How to make friends?

CG77

Hi,

Just to say thanks for bringing this up and thanks for the idea of netmums. I posted on there last night after reading about it on here and have just had my first reply from a nearby mum in a similar situation-fingers crossed for some chats over coffee while the children play!!

Thanks again and good luck to you too Bargainhunter!

CG. x

welshmoneylover

Kandipandi wrote: »

I love this thread - however I’m in the camp of people that don’t want any friends.

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SNAP!

Me too, I find they get on my wick anyway as do my work mates! :rotfl:

Please also read my sig, that'll explain it all

Alizarin

I can totally emphasize with everyone on this topic, as I also find it really hard to meet people and make friends.

I'm 25, and all my close friends moved away to uni when they were 18 and just never came back to the area! I didn't go to uni so feel I missed out on 3 years of possible friend-making time. I've been at my current job for 5 years but everyone I work with is a lot older than me and I've never clicked with any of them. I've tried exercise classes but had the same experience as other people - everyone there seemed to know/talk to each other easily and I didn't want to interupt and seem rude.

I guess it doesn't help that I'm painfully shy and have hearing problems so I'm sure I come off as rude without meaning too because I can't hear people or simply don't have the foggiest idea what to say!
I have weird hobbies and no children so I think I can't meet people that way.

Anyway, sorry for the rant but it feels good to get this stuff off my chest. I'm in Wiltshire if anyone else lives nearby!

Stephb1986_2

I'm sort of in the same boat, I work from home with my mum we run a ironing service, I'm 23 we don't get to go out much and meet people as our job is reclusive the only people we get to see is the postman and our customers thats it.

All my friends from school all have familys now or are too busy to do something. Where as I tend to sit in during the week and at the weekends I go and see my OH. We have tried to make friends by starting up our own comping group but after the first meeting a few dropped out they never gave me a chance. It's like I have two heads or something, people say I'm dead nice and friendly and I have a good laugh I guess these people just didn't like me or something.

I live near wigan, I drive and I'm just looking for someone to chat to and have a coffee and some shopping

Steph xx

slates

After reading this thread, I now know realise I'm not alone.. I find it very hard to make conversation and be friendly, I tend to come across aloof and not interested and scared i'll say something stupid...Its like I have forgotten the art of conversation..

I've lived away from the town i was brought up in for the last 10 years and I haven't met anyone here I could call a genuine friend. I do have friends in my home town but I only see them a couple times a year as distance is a problem.
I feel that most people already have their network of friends and that they are not looking for further friendships.

I've been with my fella for nearly 4 years and he hardly has any friends that still live in the area, so even meeting girlfriends/wifes of his friends is a no go..and being childless the opportunities there have never arose.

Other than the occasionally work do and an evening out with my fella, I do miss having a natter over a glass of wine/cup of coffee and putting the world to right..

Any ideas will be welcomed.

hippychick1

slates wrote: »

After reading this thread, I now know realise I'm not alone.. I find it very hard to make conversation and be friendly, I tend to come across aloof and not interested and scared i'll say something stupid...Its like I have forgotten the art of conversation.

This is exactly how I feel!!! If I do meet people, I find it very difficult to make conversation, like I have forgotten how to do it!!

I have recently separated from my husband and have three young children. I have two close frineds who are fantastic, but to be honest, I don't really know anyone else at all. I feel very lonely at times

jpwhittle

divorcingjack wrote: »

ooohhh! Me too!

I was going to post this morning before work, but I've come back and it's another page already.

I'm in Scotland, so any other Scottish ladies (and gents of course!) who'd be interested in exchanging PM's/meeting up I'd love to hear from you.

I don't have any children (yet), late 20's and all my uni friends have moved away. I feel very much like all the people I know are friends/family of my OH and while they are lovely, none of them are people I would run to in an emergency. I'd love to have mates that I could have an independent night out/laugh/coffee with.

Looking forward to seeing how this thread goes

PS: deedee71 I checked out that meetup link - looks brill! The East lothian book club might be fun .. bellydancing and all. Thanks for letting me know about it.

im due to move to scotland in either november or january just waiting for our date, my husband is raf and we are moving to lossiemouthif thats anywere near you

Money_maker

slates wrote: »

After reading this thread, I now know realise I'm not alone.. I find it very hard to make conversation and be friendly, I tend to come across aloof and not interested.

You've absolutely hit the nail on the head - thats exactly it. Yet I work with the elderly and have no problem with chit chat - seems to be only my peer group I struggle with

shell_girl

Lots of peeps on here who've moved to be with their OHs! My OH and I recently moved for our jobs, which is a really positive thing but has left us both feeling a bit lonely. We still consider where we came from as 'home' as we've kept our house on there, but it can sometimes be a few weeks between home visits and there's only so much you can talk about when you're together every evening all evening!

We've no kids so that takes away that option for meeting other people of a similar age- we've even discussed evening classes! But I think it would be really good for us to have a few friends here- and not necessarily the same ones lol! Am 27 and in Cardiff area

PasturesNew

I can't even remember the last time I spoke out loud, or had a conversation with somebody ... speaking out loud must be when I phoned for a takeaway on Saturday night, conversation ... dunno, 6 weeks maybe.

Yeah, making friends is poo.