I'm so angry

Ivrytwr3

he brought his school photo home and he wasnt smiling on it, when i asked him why he wasnt smiling he said because i wanted them to know that im sad. Im at a loss as to what to do,

If this isn't SHOUTING to people that this child is hurting and needs immediate help i don't know what is!! That is one of the saddest things i've heard.

I don't know what else the poor lad can do to get the help he needs. What if this kids thinks enough is enough and starts to self harm, suicide attempts etc, what if he is actually successful?

If the parents are too blinkered to step in and sort this, contact the police, contact social service, i don't know, HELL! call ANYBODY who can help, but do something.

...................now, i was bullied as a kid, new to the area etc i'm fine now, but at the time, all those adults, all the people you should be able to trust and help you let me down. Nobody helped and i just looked forward to the day i left school.

Reggie_Rebel

reeree wrote: »

I i can do to make life easier i will do,

You need to sort your daughter out then because at the moment she is letting her son, your grandson, down bigtime

Ivrytwr3

Guys/girls, please don't attack the OP. I understand where she is coming from, she may be worried that if her daughter thinks she has overstepped the mark, she may stop her seeing her grandson. I've seen it done.

But something needs to happen, show the daughter this thread, make a telephone anonomously.......etc

Sneezy

Just wanted to say don't ever give up on trying to sort this out - he will always appreciate the support you are giving him....

Reggie_Rebel

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

Guys/girls, please don't attack the OP.

I'm not intending to attack the OP, apologies if it's coming across that way, as reeree is obviously desperate to help her grandson.

I do feel from the information we have that the boy's mother is not fulfilling her responsibilities and that reeree is probably the best placed person to help her daughetr understand this, hard as it may seem.

reeree

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

Guys/girls, please don't attack the OP. I understand where she is coming from, she may be worried that if her daughter thinks she has overstepped the mark, she may stop her seeing her grandson. I've seen it done.

But something needs to happen, show the daughter this thread, make a telephone anonomously.......etc

you are absolutely right i am afraid of overstepping the mark, however i am going to do everything in my power to help my dg, Ive had a text message to say that she's been in touch with the school and will tell me later what was said, so i will post what they had to say when she gets here later today

maryotuam

Good Luck ReeRee
The fact that your Grandson is aware of how much you care will mean a lot to him, whatever happens. I would show him this thread because at 14 he is old enough to appreciate that others feel for him too.

Nixxx

reeree wrote: »

theres nothing that i can think of except that he is really quiet and shy so i guess he,s easy to pick on, and all though i say it myself he is a really good looking boy (with beautiful skin but he dosent think so) and he's always smartly dressed.

I think the out of school clubs may really boost his confidence.
Do the kids call him names? If so what do they say or what do they tease him about?

reeree

Nixxx wrote: »

I think the out of school clubs may really boost his confidence.
Do the kids call him names? If so what do they say or what do they tease him about?

they call him fat even though he isnt and brace face because he has a brace all though its a back fitting one that they cant even see, I really cant see what they have against him, when my daughter went to see the bully i was reffering too he said to her all my mates take the p*** out of him

tandraig

I am sorry reeree but I think your daughter did the wrong thing going to see the bully in person - I can just imagine what your grandson went through at school today - along the lines of 'awww had to get mummy to fight your battles for you baby?' i think she may have made situation worse. have you contacted the charity kidscape? they gave me fantastic advice!!
can i suggest that your daughter makes you her sons guardian for school issues as she works during school hours - i think its called 'in locum parentis' this way the school has to deal with you!
oh and the bullies dont need a reason to pick on someone - its just because they can! and get away with it! this lad is fourteen you say? hmmm he is now of age to be prosecuted (unlike the three who bullied my son) .