I'm so angry

pipkin71

I'm sorry to hear all that your poor grandson has had to go through reeree

I think you have been a wonderful support to him, and hope that things will work out - either HE or a move to another school.

These are years your grandson wont ever get back, so I truly hope an end comes to all he has gone through and he can be a happy,confident young man again.

You are truly a grandma with wings

reeree

pipkin71 wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear all that your poor grandson has had to go through reeree

I think you have been a wonderful support to him, and hope that things will work out - either HE or a move to another school.

These are years your grandson wont ever get back, so I truly hope an end comes to all he has gone through and he can be a happy,confident young man again.

You are truly a grandma with wings

Hi pipkin, thankyou so much for those words, ive never forgotten the kindness and help you gave me earlier this year, I really hope an end is in sight now, ive taken him to the doctors this afternoon as suggested by the deputy head, i now think it might come back to bite him on the backside, after telling him about what was going on and showing him gs note he's told me to get him as faraway from that school as possible, hes also arranged for a physcologist to see him, he really related to dg as he had been bullied at school himself would you believe so really understood. He's told me to keep him off school at least till dg has been seen, so thats a temporary relief. I spoke to dd and she seemed very relieved when i told her, she phoned the school up and spoke to the heads secretary and told her why she was phoning and would the headmaster like a word, he said no, wonder why that was.

tandraig

DEAR GOD REEREE - sorry to shout but i am cheering here!!! a GP behind you all the way!!!!!!!!!
I just feel so relieved hun
the other school may not have a good reputation but its worth investigating - he may be happier there. If your daughter isnt satisfied there is another alternative. you mentioned a college nearby - the one i was a student at, and worked part time as student support, took over 14s who had been excluded at school. a word of warning - these kids were mostly ones who had been excluded for bullying or physically attacking staff. having said that, these kids turned out to be some of the most rewarding kids! I have seen them become responsible adults in their time at college - I dont remember even one of about twenty odd causing any trouble. why? the staff knew how to deal with them and the kids who were there because of other probs (missing school through illness etc) were never picked on. actually that group stuck together and stuck up for each other! it was a joy to watch!
so there are options out there hun - you have to find out about them tho

anguk

Reeree, just a thought but are there any local colleges near you that do GCSE evening classes for adults?

I was wondering if you could perhaps do English or Maths GCSE yourself, then you would be learning the same as your grandson, you could help him with the work you are doing at college, if you know what I mean? It may also give you a bit more confidence teaching your grandson and you'd be learning together. He could also do the work that you'd be doing at evening classes?

You could also perhaps draw up a weekly timetable to show your daughter that your grandson will still be doing schoolwork and not just lolling around.

My daughter is now in her final year at school, a very important year, yet I wouldn't hesitate to take her out of school if she was facing the same problems as your grandson. I would home-school her as best I could then she could go to college when she is 16 and take her GCSE's then.

Adding an extra couple of years onto a child's education is nothing compared to their safety and peace of mind.

rachel6188

i left school at 14 through personal problems and my local education authority organised a home tutor to come out once a week. speak to the school about it - i hope your dg finds some peace being away from school and you are doing a fantastic thing for your dg and dd. good luck with it x

angela90

I've been reading through the thread and my heart goes out to all of you. There is no easy answer here as others have said and while home schooling will prevent the immediate bulying problem, it may store up problems for the future.

I'm not sure where you are - I'm in Northern Ireland and we have a children's law centre here. I googled and found the english one (childrens legal centre - I can't post links as a new poster) and I'm sure there's one for Scotland and Wales too.

Your GS has a legal right to an education and he's not getting it because of these bullies and the schools attempt to sweep it all under the carpet. Contact the helpline and see what can be done. Talking legal will undoubtedly kick start the school into action.

I think the best possible outcome is for your gs to remain in school but in a safe environment free from bullying where he can build up his confidence and learn.

I hope this helps and wish you all all of the best.

Angela

Savvy_Sue

reeree wrote: »

there,s only one other school nearby and it has a worse reputation than the one hes at so its not really an option to be honest,

tandraig wrote: »

the other school may not have a good reputation but its worth investigating - he may be happier there.

Took the words out of my mouth: just because a school doesn't have a good reputation doesn't mean it's deserved. It may be worth a call, and a visit without your grandson, to see what YOU think. Ask them about their bullying policies, how they'd handle the problems your gs has been having, and if you like what you hear see if your gs would like to visit. Keep it low key, keep the option of home schooling there, but don't rule it out.

pipkin71

reeree wrote: »

Hi pipkin, thankyou so much for those words, ive never forgotten the kindness and help you gave me earlier this year, I really hope an end is in sight now, ive taken him to the doctors this afternoon as suggested by the deputy head, i now think it might come back to bite him on the backside, after telling him about what was going on and showing him gs note he's told me to get him as faraway from that school as possible, hes also arranged for a physcologist to see him, he really related to dg as he had been bullied at school himself would you believe so really understood. He's told me to keep him off school at least till dg has been seen, so thats a temporary relief. I spoke to dd and she seemed very relieved when i told her, she phoned the school up and spoke to the heads secretary and told her why she was phoning and would the headmaster like a word, he said no, wonder why that was.

I'm so glad you will have your GP on side.

What this will do, is give your grandson a reason to be off school while you figure out if home ed is a possible way forward. It will also give you the chance to check out the other school, as it doesn't hurt to keep all options open. What's more, if you go down the HE route first, there is nothing stopping your daughter registering gs at the other school if you find HE doesn't work for your family.

There are so many options available within HE as to the way you progress - it doesn't have to be about workbook study only - and once you find a way that your gs likes to learn, his own enthusiasm will guide you too.

As others have mentioned, there are colleges who take children at 14 - either during the day or evening. I've found an adult has to be on site, but your gs will be able to join adult classes. There's also the OU, and they will look at your grandson's income, rather than your daughter's, so he could study with them for free if they are willing. [I will look at this option when DD reaches 14 and they have taken HE children at this age].

As for socialising, you may get many comments about how lonely he will become, how home ed can't give the same social skills you would find at school but by joining in with your local HE community it wont be long before your gs has made his own friends

I truly wish you all well reeree, and if ever you need a listening ear feel free to pm

cakeordeath_2

brilliant news that the GP is backing you up in all this!! Hopefully his support will give your dd the signal that removing him from that school is the ONLY option right now. You must be overjoyed that your dg is out of there for the time being. He's VERY lucky to have you, as is your dd. You're an absolute star!

jinky67

OP

I think you are ace :T

The school are treating this problem like it is a joke

I was bullied at school, not physically, and believe me it is still affecting me in so many ways now:cool: and all that happened to me was my friends just decided not to talk to me anymore
I spent the rest of my secondary education flitting from group to group and feeling like i never fitted in anywhere, which is why I now have so few real friends


I can understand why you would want to home school him, honestly I do, but I feel it may not be best for him in the future.

I would be looking at this other local school first, as others have said, it may have a bad reputation as well, but he could be really happy there as well.

And I would also like to say, that note your DG wrote is possibly the saddest thing I have ever heard a child say. Please give him a huge hug from me and tell him its the bullies who have the problem not HIM.....took me a while to realise it.....

Another thought........could you get the local paper to publish it anonymously?