I just do not know what to do

Bogof_Babe

Great to see you back Tina, and it does sound like you are making good progress.

The ball is well and truly in your court now, you hold all the aces, (and any other cliches that might apply lol).

I think you have handled this extremely maturely and sensibly every step of the way, and you truly deserve the happy ending that I think is now in sight. Keep strong, and try not to let any bitterness spoil your future happiness. He made a huge mistake. He is not the first and won't be the last.

newbeginning_2

Hi Tina,
Thanks for letting us know how things are for you.

I think I remember you saying he works with the other woman, Is that still the case?

tinatony1

she still works at the same place as him, all be it in a different section and for a different company, he has told me that he doesnt see her during the day and she does very different hours to him, but apparently she has applied for another job ? i dont know how true this is but this is what she said to him in one of the texts he showed me.

we have already been talking about redecorating and decluttering the house for a fresh start, i am still a little scared to hope for the best though just trying to take it as it comes

newbeginning_2

Can't he change his phone number? If she doesn't have it, she cant be txtin and ringing him. If you both want this then he needs to cut contact with her completely.

Pollycat

Hi Tina
thanks for coming back to update us.
I think your news is positive.

Of course things are likely to be a bit shaky, you've been let down and your OH has made a big decision to choose to try again with you.

The only thing that sounds a bit 'off' is the fact that this other woman is texting him and he sometimes replies.
Is he showing you all the texts from her and his back?
I think he needs to do this to demonstrate his commitment to you.
I hope she soon gets the message that she's not wanted and leaves you both alone to rebuild your lives.

Well done for fighting for your man - it took a lot of courage to stick it out, especially when you were getting a lot of advice to do the opposite and kick him into touch.

I hope things work out for you.

tinatony1

as far as i know he is showing me everything, we have still yet to have the 'definitive' talk about where we are really going and how we are going to make it work but so far the signs are positive. i think?

in some ways i think the hardest part is yet to come

Michelin

Tina, I'm very happy for you that he made the decision to come home - a nice start to the New Year. You are also being sensible in realising that there is still work to be done in your relationship and you have to resolve those issues that caused all this in the first place. I'm sure you can both do this though Tina and I wish you all the luck in the world.

Please let us know how things are going - if you want to that is!!

Mely

Hi Tina...im so relieved that you are ok! And also that you are working on things with your hubby.
Is there anyway that he could change his mobile number? Why is he answering her texts?

msb5262

Hi Tina,

Glad to hear you are ok and that things are moving in the direction you wanted.

I was listening to Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4 last week and there was a really interesting piece about what happens in marriages after an affair. You might look on the Radio 4 website and see if you can get it on Listen Again - I think you may find it very helpful and positive if you are aiming to rebuild your relationship.

Best wishes

MsB

salesaddict

Hi Tina,

I am so pleased to hear any news at all of you again. I really hope things work out for you, however that maybe.

Please be assured you will always have any support from me that you need.

xx