I'm so angry

Reggie_Rebel

reeree wrote: »

Just spoken to the head and explained everything, he said he had a long talk with dg last week and told him the door is always open,,

Buck passing by the head, his office is the last place a frightened fourteen year is going to go.

reeree wrote: »

ive read to him gs note, he said that is very worrying, told him about home schooling and he said if thats the way dd wants to go then its up to her but he would like to speak to her first,

There goes another buck being passed

reeree wrote: »

ive just phoned dd up at work told her what he said, and now she's wavering again, saying i cant see how home school will work, how will he get his education, how will he be able to do his gcses, on and on it went, I said you've got two choices you either trust me or you send him to school each day for him to become a punch bag for the other kids. I can understand her worries about his education but on the other hand he cant concentrate on his work anyway because of the bullies,

You need to get to her work and grab her by the hair, march her to the school and stay there until the Head gets his finger out.

This is serious, she's letting her boy and her mother down.

YOU are fantastic.

reeree

Ive made him a doctors appointment for tomorrow as the head thought it might be a good idea as he is so depressed about school, so Im hoping he might be able to help in some way, thanks for all the support guys you've all be great and given me such good advice I feel as if Im not on my own anymore

wept

reeree wrote: »

Ive made him a doctors appointment for tomorrow as the head thought it might be a good idea as he is so depressed about school, so Im hoping he might be able to help in some way, thanks for all the support guys you've all be great and given me such good advice I feel as if Im not on my own anymore

Ok the doctor appointment will fix what exactly???
Will that stop the bullying....nope
Will other kids be subjected to bullying....yep
Will the school continue to bury its head until someone goes too far...yep

So the Head Teacher has pushed this onto it being all your sons fault for being depressed and nothing to do with the real issue?

I am ex-school governor so have seen this before plus if you read my old post you will see I have seen the other side.

If the school continue to do nothing you need to threaten them with reporting them to Ofsted and the local inspector that puts the fear of christ into them!!!

Sorry Ree ree thats a load of Betty Swollox if you get my drift.

peachyprice

That's probably no bad thing Reeree, I'm sure the head is only suggesting it to imply that your GS is the problem, not the school. But getting your GP and getting it documented in his medical records that the only problem is that he's being bullied could come back and bite the head on the bum when you go to the Governors with your complaint.

tandraig

reeree I am sure you will understand when i say that reading your grandsons letter made me cry. hun, its in his mind already and to him his family are doing nothing. did you show your DD my PM? with his letter I would be worried and wouldnt let him set foot in that school again.
the suggestion about the school welfare officer was a very good one - mine was sympathetic but had no clout with the school - but we did avoid being prosecuted for truancy when I took DS2 out of that school as we explained why. he was only out of school for a couple of weeks as it didnt take long to get him into alternative school. is there no alternative school he could attend as your DD seems against home schooling? does she know whats involved in home schooling? she may think that DG would be lolling about all day and learning nothing - and it isnt like that or wasnt when i looked into it. his education would be monitored and he would have to demonstrate he was being educated (or rather you would) unless its changed radically over the last 10 years! the law states a child must be educated - it doesnt state it has to be at a school!.

cakeordeath_2

I really feel for you reeree, especially as you are not able to remove your dg from this awful situation. I took my 13 yr old ds out of school in June, the final straw was when a boy was caught removing a blade from a pencil sharpener and making plans with another to 'get' my son after school, I knew nothing until three quarters of the way through a meeting two days later where the school (and police) wanted my son to sign an agreement not to get on the bully's nerves, including not looking at him! My son was spending all of his breaktimes in a learning support class to keep him away from the bullies and was going to be escorted to his lessons...no mention of expelling the boy involved. So that was it, I pulled him out...to be honest, I don't care if my son never gets a GCSE to his name, he has one life and his piece of mind is worth a million GSCEs.
I understand that your daughter may be feeling overwhelmed with the responsibility of her sons education, even though you will take care of the homeschooling, she is STILL the one legally responsible. But I truely hope she will write that letter de-registering your dg, he doesn't even need to learn anything for months, the LEA are fully aware of deschooling and will back off and give you space to organise things. There is loads of support out there for home-eding families as you will already know.
Please PM me if you need to talk, or even get you daughter to PM me, I do understand her fears.

clairibel

cakeordeath wrote: »

I don't care if my son never gets a GCSE to his name, he has one life and his piece of mind is worth a million GSCEs.

This says it all, my heart goes out to you all who have this to deal with and this is a good thread to help others as well as reree in this situation.

backtomum

reeree wrote: »

no, he's got the same one would you believe and to get to the head we have to go through her but she always says she will sort it out and she does for one day then its back to more of the same so we never get to talk to him

Your daughter and grandson are so lucky having you. My child is going through something similar and has the same useless head of year as last year. I am now in the process of trying to get her into another school - before even more damage is done to her self-esteem. She cries every day and is losing her smile - you've got to get through to your daughter as this problem will not go away - it may go quiet for a while then start up again. I think it's best to have a fresh start - of course there is a possibility that the same thing happens again in a new school - god forbid that would happen though! I wish I had someone like you I would jump at the chance of home schooling

backtomum

reeree wrote: »

Ive made him a doctors appointment for tomorrow as the head thought it might be a good idea as he is so depressed about school, so Im hoping he might be able to help in some way, thanks for all the support guys you've all be great and given me such good advice I feel as if Im not on my own anymore

I hope you get on better at the doctors than I did. My daughter is now very depressed. When I went to see the doctor he almost implied that I was at fault as I was so stressed! Of course I'm bloody stressed! He did nothing. Her school weren't even bothered when I mentioned she was suffering from stress!

evenasus

I hope your daughter and grandson agree to home education if you can't get him into a different school.
Unfortunately, there are many heads of schools who let bullying carry on.

One of my grandsons was bullied at his primary school.
My daughter-in-law went to the school and saw the headmaster several times but he did nothing.
The mother of the bully actually worked at the school, this I think was one of the reasons the head wouldn't do anything about it.
Eventually the police were involved.

My daughter-in-law moved my grandson to another school where the headteacher was very good. Their anti-bullying system was very well run and my grandson was very happy there for the rest of his primary education.

Personally, I myself, would have gone to the local newspaper and named names.