I'm so angry

peachyprice

Reeree, you need to take this further now. It's got toally out of hand and higher authorities need to know how the school are (not) dealing with the bullies.

Thank goodness you found your GS's note and he knows you are there for support, but what about the next child that they start on now your GS is gone, the one that might be too afraid to tell his parents. The teachers in this school need to be held responsible for the little lives they are ruining, before they have blood on their hands.

Paparika

peachyprice wrote: »

Reeree, you need to take this further now. It's got toally out of hand and higher authorities need to know how the school are (not) dealing with the bullies.

Thank goodness you found your GS's note and he knows you are there for support, but what about the next child that they start on now your GS is gone, the one that might be too afraid to tell his parents. The teachers in this school need to be held responsible for the little lives they are ruining, before they have blood on their hands.

I quite agree, name and shame the teachers and school to the higher lvl.

reeree

peachyprice wrote: »

Reeree, you need to take this further now. It's got toally out of hand and higher authorities need to know how the school are (not) dealing with the bullies.

Thank goodness you found your GS's note and he knows you are there for support, but what about the next child that they start on now your GS is gone, the one that might be too afraid to tell his parents. The teachers in this school need to be held responsible for the little lives they are ruining, before they have blood on their hands.

You are absolutely right, Ive phoned the school up and spoken to the heads secetary she said hes in a meeting but ive told her why i wanted to speak to him and she said she would pass it on and get him to call back, when i do get to speak to him I will put that to him, its obvious they are not doing enough because why would it be getting worse instead of better, its progressed from simple name calling to violence, and like you say who are they going to pick on if dgs not there, this is and extract from there anti bullying policy,
Bullying is not a particular problem at this school but as in all schools it does happen and must be taken seriously,
yeh right

peachyprice

In a meeting ha, well I hope it's important.
He's probably too frightened to speak to you because he knows he's failing in his duty of care.

wept

Reeree you need to act and fast...sorry not trying to panic you but I had a girl in my class commit suicide over 30 years ago due to bullying so its a bit close to my heart.
Please do not waste anymore time with the school head - you need to go to the Head of Governors, LEA etc and show them that note.
The school can provide you with numbers via the school secretary - tell them what you are doing.
Explain what action has been taken so far and how many times you have approached them and no action taken by the Head or school staff.

Strength to you and your family and I hope you get it resolved quickly.

reeree

Just spoken to the head and explained everything, he said he had a long talk with dg last week and told him the door is always open, ive read to him gs note, he said that is very worrying, told him about home schooling and he said if thats the way dd wants to go then its up to her but he would like to speak to her first, ive just phoned dd up at work told her what he said, and now she's wavering again, saying i cant see how home school will work, how will he get his education, how will he be able to do his gcses, on and on it went, I said you've got two choices you either trust me or you send him to school each day for him to become a punch bag for the other kids. I can understand her worries about his education but on the other hand he cant concentrate on his work anyway because of the bullies,

bulchy

peachyprice wrote: »

Reeree, you need to take this further now. It's got toally out of hand and higher authorities need to know how the school are (not) dealing with the bullies.

Thank goodness you found your GS's note and he knows you are there for support, but what about the next child that they start on now your GS is gone, the one that might be too afraid to tell his parents. The teachers in this school need to be held responsible for the little lives they are ruining, before they have blood on their hands.

I agree with the above, havent posted so far, but been following this, sorry have no real advice to give, just wanted to say I hope for this poor lads sake you can get this sorted asap. All kids should feel safe and happy in school and its unbelievable how many people you talk to these days that have a sad story to tell about bullying, its getting worse now. Unfortunately some headteachers refuse to accept that this goes on in there schools, its time they changed there attitudes.
Good luck to you all, I hope this gets sorted soon, and hopefully you can bring the head to his senses before these thugs move on to there next poor victim.
Sue xx

wept

reeree wrote: »

Just spoken to the head and explained everything, he said he had a long talk with dg last week and told him the door is always open, ive read to him gs note, he said that is very worrying, told him about home schooling and he said if thats the way dd wants to go then its up to her but he would like to speak to her first, ive just phoned dd up at work told her what he said, and now she's wavering again, saying i cant see how home school will work, how will he get his education, how will he be able to do his gcses, on and on it went, I said you've got two choices you either trust me or you send him to school each day for him to become a punch bag for the other kids. I can understand her worries about his education but on the other hand he cant concentrate on his work anyway because of the bullies,

The door is always open is complete cop out that is throwing the onus on a frightened bullied young lad - he should be taking the lead not your DG.
He has already told him what is hapening so whats the point in the 'my door is always open' bit to be ignored and nothing done again .....you need to take this to the Governors.

Paparika

oh why oh why will a mother allow her son do be subjected to such violence.

when the time comes to do his GCSE's etc, he will do it in a room away from everyone else with a teacher if nescessary, he won't miss out etc, provisions are always made for children to do their exams,

reeree hun sorry to say but i would have concerns if your daughter is wavering again. show her the posts on here, tell her about the post of a school friend who commited suicide, be it 30 years ago, it still happens now.

Personally if i was a gm and my grandchild was suffering like this, i would stick my foot in and start kicking up a fuss, regardless if mum gets upset, something needs to be done before permanent damage happens, pyscological it already has, how can she live with herself

JimmyTheWig

Agree with the advice above.
I am normally against home schooling (my wife is in favour!) as I think children need to experience the social side of school life to prepare themselves for life in the real world.
But there's preparation and there's preparation! This young lad has been through way too much at this school. Get him out of there, as soon as possible.

Someone earlier in the thread mentioned that he could do his GCSEs at college two years later than his peers (i.e. start college at 16). This would be a much better idea than letting him stay where he is. This would mean that all the home schooling would have to do would be to keep him at the level he is now.
I don't know you or your teaching abilities and maybe your daughter is doubting you. Maybe if you went for this approach she might be happier that you were up to the task.
And if all he is doing academically is standing still, he could use the rest of his home-schooling time in learning some useful life skills - e.g. cookery, carpentry, money management, etc. I think this could be a really productive 2 years for him.