Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

valos_mummy

Well, me and OH will have only been together for almost a year at that point, so I'll be going round his family on xmas eve, then coming back to my mom's for the evening so I'll be there xmas day (I live with mom).

We'll be going to my sister's for the second year, we used to have xmas at my house, but since my dad died last year us three (me, mom and brother) go to her's for dinner. There's her, her husband, three teen kids and two kids in their twenties, and this year there will be her mother (as we're step sisters btw) and my grandad. Add a energetic but friendly huge alsatian to the mix as well as our dog who will go with us, and it certainly is interesting!

My OH will be spared for this year, he will be with his family. Which is just as well, it'd be a case of "welcome to the nut-house" Although he's met my sister's lot, he knows; but he's from a large mad family too :rotfl:

Next year we'll start a rota of turns though.

BlondeHeadOn

I hadn't even thought of Christmas yet, until I saw this post. Oh [EMAIL="bu@@er"]bu@@er[/EMAIL]!

I have always, every year, spent the run up to Christmas in the throes of "got to do, don't want to do. [EMAIL="blo@@dy"]blo@@dy[/EMAIL] family got to go and see them, don't want to, how short a visit can I get away with? it's all a big pain, don't want to see them, bleurghh!"

BUT - my dad died earlier on this year, and he was the only member of my close family I had left (mother and brother died in the last 3 years too, how unlucky is that).

So I don't have to do the old guilt trip this year at all, for anyone....

And you know what?

I'm missing it already.

Poo.

nervousftb_3

OH and i have been together 4 years and still haven't spent a xmas day together! normally i see him briefly in the morning then we go to our respective parents, but this year i am going to a cottage in wales with my parents, aunt and uncle, cousin, from the 24th-26th, so won't even see OH on xmas day! cottage is v remote so no mobile signal either :sad:

he was meant to be coming with me, but lost his granddad this year so is staying with his mum and nan to keep them company. i'm hoping next year we might eventually get to spend the day together, but with both mum's laying on the guilt trips i don't know how we'll ever manage it

so we're going to open our presents on xmas eve together before i go away, and sometime in december we're going to have all the parents/grandparents/siblings around to ours for a mini party so that should keep everyone happy! it's our first xmas in our own home so ideally i would tell them all to stuff it and just stay here with OH, but i didn't really want to start WWIII.....:eek:

DeeDee74

i'm at home i never go any where over xmas.... so no arguement...
ex normally has kids some time over xmas last year was for all of nearly four hour's as he was going away with his gf..

valkirn

SandC wrote: »

valkirn do remember though that one of your parents has lost their parent too. It might not be easy but you have to make a new normality for you all and keeping traditions might even help. Otherwise it will be just as difficult next year.

Sandc its my dads dad and my dad has said he doesnt want to be at home for Christmas (i think he feels the same way i do) ive offered to stage Christmas at my house to try and keep up with traditions and my mum is still talking about doing her usual running buffet on boxing day.

But if the truth be known and if we could all afford it i think there would be a family flit to another country for the Christmas period

Stephb1986_2

nervousftb wrote: »

OH and i have been together 4 years and still haven't spent a xmas day together! normally i see him briefly in the morning then we go to our respective parents, but this year i am going to a cottage in wales with my parents, aunt and uncle, cousin, from the 24th-26th, so won't even see OH on xmas day! cottage is v remote so no mobile signal either :sad:

he was meant to be coming with me, but lost his granddad this year so is staying with his mum and nan to keep them company. i'm hoping next year we might eventually get to spend the day together, but with both mum's laying on the guilt trips i don't know how we'll ever manage it

so we're going to open our presents on xmas eve together before i go away, and sometime in december we're going to have all the parents/grandparents/siblings around to ours for a mini party so that should keep everyone happy! it's our first xmas in our own home so ideally i would tell them all to stuff it and just stay here with OH, but i didn't really want to start WWIII.....:eek:

Could his mum and nan not join you and make it one big family sort of like I have? Then you get to see your OH and he doesn't have to worry about his mum and nan?

Steph xx

before_hollywood

i'm going to spend it with my parents

red_devil

marshmallows wrote: »

I hate xmas arrangements, they do my head in and Mil has already started with her guilt trip in getting us to go to hers , if no one can make it to hers then her and Fil will go away as they do not want to spend xmas in their home alone - so go away then, simple!!!

whats wrong with spending xmas in your home alone. Its just another day it comes and goes and you can do as you please, wear what you like etc?:D

WASHER

No fall outs for my family either. My husband and I made it clear years ago that Christmas is for ourselves with our own children until they leave home and then they can decide if they want to spent Christmas with us or not, if not my husband and I will probably go away somewhere.

I have never had visitors on Christmas day and I have never visited anyone else on Christmas day.

Its lovely having the house to ourselves, and not having to do things just to please others. I highly recommend some one to one family time. I look forward to it.

red_devil

WASHER wrote: »

No fall outs for my family either. My husband and I made it clear years ago that Christmas is for ourselves with our own children until they leave home and then they can decide if they want to spent Christmas with us or not, if not my husband and I will probably go away somewhere.

I have never had visitors on Christmas day and I have never visited anyone else on Christmas day.

Its lovely having the house to ourselves, and not having to do things just to please others. I highly recommend some one to one family time. I look forward to it.

some people would say that was boring though no visitors etc. I guess its right for you though!