I just do not know what to do

salesaddict

HI Tina,

I didn't realise you were back on here. I have often thought of you and hoped that you were happy. How can you even love him any more? Why don't you go and talk to that woman and try and get at the truth. You are worth so much more than this. I bet she is not a psycho at all. I really don't have an respect for your husband at all. I am sure I have said all those months ago now but my wish for you is that you find someone who truly deserves you.

I hope you are not too hurt by my frank comments.
I hope you will keep posting so that you get the support you need.

Take care.

mommame

pammie39 wrote: »

hi tina.......hi all

i have read all the posts and replys since the first one. i do aggree with the other posters saying that he is having his cake and eating it!!!!!

everyone says to get him to change his number, can YOU get his phone???? if so, you could always go into call barring and bar her number, then cancel her number of his phone. this way she cant contact him via phone or him-her.

hope this helps alittle
good luck, you are so strong. xxxxx

I was going to suggest getting the phone and drop it in to the nearest river oops!!!,no point getting a new sim if the number is saved in the phone,also have a good read of the old messages first to really find out what your prince charming has been telling the other mug in this triangle

Half of me is wondering if you are one of these women who likes getting treated like s**t by their partner/hubby,in fact they seem to demand it and actually enable it.
Not going to give any more advice because you wont take it anyway.

Lunar_Eclipse

tinatony1 wrote: »

i dont want to "win", this is not a game or a competition.

i want him to be happy and i want to be happy, the fact that i want us to be happy together is my problem.

i do see your point and if things were the other way arround i would probably tell you exactly the same thing but when you are in the situation it is so damn herd to get an objective perspective.

i know i am being weak, trust me i am fully aware of it and also a little ashamed but i also know that i am a strong (ish), fairly confident, attractive woman and i will fight tooth and nail for anything i treasure or see as important.

we are all wired in different ways, this is me

I disagree. You do want to win. You want to win him back, but aren't strong enough to do what it takes for fear of losing him forever. I think that basically sums up the choice you have to make, unless you are happy for the relationship to turn into an open one where you are allowed multiple partners, or have faith that he will see the light eventually.

Unfortunately he is still calling all the shots. So I agree that you are being incredibly weak and allowing him to treat you like a doormat. I don't think it has anything to do with love either; I think it is purely because you are afraid of life without him. As long as you are happy with this new uncertain life with him, I suppose it doesn't matter, but I suspect you will feel mentally exhausted at the state of your relationship at some point in the future.

As much as it would kill me to separate from my husband, living with a cheating, dishonest and uncommitted partner who clearly has very little respect for me would hurt me more.

We are all wired differently, but I still fail to understand why you want to be with this person. Deep down, do you honestly, hand on heart think that this is what you really want and deserve?

I really feel for you Tina and hope you don't take offence at my direct response to your latest update. I keep hoping some comment will hit home at some point. I think it took me by surprise, since you were doing so well and I see him moving back in with you as a massive step backwards. But I do wish you well and hope you find the happiness you are hoping for.

Mely

Tina...how are things going? Any updates for us please? x

newbeginning_2

Hope everything's ok Tina

worriedsik

Tina
I wasnt going to post on your thread again but iam enraged at reading your latest post , i have only just stumbled on the thread & cannot believe what iam reading
First off tina ...He sounds like the phsyco not the other woman & this....
( she doesnt know that he is living with me again if she found out that would be it she would end it i believe, because she wants him to have nothing to do with me, thinks he has already cut all ties, so should i anonymously let her know i want to but am scared.)
That is how disrespectful to you he is being, ask yourself WHY he hasn't told her that he is back with his loving wife tina ?
He is stealing precious time out off your life tina....plz take action now & lets stop dragging this out any longer

MyRubyRed

Tina, good to hear see you posting again but sad that things aren't as they should be. I totally agree with worriedsik. This guy does not deserve any sympathy or support from you whatsoever. You have to take some action my love.

tinatony1

well here i am again everyone

i had hoped to be able to come on here and prove you all wrong in your opinions of my H, however you were all right he is a !!!!!!! of the highest order and has done it to me again.

he has !!!!ed me over good and proper again and i cant believe it.

he is obviously completely unable to tell the truth and has left me in the lurch again.

:mad::mad::mad:

honeyD

Oh dear I tend to always look for this thread to see if there is an update, and Im sad to hear this one isnt a happy one.
Was it the same woman Tina? Or someone else?
Im sorry he's done this to you again, as if once wasnt bad enough!

tinatony1

its the same !!!!! as before.

i am broken now but if he thinks he can forsake me again then he has another think coming