13yr old HELP!!!

shelene

Hi just wondered if you have tried contacting your school nurse, sometimes they run confidential drop in's for pupils and possibly be able to give you some advice - especially if you feel she is depressed - has she got a social circle, friends/facebook etc. She eating well etc Just trying to think of things that may result in her being very tired apart from her just being lazy.

One to one positive time sounds good, might be an idea to speak with her school to see how she is getting on - is she struggling etc.. are their peer mentors in school?

Sorry it sounds like you are having a hard time of it, but the used pads on the floor would certainly push me to the limit x

hope things improve for you

Ddraig

If she goez to school clean and comes home at 13 like that.Check there isnt any severe bullying going on.In the mean time it is a case of discipline.Get everything that is non essential in bin bags and leave her with her clothes ,bed and schol stuff.She sounds like a slob,and needs wakingup.Dont get me wrong,i really sympathise with you,but she has no self respect.My 7 year old would never be seen looking a mess,and thats all her own volition.

ailuro2

Kazmeister - that's a lovely bedroom for a boy of 17 - you've landed very lucky there!

MY DD has to tidy her bedroom every Saturday morning, I keep warning her if I see any more pairs of dirty knickers in the bottom of her wardrobe I'm giong to tie them in a string and hang them out the window - we live two doors from the school so everyone would see them!! I'd never do that to her, but she doesn't know that yet;)

This threat normally works for a while, I try to get her to change into her PJs downstairs and put her stuff in the vicinity of the washing machine!

She's not allowed to eat upstairs either - and we are a shoes off at the door family so no shoes would be in there either. It reeks a bit sometimes , hopefully because the door is kept closed to keep the cat out.

I was going through her schoolbag trying to get some weight out of it - it weighs a ton, and found something completely covered in mould - gave her the 'that can kill you' speech, but it goes in one ear and out the other mostly, she's 11 at the end of the month. We've never ever tidied up her room for her, though I will sometimes help her have a clearout. She has to tidy, but we clean it for her.