Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

GettingHitched

I am having Xmas with the OH and our little family (of the furred and scaled variety)

as we are trying for a baby, im hoping that our last one as young and care free can be a selfish one...

I have been collecting bits and pieces to make xmas special for all of us (dogs have some beautiful beds that I bought reduced) and I have quite a few bits for him too....really cant wait

Only bummer is, Im working Xmas eve and Boxing Day

red_devil

for some years now its just been dp and myself. Everyone else is either too far away and they cant be bothered to travel or we arent speaking lol.

I have had get togethers in the past and some of them were disasters. The best xmas I have had have when it has been just dh and I. We look forward to it as dh is self employed and its a rare few days off to chill out.

ab7167

Well, we have OH dad's 60th birthday on Christmas Day (in Buckinghamshire), my dad's 60th birthday on 29th December (South Yorkshire), my mum (separated from my dad) wanting to see us at New Year (North Yorkshire) and my entire American family (6 in total, including 2 children I have not met yet) coming over for 2 weeks. They are renting a very large house so everyone can come and see them and stay so they don't have to impose on any one person with such a large group or have anyone incurring hotel bills. Which is really considerate of them, I think, but the house they have rented is east of Norwich!

Oh, and I will be about 33 weeks pregnant with child no. 2 and have a 2 year old to deal with as well.

Am going to have to sit down with a calendar and work it all out, I think.

Although I did say all this to Mum the other day, and she offered to come to us (West Oxfordshire) for New Year so we don't have to travel up to Yorkshire, and Dad is possibly planning to combine his 60th with seeing the Yanks (his side of the family), so it may not be too bad i.e. we will have to get to Norfolk, but can miss out on the drive to Yorkshire.

There are a couple of my sisters to throw into the mix (London and North Yorks) and OH's brother who is over from Hong Kong for a week.

Gotta love those families! And I do love them all, we both get on very well with both our families, but it's just the running around while pregnant thing that is going to get to me....

minerva_windsong

We're going to my sister's for the second time in four years (first year was because other sister wouldn't be home for Christmas so my mum wanted a change of scene so as not to get upset, this year is because now my nephew's older he'll have more and bigger toys and transporting them and him from the Midlands to Lancashire and back to the Midlands in two days would be nightmarish), but bizarrely it is my dad who has the grump on rather than any of the children. I think it's because he's concerned about missing out on the traditional big Boxing Day party at my nanna's (his mum), mainly because it's one of very few times in the year that all his side of the family see each other.

emlou2009

always a nightmare for us - the only family we live near is my nan, who lives alone and is in her 80's, so naturally i always have to spend xmas with her or she would be on her own! she also likes to spend it in her own home, surrounded by familiar people, and this year OH has decided that he wants to spend xmas in his own home and wants to invite his parents round too - that my nan hasnt met! oh and our oven is only just big enough for a small chicken let alone a turkey! its my sons first xmas as well so everyone wants in!! argh!!

babyhead

Oh xmas celebrations discussions....no fall outs in our house. Everyone around is though :rotfl:

We always go to OHs parents for brekkie on xmas day and to open pressies with kids. We have done this a few years (even before we had DS) and it is really nice. DS will get to see his cousins. We are then coming back to ours to have dinner and spend rest of day with DS.

My brother and SIL always go to SILs family on xmas day although this year my bro has said he isn't going as he has to drive. SIL is currently refusing to stay at home so my bro will probably be on his own :eek: My parents have invited him to theirs and he doesnt want to, my mum said they would go to him and she would cook etc and he still said no. I think he is a bit stubborn :rotfl: My parents are going to pop in to ours to see DS so i suspect they will go and see him too! We havent had xmas with my bro for years...in fact never with SIL which is probably my brothers point!!!! :rolleyes:

My other SIL has the kids/seperated from dad issue. As they share custody the days xmas falls on would be spent with the parent whose day it is normally IYSWIM. The last fews years, xmas has fallen on SILs days but she let them go to dinner on xmas day and was more than amicable. This year it falls on the dads days and he is being awkward so we might only see them xmas eve and am :mad: SIL is bit annoyed as was hoping for a few hours here and there but hey ho.

BeenieCat

OMG i barely want to even think about this, it has already started for me!!

I used to go to my mothers house, but once sister got with someone she spent it with him and just visited at lunch.

Then they split and she had a baby with someone else who then left - so she had the bigger house and the younger baby(me & mother don't have a dining room at our houses).

So it's sort of been assumed that we'll all go to sisters house.

HOWEVER, mother & sister have big time fallen out, and it doesn't look like they'll reconcile anytime soon.

My OH has done one and is now the ex :rolleyes:

My baby - due Dec 12th... I've got sister assuming i'm going to hers, i've got mother putting the sob story on "well i'm going to be on my own then aren't i?"
Then mother says she'll come to MY house and i should stay home and she'll cook. Sister won't come to mine as her house is bigger & she has 2 kids.

:rolleyes::rolleyes: Would love to know how i'm meant to handle this one!! I've said i might be in hospital after all this but that leaves my DS!! :eek:

glitterycloud

Im not sure what we will be doing this year as we have emigrated. Last few years we spent it with my mum and family but now we are living away we will either go to OH's family or stay at home and enjoy it with the neighbours. We will have our first baby by then too so staying at home and chilling out with neighbours seems the best thing.
It will be a barbeque christmas for us this year, no cold weather but im sure the mulled wine will come out!!

valkirn

Im not too bothered as to what happens at christmas this year, i know we will be going out for it though.. but it will be my first christmas with out my grandad and i dont think im ready to go to my parents and face him not being there.

My oh has just got back in touch with his mum too so im even contemplating going to her for christmas (which my mum wont be too happy about) but its just going to be hard enough just getting through the day

3onitsway

Aw Beenie! Bl00dy families eh!

Do as i'm doing this year.....we are not leaving the house. If anyone wants to see us they know where we live, but they can b00ger off before dinner time!

I'm fed up of years of spending christmas travelling round, with 2 children in tow trying to keep everyone happy. This year, there's 3 children so we're staying put.

Mum normally starts in August :eek: with the who's coming for dinner conversations - she was late this year, she only mentioned it last weekend.
Apparently its her turn to have us for dinner - so I told her my new plans! She said Step-dad will be upset not having us there , this is the same step dad who lives 5 minutes away, but i've seen twice this year, both times for about 3 minutes, and not getting a civil word out of the miserable B on either occasion! But come Christmas, he expects us all to play happy families!

Who mentioned going abroad for christmas eariler......sounds like a brilliant idea!