Has anyone had any Where are you spending Christmas arguments yet?

WASHER

red_devil wrote: »

some people would say that was boring though no visitors etc. I guess its right for you though!

Absolutely not boring, we have quality time with the children, playing all sorts of games etc, Christmas is for children, not for adults visiting each other houses and having too many drinks and falling asleep. I'm not saying its for everyone, we as a family enjoy our Christmas', its down to personal choice.

red_devil

Christmas is for children,

totally disagree xmas is for everyone lots of people enjoy christmas.

red_devil

we as a family enjoy our Christmas', its down to personal choice.[/QUOTE]

yes i agree.

Odette

With my XBF he would go his way and I mine, which was fine, I love Xmas (mostly presents! What, Im an only child!) but im an atheist and I live with my family so doesnt hold any special pull for me.

This time new OH is coming to my house with my family (foster brothers and sisters, mum dad and the extended family on boxing day - all mental in their own way:rolleyes:) and Im ever so slightly worried. Also working 6 hours on xmas day proper so will have to leave him alone with them for a while!:eek:

LouBlue

One good thing about having such a small family, me and my 2 sisters, niece and nephews, OHs, we all live in the same town...there are never any arguments, all round my sister's.

Freddie_Snowbits

Yep, and we aint going to the wicked witch in the North. Sorted.

If you're reading this Freda, your tea is in the cat!

ethelsmum

No arguments here - neither my parents or the inlaws are that bothered about spending xmas with us - we get no invites :rolleyes:.
I will cook xmas lunch and invite my grandparents round. Then when they go home we just chill, eat chocs and play games - love it.
My mum normally drops by in the morning to see the kids, then my dad calls in (they're seperated). My brother & sil call in usually aswell for 1/2 hour or so.
I do like being in our own home on xmas day so the kids can play with what they want and make a huge mess.

MadMac_2

I have tentatively raised it with my OH after seeing this thread earlier and guess what? He got all defensive with me and walked away - so that will be another argument brewing about yet another Happy Christmas here then!

Ah, the fun of the season. :rotfl:

Princess_Jane

I'm really starting to dislike Christmas.

Inlaws land for a month, massive rows last year as MIL insisted she wanted family Christmas for eight at ours - WE LIVE IN A TINY END TERRACE AND DON'T EVEN HAVE A DINNER TABLE! or plates for eight people!

I stuck to my guns and insisted we went out, which everyone enjoyed and we're repeating this year.

But a month of guests is making me feel sick already!

margaretclare

Is it really worth it.....?

Think about it. It's mid-October. Christmas is 2 months away. When it comes, it's one day. One day out of 365. For many people it hasn't got the religious meaning that it used to have - going to Midnight Mass, walking back with frost crunching under your shoes.

I haven't read all the thread in detail, but it seems that for many people they cannot do what's expected of them. Too many expectations, impossible to fulfil them all, impossible to please everyone, if you please one set of people then you upset others.

I tend to agree with this:

I hate xmas arrangements, they do my head in and Mil has already started with her guilt trip in getting us to go to hers , if no one can make it to hers then her and Fil will go away as they do not want to spend xmas in their home alone - so go away then, simple!!!

But they won't BE alone, will they, if there are the two of them! How will they be 'alone'? Can't they enjoy each other's company?

What would be nice would be to go away somewhere snowy, like the Tyrol, the Bavarian Alps, that might feel 'Christmassy'.

DH and I don't do a thing. Not a thing! Except that I send Christmas cards, mostly to people to whom I've sent cards every year for ages. But that is all. We don't do anything else. A few years ago we invited someone to come for Christmas lunch with us because she 'didn't get invited by her son and daughter'. Not long into the visit, and we realised just WHY she didn't get invited anywhere else!! And after her little dog peed on the carpet - never again!