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I'm so angry
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reeree - you have my heartfelt sympathy and my support. I had to remove my DS2 from his school some years ago as they totally refused to deal with the bullies (i was even told i ought to feel sorry for them as they came from deprived home). the last straw was when his nose was broken and his ribs bruised - he was eleven at the time and when i rang the school after being down A&E i was told it happened outside the school during dinner hour and it wasnt their responsibility and it was probably my sons fault as he should have kept away from them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I informed the police and immediately rang the education department to tell them i was removing son from THAT school. I then talked to the parents of a lad in our street who went to diff comprehensive school. they gave the school a good report and I made appointment to see the head. he listened then showed me a copy of the schools anti- bullying policy. didnt deny it could happen but reassured me on how it was dealt with. he had no problems at the school and they were great! but if i couldnt find a school i too was prepared to home educate him! go for it hun - show your daughter this post if you like to bring home what could happen if bullying is unchecked by school.
what happened to your son is outrageous how would those idiot teachers have felt if it had been happening to there son/daughter, they would have been the first to kick up a fuss, there attitude is beyond comprehension and it makes me wonder about the other children at that school that are being bullied, God help them. i will show my daughter and hope that she takes notice, she went round the boys house last night after i had told her what had gone on, she was furious but kept calm, the boy totally denied it, in his words I thumped all the other kids but I didnt hit dg, Yeh right, just the fact that he admitted hitting other kids in the class and seems proud of itshows what a bully he is, what makes it worse he is only 14 but already nearly 6ft tall and extremley big built so all the other kids are scared of him, his mother said she believed him so no joy there,0 -
I've just read this and think that you have been given a alot of really good advice already.
I would just like to suggest perhaps involving him in some out of school activities now before/if you decide to pull him out of school. Perhaps he could join a karate/swimming/athletics club where he can make other friends out of school.
Does he have any idea why the kids are bullying him? I know some kids are just plain evil but perhaps if it was something silly (like a haircut/different shoes/bag etc) we could do something about it?"Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like its heaven on earth." - Mark Twain0 -
Ringing the school will do absolutely no good. Your daughter needs to be metaphorically kicking the door of the head's office off it's hingesIt's taken me years of experience to get this cynical0
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I've just read this and think that you have been given a alot of really good advice already.
I would just like to suggest perhaps involving him in some out of school activities now before/if you decide to pull him out of school. Perhaps he could join a karate/swimming/athletics club where he can make other friends out of school.
Does he have any idea why the kids are bullying him? I know some kids are just plain evil but perhaps if it was something silly (like a haircut/different shoes/bag etc) we could do something about it?
theres nothing that i can think of except that he is really quiet and shy so i guess he,s easy to pick on, and all though i say it myself he is a really good looking boy (with beautiful skin but he dosent think so) and he's always smartly dressed.0 -
Reggie_Rebel wrote: »Ringing the school will do absolutely no good. Your daughter needs to be metaphorically kicking the door of the head's office off it's hinges
I totally agree with you0 -
the trouble is she works from 7am till 5.30pm five days a week,
Sorry but therein lies the problem. Unfortunately your daughter does not have the time ( I am in no way saying she does not care because she will). If she and her OH are not in agreement to home schooling which personally I don't see is the ansewer. Find out if they are agreeable to you fighting your grandsons corner at school.
If they are, don't mess around with phone calls and the like. Head to the school first thing in the morning and demand to see the head teacher. Be prepared to wait if they are unavailable.
Right down notes before you go to make sure you get to say all you want. Listen to what their solution is and ask for some timescale.
If they fail to do anything on time. Go back to the school again first thing the following morning.
It is not as easy to fob someone off if they are there in person.
I have been given the run around by schools once to often to try and phone and being told I have to go through guidance and the rest. Yes they have possibly what they determine 'best practice' proceedures etc. but to get things done I have gone to who I think best to deal with a situation.
Another tip I would say if you are given the green light is to sit down with your grandson and discuss who the ringleaders are. Who is specifically doing the bullying. There might only be 2 or 3, however there will inevitabily be the hangers on who themselves are not bullies but can't help being around to watch what is happening. They should not be your targets as the problem then looses direction.
Don't agree to your garndson being moved...he is not the problem. Oh and make sure your grandson is aware of what you are doing and is happy with your involvement. He might be afaid of being further bullied but reassure him that without telling someone who can do something his problems are not going to go away fast.0 -
the trouble is she works from 7am till 5.30pm five days a week,
Rubbish excuse.
What's more important, her child or her work?
Your daughter and the lads dad need to grow a pair and start being proper parents, perhaps they need telling soIt's taken me years of experience to get this cynical0 -
Reggie_Rebel wrote: »Rubbish excuse.
What's more important, her child or her work?
Your daughter and the lads dad need to grow a pair and start being proper parents, perhaps they need telling so
In many ways I agree. But have seen this problem more than once. I am fortunate that although I do work, I only work part time and can make the time to fight my childrens case when need be. I had hoped to be a SAHM as I am rather old fashioned but this did not suit my nature. I needed something more stimulating than baby talk and was my motivation for going to work not money.
Some are not as fortunate and many employers don't look favourably on 'caring parents'.0 -
Reggie_Rebel wrote: »Rubbish excuse.
What's more important, her child or her work?
Your daughter and the lads dad need to grow a pair and start being proper parents, perhaps they need telling so
I wasnt using it as an excuse just trying to explain the situation to everyone the best way i know how, obviously dg is more imortant than work, however she's just gone back to work after having an accident and being off work for weeks so anything i can do to make life easier i will do, dg father isnt in his life and hasnt been for the last 13years but thats another story0 -
It depends on priorities.
I'd rather have a day unpaid than see my children not treated fairly.It's taken me years of experience to get this cynical0
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