years to come.

Since I have been with my OH we have always had Christmas day for us, then gone with the flow on Boxing Day - I simply refuse to get caught up in the huge pressure to have a wonderful day just because it's Christmas day!

Overstuff a house, add a couple of people stuck in the kitchen doing all the work, add a case or two of beer or sherry to the rest of the house, plus a few kids to borrow brand new toys and have an accident with them.Don't forget to have re-runs blaring on the screen in the corner. Wait till they're all drunk and starving then feed them a week's worth of food in one sitting. Clear up after them.

We don't do it to ourselves the rest of the year, why would we choose to do it to celebrate the birth of Jesus? Especially when most people aren't believers anyway!

I'll send a postcard!

While you might think I'm a cynic we have had some wonderful Christmasses, just the three of us, doing whatever we like, going up for a nap if we fancy it. Have a really nice relaxing day playing games with DD, or out with her on roller skates/bike whatever Santa had brought her. Ham that can cook itself in an hour, add some fresh made by Tesco mash and some ready to roast potatoes, so it's all done in the same oven, in an hour.;) Wonderful!

I think what causes most arguments is the phrase "but we always..." and "xxxx will expect us to be there"

Exactly. Couldn't agree more.

KarrieBee

aaaarggggh! over the past 5 years we have 1. spent christmas at our own parents as only together for a year 2. spent christmas at own parents as my dad died that year and mum and I just wanted to be on our own in the family home - she has now moved away so was really glad to have a xmas with old friends and at the church i always went to as a kid( still thought OH should have offered to spend it with me as we lived together by this point) 3. spent it at my mums just 3 of us 4. went to Oh parents and took mum with us - a hellish year Mil was being treated for breast cancer, Fil and Sil in law no help whatsoever, spent whole time wishing i was at home 5. lovely xmas at mums new house with OH, my aunt, uncle cousin and mum's parents - felt like a real family xmas
so this year we are off to PIL with my mum. As an only child, after losing my dad it is inconceivable that i would ever be able to have xmas without my mum, even though she always says she wouldn't mind. I love xmas with my mum and like our traditions, PIL don't do it the 'right' way(beef not turkey, no presents til after lunch;))!
We're hoping that next year we'll have bought our own place and if people want to see us they can come to us!
and once any littlies arrive that will definitely be the case!:D

welshmoneylover

I'm spending it in my own house aidn my family and dogs :beer:

And no visitors :rotfl:

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

we've been disowned by OH's family so were having a nice xmas with mine hehe

red_devil

Princess_Jane wrote: »

I'm really starting to dislike Christmas.

Inlaws land for a month, massive rows last year as MIL insisted she wanted family Christmas for eight at ours - WE LIVE IN A TINY END TERRACE AND DON'T EVEN HAVE A DINNER TABLE! or plates for eight people!

I stuck to my guns and insisted we went out, which everyone enjoyed and we're repeating this year.

But a month of guests is making me feel sick already!

went out once for xmas dinner, never again, its not as nice, its dear and you dont get any leftovers for other meals.

red_devil

Atomised wrote: »

I am really surprised by the amount of people who spend christmas day apart from their partner:eek:!

yes me too i would hate to be without partner at Christmas. It wont happen thankfully as long as we are both alive.

SandC

WASHER wrote: »

No fall outs for my family either. My husband and I made it clear years ago that Christmas is for ourselves with our own children until they leave home and then they can decide if they want to spent Christmas with us or not, if not my husband and I will probably go away somewhere.

I have never had visitors on Christmas day and I have never visited anyone else on Christmas day.

Its lovely having the house to ourselves, and not having to do things just to please others. I highly recommend some one to one family time. I look forward to it.

Just like my family Xmases as a child, although we did live hundreds of miles from our relatives. I firmly believe that once you have children all previous arrangements are up for change.

minerva_windsong

Atomised wrote: »

I am really surprised by the amount of people who spend christmas day apart from their partner:eek:! The last time I had a partner at christmas I spent it at his mum's before leaving to go back to his place and drink/cuddle all evening , years before were a tad more traumatic as problems got in the way. I think you and your OH should disappear and spend at least one christmas alone.

I think alternating is best if both partners have families unless you have a massive house and can fit everyone in.

If I'm brutally honest I doubt that unless we have kids (highly unlikely for various reasons) I will ever spend Christmas with my boyfriend. This is largely because the plan is that I'll move to London to be with him, and his family are there, so convenience will end with Christmas being spent there. However as I mentioned above I know my mum would not be happy if I wasn't with the family on Christmas, although she wouldn't say anything about it, and I would feel terrible upsetting her. OH has similar problems due to divorced parents (although he and his mum and grandparents normally go to his sister's for Christmas and then his brother and SIL's on Boxing Day). Travelling on Boxing Day is only going to be an option when Xmas or BD is a weekend due to extra bank holiday as neither of us drive (so we'd have to get the train to/from Lancashire) and my dad would not dream of taking a day off work just to see us.

MrsE_2

WASHER wrote: »

No fall outs for my family either. My husband and I made it clear years ago that Christmas is for ourselves with our own children until they leave home and then they can decide if they want to spent Christmas with us or not, if not my husband and I will probably go away somewhere.

I have never had visitors on Christmas day and I have never visited anyone else on Christmas day.

Its lovely having the house to ourselves, and not having to do things just to please others. I highly recommend some one to one family time. I look forward to it.

I think your xmas sounds fab:D