don't know what to do

RAS

Can you ring your GP and speak to him and warn him what may be about to happen.

RAS

Alternatively call the police and they will visit him.

sandhawk2701

just an update, SIL text me back to say that she had spoken to him and he sounded very down and was unsure as to if he would or not. MIL will ring him this evening but she only went once to see him in hospital and hasn't even been to his new place.

But calling the police would that not be wasting their time??? (sorry its the way my parents bought me up ,dont trouble people unless its really, really nessasary)

Money_maker

Right, SIL knows, MIL knows, wipe your hands and walk away.

Sounds tough but the professionals should be dealing with him, not you. You could be dancing to his tune for a long time to come if you choose to run around him.

Money_maker

RAS wrote: »

Can you ring your GP and speak to him and warn him what may be about to happen.

Although this sounds like a good suggestion as well.

RAS

This is a post from this forum earlier in the week

zztopgirl wrote: »

Sorry I didnt want to hijack frankiegirls's thread anymore than I have done already, but I tried to take an overdose on tuesday and husband called police, I was assessed and sent home despite saying I felt a danger to myself, went home tried to take another overdose and police stayed with me til I calmed down and cleaned the place up.

Its taken me a huge amount of guts to post this, and am expecting to get called allsorts for wasting police time and being an attention seeker.

So yes they will help out if someone is threatening suicide. Think of all those news items about people being talked off bridges by police and all the medals they earn.

I remember travelling home one time and the train coming to a halt. A lad had decided to jump in front of a train and the police had rung the train company to close the line. We got a running comentary and eventually the policeman persuaded the lad that it was going to be a long time before any trains came under the bridge, seeing as how they were all cancelled.

They got him off the bridge and assessed by health care workers.

sandhawk2701

I rang the Drs and spoke to him I got told that he could only note what I had told him it was upto OH to get in contact.

Text SIL about contcting the police to go and see him but not heard anything back.

I haven't heard from OH since 2.20 this afternoon.

Savvy_Sue

sandhawk2701 wrote: »

he is putting me in touch with an organisation that will help me deal with the situation, and a support group for the children to help talk throught their dads drinking problems.

I do encourage you to look into this, you can only do so much to help your children, there are some things they have to work through for themselves. I am glad the children's school know there are problems, I was going to suggest finding out who the children could speak to there if they felt they needed to.

cakeordeath_2

okay, well you know that your SIL has spoken to him since he last contacted you and he hadn't done anything but was feeling down. You don't need to do anything now...just sit tight and get on with sorting yourself out and your kids.

If he does contact you again with threats to harm himself, that would be when (if it was me) I'd bring the police in, just phone them up tell them what he's threatening to do and tell them what he has done to himself previously and where you think he is. It's up to them then, you will NOT be told off for wasting anyone's time...they are professionals that have dealt with these types of situations in their job, they take an uninvolved, outside view and put wheels into motion.

sooner or later he's going to have to wake up and smell the coffee, the 'I'm so sorry, I know I've ruined everything' isn't an exceptance of what he's done, it's what he thinks you want him to say so that he can come home and everything can go back to how it was....and it's not even done to try to trick you, it's an alcoholics reaction to getting the thing he craves. He really can't help it, but you really can't help him...he need professional help, when he works that out, he's got a chance.

Stay strong.

sandhawk2701

Thank you cakeordeath, I'm really struggling with the constant 'I'm sorry'. what you said makes so much sense

I am going to stay strong for the sake of my kids,