I just do not know what to do

MyRubyRed

Tina
I am so glad you have posted. I hope it all works out. Either way you know you have support here

Mutter_2

Thankyou for the update Tina, hope all goes well for you.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Hello Tina

I, like everyone else on here, is so relieved that you have posted again & I'm glad to read that things appear to be moving in the direction that you want them to.

I think you have been very wise & brave in holding out for your relationship - I doubt I could have done the same & I'd probably have rushed along with "Get Out!" scenario. That would always have left me feeling "What if we'd tried harder?", which would eat away at me. I hope it does all work out for you, & that he realises what an amazing woman you are for acting the way you have - it it doesn't then at the very least you will know that you did everything you could.

I wish you well for the future, & hope that he can become the partner that you deserve. :wave:

tinatony1

Hi All
Hope everyone is well and keeping warm.

not too much to report really just wanted to say hi , H is still here with me but i am not sure if that is just in body sometimes ?

most of the time we are getting on really well, having fun etc but sometimes i know he is not really there, !!!!! face is still contacting him and even though he tells me i know that she is not completely out of his head, i so desperately want to prove that this can work, will work, that i sometimes think that i have lost my mind, especially when i think back.

i suppose what i am saying is that he still hasnt got her out of his system even though she is somewhat of a psycho, trust me there is something deranged about her, and he isnt 100% working on us, maybe that will come i so want it too i just feel that a majority of the time i am waiting for the bomb to drop, is this normal in a situation like this.

thanks again for your time if you read this x tina

honeyD

Why on earth hasnt he changed his number yet? :eek:

Bogof_Babe

Tina I'd be inclined to boot him out, back to her, just to let him finish off making his mind up. Sure as heck he will be knocking on your door begging to be let back in, because if she is as psycho as that then he won't stick it for ten minutes.

He is still having the luxury of holding all the cards, and it's time he was made to realise that he is either 100% with you, or he can forget it.

Michelin

Hi Tina, good to see you posting again.

He is still with you and that is a good thing but perhaps you both need to work on why the relationship broke down and sort that out. It is very easy to just get back together and before long, things are the same again. Have you talked about the issues and what happened? I think you both need to do that otherwise it will feel like it is a the moment - as if things aren't really sorted if you know what I mean.

He may not have got her out of his system like you say but you can both work at this and prove to each other that this relationship is what you both want.

He should also change his number and be very clear to her that he is back with you.

Keep working on it Tina xx

Mely

Hi Tina...thanks for the update, ive been wondering how you are doing!
I was dissapointed that your husband is still in touch with HER though, and what has she done to make you say she is a psycho?
You are such a strong person,perhaps you need to hold some of the cards rather than letting your hubby have them all?

Pollycat

Hi Tina
Glad to hear from you again but sorry that things aren't as sorted as you (and us) would have hoped by now.

Maybe he can't get her out of his system because the silly mare keeps contacting him.
As others have asked, why hasn't he changed his number so she CAN'T keep in touch?

Have you and he discussed what he really thinks about you and about her?
Has he actually said in so many words that he's not got her out of his system?
Or are you just surmising what he thinks?

If it's the latter answer, I think you really need to talk to each other.

tinatony1

i just typed a long detailed reply to you all but i got logged out so it lost it, my day is really cr** so far.

I have tried to talk to him but he really doesnt like to open up, he has told me that he still has feelings for her and for me and cant decide.

she is a psycho because one minute she is saying she wants him back the next she doesnt because he hurt her so much, well come and live my life for a while !!!!! then you will know what pain really is like (sorry that turned into a rant)

she is still seeing her other married man, i have found this out to be a fact but he wont believe me when i tell him.

she got off her face a few weeks ago on drink and gods knows what else while her kids were still in the house (the kids texted H as they were scared)

My friend tell me i am not being a mug just extremelly loyal, i am not sure if i believe that though, i dont know why i am being such an idiot apart from the fact that i still love him so much.

our 2 friends that do know have both told him he is the biggest pratt in the world and even one of his sisters who he had confided in ripped into him last night.

the thing is i hate to see him going through this (i know i should think about me and not him like that but i cant) he is genuinely struggling with what is going on but all i keep thinking is that he shouldnt be, which doesnt help.

i know many of you will say that i am still stuck in the same place and that is partly true but you all know why

she doesnt know that he is living with me again if she found out that would be it she would end it i believe, because she wants him to have nothing to do with me, thinks he has already cut all ties, so should i anonymously let her know i want to but am scared.