I just do not know what to do

jack*tigger

Morglin wrote: »

Why would you want someone who obviously neither loves or respects you?

Move on and find someone who loves you totally.

We all get over bad things, and things often happen for a reason.

Lin

She wants to be with him 'cos she loves him. And love isn't one of those things that you can turn on and off. You can't control who you love or why you love them. You just do.

If there is a chance for Tina and her OH to get back together then they should take it if they are both prepared to work at the relationship. Taking back an errant OH doesn't mean that you are weak as long as you don't let them walk all over your feelings.

I hope you can find a happy time after the dust settles Tina, either with or without your OH.

maggied_2

Hi Tina, how are you doing today?
I know it's getting close to D Day....has anything more happened this week.

I hope you're keeping it together, I'm thinking of you....let us know.
C xxx

tinatony1

Hi Maggied

yes it is getting very close now, i am keeping it together for the most part, have had a couple of wobbles this week.

H seems to be getting more stressed by the day, he is also argueing with the b***H, she seems to be giving him more grief than i have. i dont know why he is telling me this?

I have asked him if he has already made his mind up and he said no??????

he is still giving me mixed messages so i really dont know what he is going to do.

i think i have reached the end in some ways, i think i have reached breaking point, whatever he does can be no worse than what i have already been through. Can it ??????

i will let you know what happens.

Ruby_Moon

tinatony1 wrote: »

Thanks alot

that has made me feel so much better about this whole situation.

Not

Why would you want to feel "better" about a situation where someone is stamping all over your feelings and you let them?

Pollycat

Ruby_Moon wrote: »

Why would you want to feel "better" about a situation where someone is stamping all over your feelings and you let them?

Ruby
have you ever heard of irony? :rolleyes:

Tina gave you a big dose of it. :T

jo91

Tina
Just a thought, try to consider what you want to be the outcome tomorrow. As in, if he chooses to come back to you and work at your relationship, what do you need him to do in order for you to be able to move forward - eg do you need to work through it at relate, do you want him to change jobs etc etc. Just so that you can be prepared for what happens hun.
I can't/won't try to give you any more advice than has already been posted here for you. You are very determined and know your own mind and your own relationship best. I bet you make a bl@@dy good friend.
Take care and fingers x-d for you

tinatony1

thanks jo91

i have been going through in my head what i want to say to him so many times, i think i will let him have his say first and go from there. i just hope that he is willing to be completely honest with me as that is what is needed at this point.

xx

Sexy_Legs

tinatony1 wrote: »

thanks jo91

i have been going through in my head what i want to say to him so many times, i think i will let him have his say first and go from there. i just hope that he is willing to be completely honest with me as that is what is needed at this point.

xx

Tina

Just remember you have a lot of support on here and we will all be thinking of you, be strong and I hope you get the outcome that you want.

((hugs))

tinatony1

thanks Sexylegs

I was thinking last night that all my life i have been the giver, everybody has always wanted stuff from me and i have obliged but never seem to get the same consideration back, i am not saying that everybody should be totally selfish just that i am sick of being taken for granted.

lightbulb moment perhaps i dont know, it was just that after a message from my dad asking me to help him sort out his car insurance that i realised he didnt even ask how i was just that he needed me to help him.

without you guys it would have been so much harder to get through this

so thank you all so very much ((( huge hugs))) to everyone
xxxx

Mischa

It seems as though you do not trust him anyway, otherwise why would you go through his phone rather than ask him straight out? I agree with zippychick in that just because it looks dodgy, doesn't actually mean that anything has happened. Ok, so there were lots of kisses. Now all I can say on that is I have a lot of male friends and sometimes I send more kisses in a text to them then I do my husband! It's just something I do without thinking, especially if we have been talking about some troubles they may have been having in their life or we have planned a get together and when I get excited i put extra kisses, but I don't know how their partners react, because I wouldn't expect anyone to got through another's phone to check, but I agree that it looks really bad and would knock you for six, if that was my husband I would be concerned, but I would ask him straight out. of course, he could lie to you, but when you know someone that well, you now if they are lying, so just ask and see how you feel. It baffles me that if he was innocent he would need time to think, think about what? And the first time what, exactly, has happened? What does he mean? Tinatony1, we are all hear for you. Never think that you don't have anyone to talk to because we are all hear to listen and help and support you. How do you feel? Why has the trust gone? Just be honest with yourself, not matter what happens, the truth is all you need because with the truth, you can move forward. Best wishes and a BIG HUG! :-) x x x