I'm so angry

reeree

jinky67 wrote: »

OP

I think you are ace :T

The school are treating this problem like it is a joke

I was bullied at school, not physically, and believe me it is still affecting me in so many ways now:cool: and all that happened to me was my friends just decided not to talk to me anymore
I spent the rest of my secondary education flitting from group to group and feeling like i never fitted in anywhere, which is why I now have so few real friends


I can understand why you would want to home school him, honestly I do, but I feel it may not be best for him in the future.

I would be looking at this other local school first, as others have said, it may have a bad reputation as well, but he could be really happy there as well.

And I would also like to say, that note your DG wrote is possibly the saddest thing I have ever heard a child say. Please give him a huge hug from me and tell him its the bullies who have the problem not HIM.....took me a while to realise it.....

Another thought........could you get the local paper to publish it anonymously?

thankyou so much for your comments, I think your idea about getting the local newspaper to publish it is a great idea, Ive just run it by dg and he said why dont you do it, so Im going to look into it, ive just given him a hug from you and he had the biggest smile on his face so thankyou from both of us for that :cheesy:

tandraig

be careful reeree - make sure the local paper WONT identify your grandson. It could cause him probs if he goes to alternative school. saying that though - It will highlight the probs at his present school and maybe force the local education authority to step in and deal with it.
there is life outside school - for those posters who are worried about the social aspects - what social life does the bullied kid have? they are afraid to step outside, they have few or no friends? if you choose home education a part of this could include getting the child involved in group activities. many good suggestions previously on this thread. also, dont be afraid reeree of subjects you know nothing about! we took our granddaughters to technoquest in cardiff and suddenly - I understood things about science I just didnt get in school!!! and you are free to make field trips whenever you want!
at 14 your DG will be making his subject choices - it sounds as if he will lean toward history and art - both subjects well covered on internet! there are also many teaching resource sites. good luck hun
keep me posted - I wish you both well

stormbreaker

reeree wrote: »

if anyone has any ideas I would really welcome anything that might help

Just catching up with this thread. Don't know if anyone has suggested 'Warhammer'.

It is building and painting small models then playing strategy games with them.

There are often local groups set up and ages are anything from 10yrs up.

Have now caught up and see that this has been mentioned!

I think it would be a great idea for him from the social aspect of things.

I would not go to the press with anything. Look after your GS and do whats best for him He is your main priority at present. Going to the press IMO would be of no benifit to him.

I would have a look at the other school too as others have mentioned.

The school my sons go to has a bad reputation, however there is a great sense of community within the school.

Savvy_Sue

Warhammer is one of those things that you either love or hate, and it can take quite a while to get into it, and it's not a cheap hobby in the long term because you have to buy the models and paint them up before you can start having battles. Once you're painting them at home it's not a particularly sociable hobby either, 'cos it takes HOURS! (and it can smell with the glue and paint ... think airfix!)

Having said that, the staff in the shops are always willing to demonstrate both how the games work and painting techniques, sometimes with particular times when they're geared up to playing a game, and there's usually a gaggle of lads (never saw any girls, but no doubt they're out there!) hanging around and chatting.

And once you find another friend or two already involved, you can then go round each other's houses and play. And there may be a club night locally which is another way of making friends.

It would be worth going into the shop, if you have one locally, a few times and see what your grandson thinks. My eldest was pretty obsessive for a while - DH was on first name terms with the staff in ALL the stores near home and work, having been in to buy things so often.

reeree

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Warhammer is one of those things that you either love or hate, and it can take quite a while to get into it, and it's not a cheap hobby in the long term because you have to buy the models and paint them up before you can start having battles. Once you're painting them at home it's not a particularly sociable hobby either, 'cos it takes HOURS! (and it can smell with the glue and paint ... think airfix!)

Having said that, the staff in the shops are always willing to demonstrate both how the games work and painting techniques, sometimes with particular times when they're geared up to playing a game, and there's usually a gaggle of lads (never saw any girls, but no doubt they're out there!) hanging around and chatting.

And once you find another friend or two already involved, you can then go round each other's houses and play. And there may be a club night locally which is another way of making friends.

