I'm so angry

Mrs_Optimist

I have skimmed through the posts so forgive me if this has already been dealt with, but have you contacted your Local Education Authority about this ? The School is answerable to the Local Authority and whilst it is fantastic that your GS is now out of harms way, the problem hasn't been resolved, just shifted on to another poor unfortunate child. Why should your GS have to be home schooled? He has done nothing wrong. In my opinion the bullies should be the ones taken out of school until they can learn to behave themselves. Whilst the victim is being removed the school do not have to deal with the bullies - my blood is boiling at the thought of it.

My nephew (13) was sent home from school last week for participating in bullying another boy in his year. He pinned this poor lad down whilst older boys kicked the C##p out of him. I was absolutely livid with him when I found out and made sure he knew it. It seems he joined in rather than become a victim himself. My argument is that the school should have come down hard on all of the bullies ( being sent home for the rest of the day dosn't cut it for me) and it was only my nephew that was "punished" - the other lads got away with it. My thoughts were with that poor lad that was terrified no doubt as he was being assaulted.

The strange thing is that my nephew has been bullied so he knows what it is like. When I read the riot act to him, he totally agreed with me that his actions were wrong, but obviously I was harder on him than the school (or his mother). The school in question is C of E and is heavily oversubscribed. I was so unimpressed with their dealing of the bullying (my nephew should have had a far harder punishment - as should his accomplices) that this school has been removed from my DD preference list of selection of High School for next year.

You are a great grandma, your DS is very lucky to have you !

Savvy_Sue

reeree wrote: »

do you think maybe they were trying to scare dd,

Yup, I think they were. They also probably don't want this escalated, because they don't want their failure to deal with this publicised.

I'm also unclear whether the LEA has been made aware of the situation, and I agree that would be worthwhile, because that would be the way to go if you want to consider moving him, and they do have to be told that he's being withdrawn so they'll find out at some point.

I do agree with Mrs Optimist that it ought not to be your DGS who suffers, but if the problem hasn't been dealt with then sometimes drastic action is required.

reeree, you and the boy's parents do need to be in full agreement over whatever you decide to do, because I'd be surprised if either the LEA or the school were prepared to discuss anything with you. That means there may be phone calls to your DD while she's at work, that kind of thing.

Savvy_Sue

Just spotted this thread, there are some useful home ed sites in post two as well as Education Otherwise, plus loads of other resources if that's the way you go (even short-term!)

reeree

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Just spotted this thread, there are some useful home ed sites in post two as well as Education Otherwise, plus loads of other resources if that's the way you go (even short-term!)

thankyou for that link there is loads of information on there, thats going to be a great help to us

Pssst

Havent read all the posts just the front page.

Dealing with bullies and other such types is unfortunately one of lifes lessons to be learned.

You either fight back or go under.

Mummy wont always be there to hold your hand.

Schooling at home...well that will just magnify the problem for later life.

Shelldean

duchy wrote: »

Speaking as a parent and as a former employee in a school.......ANY school that says they don't have any bullying is deluded. It happens in every school -the difference is some schools do something about it and make it clear it won't be tolerated.......others look the other way. The latter need their butts kicking on a regular basis !

I did wonder if maybe your daughter or her partner maybe feel you are "taking over" a bit with homeschooling and that is why they changed their minds. Not a criticism just thinking if you knew more about why they changed their minds you might be better able to address it with them.

this is exactly what the head teacher said at our sons high school when the twins were getting ready to go up from primary.

reeree

Shelldean wrote: »

this is exactly what the head teacher said at our sons high school when the twins were getting ready to go up from primary.

it says on my dg schools bullying policy that( bullying is not a particular problem in our school) but when it occurs will be dealt with severely, this has not been the case at all

elona

Psst

If home schooled at least there will "be" a later life to have problems (or not) in!

Did you read the boy's note in which he wished he were dead?

Shelldean

reeree wrote: »

it says on my dg schools bullying policy that( bullying is not a particular problem in our school) but when it occurs will be dealt with severely, this has not been the case at all

we are lucky our twins school has lived up to it's promise. One of the boys had one iccident back at the begining of yr7 (now yr 9) It happened out of school and not in school time. I called the evening it happened and it was dealt with the next day.

But Reeree, can i just say ... please keep up the good work, a grandmothers love is an extra special love. A love to be treasured and nurtured, trust me I know I had a lovely relationship with my Nanna and I'm betting your GS knows where I'm coming from

reeree

Shelldean wrote: »

we are lucky our twins school has lived up to it's promise. One of the boys had one iccident back at the begining of yr7 (now yr 9) It happened out of school and not in school time. I called the evening it happened and it was dealt with the next day.

But Reeree, can i just say ... please keep up the good work, a grandmothers love is an extra special love. A love to be treasured and nurtured, trust me I know I had a lovely relationship with my Nanna and I'm betting your GS knows where I'm coming from

thankyou so much for that, I also had a wonderful relationship with my granny, she even came to live with me for the last year of her life so i know exactly what you mean, it really is special, and I treasure all my memories of her, You are so lucky that your twins school is so good, what i would give for peace of mind these days, sadly I cant get away from it even in sleep I wake up worrying whats going to happen and if it will get sorted out, im waiting for the head to ring me just now I just hope i can come across well.