I'm so angry

reeree

elona wrote: »

Psst

If home schooled at least there will "be" a later life to have problems (or not) in!

Did you read the boy's note in which he wished he were dead?

thankyou elona I totally agree with you, if this had just started then we wouldnt be looking to take him out but its been going on 3years in this school now with many meetings, phone calls etc and we are worse off now than when we started because its changed from taunts to now being physical so its time to act, the school hasnt sorted it so nows the time to give it over to someone who can help him, My grandson cant stick up for himself, its just not in him, Ive seen him when weve seen one of the bullies in the street and he just stands still and stares at the floor until theyve gone,its awful to see. He wasnt able to speak more than a couple of words until he got to about 4 and half and was given speech therapy, his speech is fine now but he finds it hard to put things into words when he's confronted. I found those comments from pssst really cruel to be honest and I think that is the attitude of many of the teachers which is such a shame really, what they are saying is "bullying happens get over it" unfortunatley its that attitude that led to my grandson saying he wanted to kill himself in the first place

needsomecash

Hi

I am sorry to hear about your grandson.

I just thought I would mention Scouting as a possible social club for him to attend. I was in the scouts from 8 - 18 and met some of my best friends there.
He may make some new friends there and also would have the chance to go camping etc in the school holidays.

Reggie_Rebel

Well done reeree for fighting his corner. :T

But....and you probably know what I'm going to say here....Your daughter needs to be getting down the school and stamping her feet and banging on the table until the school do something positive. Despite your heroic efforts until they see that his MUM is bothered nothing will change.

She should be on the front line

reeree

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

Well done reeree for fighting his corner. :T

But....and you probably know what I'm going to say here....Your daughter needs to be getting down the school and stamping her feet and banging on the table until the school do something positive. Despite your heroic efforts until they see that his MUM is bothered nothing will change.

She should be on the front line

thanks Reggie, Ive spoken to the school this morning and told them we are taking him out, deputy head said, well if theres anything we can ever do to help then please let us know, seems to have taken it very well. Ive been on to the lea and told them briefly whats gone on, the chap who deals with it was out but will phone me tomorrow morning so we shall see

the_cat

reeree wrote: »

thanks Reggie, Ive spoken to the school this morning and told them we are taking him out, deputy head said, well if theres anything we can ever do to help then please let us know, seems to have taken it very well. Ive been on to the lea and told them briefly whats gone on, the chap who deals with it was out but will phone me tomorrow morning so we shall see

Don't know how he/she had the nerve to say that! If anyone there had been prepared to help, you wouldn't be in this mess!

Great news that your DD is still going ahead with the home ed idea. You are a fab gran and they are both extremely lucky to have you.
Best of luck
Cat

pipkin71

reeree wrote: »

hi tandraig yes he has been so much happier and has worked so well bless him, my dd phoned the school today and theyve asked for dg to go in and see them, she's spoken to them again about home schooling and theyve come up with numerous reasons why not to, ie you have to stick to what the education centre says and they will need to see a plan and if its not up to gcse standard they wont allow it, is this true? Im going to go in and see them tomorrow,(the school) and I need to know what Im talking about, if anyone can help me there i would be forever grateful, I dont want them to be in a position to talk down to me, i want to put an end to it once and for all its putting a strain on all of us especially dg

That's not the case at all reeree.

Once your daughter sends a deregistration letter, it is nothing to do with the school what you teach your grandson. They do not have to approve anything.

You do not have to submit plans but can send an educational philosophy outlining what you intend to do, after your grandson has been out of school around 6 months. The laws may be changing, but that hasn't happened yet, and hopefully wont, with all the campaigning that has gone on.

Have a look at the education otherwise website. It lays out what you can do and will ensure you are prepared. https://www.education-otherwise.org

Do pm if you need to, I'm always happy to help.

Keep going strong, and excellent news on your grandson's first day

pipkin71

reeree wrote: »

I thought that was the case as no one else whos posted about home schooling has said that, do you think maybe they were trying to scare dd,
I think they still think they can sort it out, but how can they, they havent been able to stop this bullying in the 3 years that he's been there, whats going to change now, nothing I suspect,

The girl's school told me they were going to send social services round to inspect when I informed them I was taking the girls out, but I already knew what they could - or couldn't do, so was able to say 'I don't think so', and it went smoothly then.

As soon as the dereg letter is sent, the school can have nothing else to do with your grandson, so perhaps they were trying to get your DD to change her mind?

pipkin71

Pssst wrote: »

Havent read all the posts just the front page.

Dealing with bullies and other such types is unfortunately one of lifes lessons to be learned.

You either fight back or go under.

Mummy wont always be there to hold your hand.

Schooling at home...well that will just magnify the problem for later life.

Why should it have to be one of life's lessons learned? There are many adults who wouldn't put up with bullying in the workplace so why should children?

As for your last sentence, I'm sorry, but that is not the case. The problem will not be magnified, it will be resolved - at least for the child being bullied.

No-one should have to learn to deal with emotional and physical abuse. It does not have to be a fact of life and the sooner that everyone comes together against bullying and realises it wont be tolerated, the better.

tandraig

Pssst wrote: »

Havent read all the posts just the front page.

Dealing with bullies and other such types is unfortunately one of lifes lessons to be learned.

You either fight back or go under.

Mummy wont always be there to hold your hand.

Schooling at home...well that will just magnify the problem for later life.

an excellent lesson here - READ ALL the posts before commenting or posting as otherwise you will look as stupid as this post!

reeree

tandraig wrote: »

an excellent lesson here - READ ALL the posts before commenting or posting as otherwise you will look as stupid as this post!

thankyou for that tandraig, i couldnt have said it better myself