It would be worth going into the shop, if you have one locally, a few times and see what your grandson thinks. My eldest was pretty obsessive for a while - DH was on first name terms with the staff in ALL the stores near home and work, having been in to buy things so often.

thankyou I will look into this for him Im sure its something he would like.
Weve started doing school work this morning and he has really enjoyed it, no moaning or trying to get out of it, we started with art and I honestly didnt realise how good he was at it, when I asked him why Ive never seen him draw like that before he said because i could never concentrate long enough half the time the other kids were always at me. I noticed he really took his time with it and its really good work,

tandraig

well done reeree - start with subjects he likes first! whatever his mum decides on, whether its alternative school or home schooling, at least he is doing some work! Is he happier now hun? I bet he feels like a great weight has been lifted from him. keep us posted reeree - will be interested to know how you all are getting on.

reeree

tandraig wrote: »

well done reeree - start with subjects he likes first! whatever his mum decides on, whether its alternative school or home schooling, at least he is doing some work! Is he happier now hun? I bet he feels like a great weight has been lifted from him. keep us posted reeree - will be interested to know how you all are getting on.

hi tandraig yes he has been so much happier and has worked so well bless him, my dd phoned the school today and theyve asked for dg to go in and see them, she's spoken to them again about home schooling and theyve come up with numerous reasons why not to, ie you have to stick to what the education centre says and they will need to see a plan and if its not up to gcse standard they wont allow it, is this true? Im going to go in and see them tomorrow,(the school) and I need to know what Im talking about, if anyone can help me there i would be forever grateful, I dont want them to be in a position to talk down to me, i want to put an end to it once and for all its putting a strain on all of us especially dg

Savvy_Sue

reeree wrote: »

she's spoken to them again about home schooling and theyve come up with numerous reasons why not to, ie you have to stick to what the education centre says and they will need to see a plan and if its not up to gcse standard they wont allow it, is this true?

NONE OF THAT IS TRUE!

Every child has receive an appropriate education, whether through attendance at school OR OTHERWISE. The place to look for information is Education Otherwise. You don't have to take exams (although I'm not saying that's a good idea), and you don't at this stage have to show your plans - if at all!

Pipkin is the real expert here, I'm not a Home Edder, but to be honest I'd be turning it on its head and ask whether the education they have been providing is anything like appropriate, given the difficulties he has faced, and the things TEACHERS have said about that. Make sure you take a copy of what your DGS wrote.

But, end of the day, you do not have to have their permission. Your DD can simply withdraw your DGS from that school, end of dicussion. There are sample letters here, and the one at the bottom of the page is the one to start with.

There is then nothing to stop your DD from moving your DGS to another school at a later date, if that seems like the best thing to do.

The difficulty is that the school may not wish to discuss your plans with you, unless your DD authorises them to do so or she comes with you. But I am not sure what there is to discuss, at this stage, or why they want to see your DGS.

reeree

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

NONE OF THAT IS TRUE!

Every child has receive an appropriate education, whether through attendance at school OR OTHERWISE. The place to look for information is Education Otherwise. You don't have to take exams (although I'm not saying that's a good idea), and you don't at this stage have to show your plans - if at all!

Pipkin is the real expert here, I'm not a Home Edder, but to be honest I'd be turning it on its head and ask whether the education they have been providing is anything like appropriate, given the difficulties he has faced, and the things TEACHERS have said about that. Make sure you take a copy of what your DGS wrote.

But, end of the day, you do not have to have their permission. Your DD can simply withdraw your DGS from that school, end of dicussion. There are sample letters here, and the one at the bottom of the page is the one to start with.

There is then nothing to stop your DD from moving your DGS to another school at a later date, if that seems like the best thing to do.

The difficulty is that the school may not wish to discuss your plans with you, unless your DD authorises them to do so or she comes with you. But I am not sure what there is to discuss, at this stage, or why they want to see your DGS.

I thought that was the case as no one else whos posted about home schooling has said that, do you think maybe they were trying to scare dd,
I think they still think they can sort it out, but how can they, they havent been able to stop this bullying in the 3 years that he's been there, whats going to change now, nothing I suspect,

tandraig

hi reeree - have sent you a pm. savvy-sue is dead right. i was fortunate in finding a better school. if you are going down homeschool route would take further advice from people who know what they are talking about. good luck.