I'm so angry

reeree

anguk wrote: »

I agree you should try all avenues at the school before removing him and I can understand that it's difficult if the mother is working full-time but I'm sorry if your child is being bullied like this you find the time to go to the school, surely she can take time off work, even if it means using some of her holiday entitlement?

If this was my child I would be fighting tooth and nail to get this sorted out, I couldn't bear the thought of my child dreading going to school every day because they're getting bullied, something like this can affect a child for the rest of their lives.

Im going to talk to her tonight about it when she comes from work somethings got to be done i think this is about the last straw now, we did go up the school before the school holidays to see the head of year and she was absolutely no use what so ever, shes more concerned about the shoes he's wearing, she just talks over you all the time and dosent like to admit there is a bullying problem

clairibel

I would just like to say you seem a very caring grandmother and if i was in your daughters position i would love the support your offering both with homeschooling and going to see the school, i know my nan would have never done anything like that, even though my mum would have loved the support she just isn't hands on.

I know you have to be careful of not treading on toes but bullying and assault is a serious matter and as we see in the media can have awful consequenses, but as long as he knows your willing to help and support, makes a big difference.

reeree

clairibel wrote: »

I would just like to say you seem a very caring grandmother and if i was in your daughters position i would love the support your offering both with homeschooling and going to see the school, i know my nan would have never done anything like that, even though my mum would have loved the support she just isn't hands on.

I know you have to be careful of not treading on toes but bullying and assault is a serious matter and as we see in the media can have awful consequenses, but as long as he knows your willing to help and support, makes a big difference.

thankyou so much for that its so kind of you to say so no-ones ever said that to me before not even my daughter

JimmyTheWig

reeree wrote: »

we did go up the school before the school holidays to see the head of year and she was absolutely no use what so ever

Presumably he'll have a different head of year now. If they're no use go to the head / deputy.

Bennifred

If the head of year has been no help then ask for a meeting with the headteacher. It is important to tell him/her that you have contacted the tutor/head of year and that you are frustrated with the lack of meaningful response. Ask to see the incident reports for the incidents so far (you probably won't be able to - but at least they'll know that you are aware that they should exist!). Make it very clear that they have a duty to keep your grandson safe, and that you are quite prepared to go to the police and Education Authority if they are not prepared to fulfil their duty. Ask what they are specifically going to do to address the problem. Ask for them to personally monitor the situation and to give you a regular update on the process (daily for a while, if necessary). Most of all - BE PERSISTANT!

reeree

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Presumably he'll have a different head of year now. If they're no use go to the head / deputy.

no, he's got the same one would you believe and to get to the head we have to go through her but she always says she will sort it out and she does for one day then its back to more of the same so we never get to talk to him

Bennifred

reeree wrote: »

no, he's got the same one would you believe and to get to the head we have to go through her but she always says she will sort it out and she does for one day then its back to more of the same so we never get to talk to him

Ring the school office and politely INSIST on a meeting with the Head. No more messing about.

tandraig

reeree - you have my heartfelt sympathy and my support. I had to remove my DS2 from his school some years ago as they totally refused to deal with the bullies (i was even told i ought to feel sorry for them as they came from deprived home). the last straw was when his nose was broken and his ribs bruised - he was eleven at the time and when i rang the school after being down A&E i was told it happened outside the school during dinner hour and it wasnt their responsibility and it was probably my sons fault as he should have kept away from them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I informed the police and immediately rang the education department to tell them i was removing son from THAT school. I then talked to the parents of a lad in our street who went to diff comprehensive school. they gave the school a good report and I made appointment to see the head. he listened then showed me a copy of the schools anti- bullying policy. didnt deny it could happen but reassured me on how it was dealt with. he had no problems at the school and they were great! but if i couldnt find a school i too was prepared to home educate him! go for it hun - show your daughter this post if you like to bring home what could happen if bullying is unchecked by school.

jammy26

If you do decide to home educate him it is vital that he spends social time with his peers, you state that he already has little /no friendships and to remove the social contact school gives him when he is already vulnerable due to the bullying could have major consequences in later life. It is really important that he joins in lot's of after school activities, it doesn't matter what they are as long as there are other children of his own age there.

tandraig

i can tell reeree from experience that if a child is bullied at school it isolates them as other children will shun them (they are afraid of becoming targets - so I cant really blame them) my son had one good friend who stuck by him and if it wasnt for his witness statement the police would have been unable to do anything. as it was the boys involved only got a caution! oh - and the head who i dealt with at that time - he retired early the next year on grounds of stress!!! wondered if he felt bullied by angry parents!