What would you do? inheritance decision to make with limited choices.

carolan78

Hope you come back soon to let us know your ok xx

Freddie_Snowbits

I'll keep mine short. I bought a house off a lady who died at the age of 96, though I never saw her. She only had a son, in his lat forties. He did not want any of her money, and we were left in quite dificulties as her Direct Debits kept paying the Gas Electricity for a considered period of time, including sending her bank statements back to the bank. I could not transfer the Gas Electric to my name, but I persuaded the bank to stop alloting the money to her account from her saving. Eventually I got a red letter from teh electric and gas and was able to change to better tarrif.

I believe her savings are still held by the bank, as well as the money I paid for the house!!!!!

Now, I would had much rather that money was used by her famimily (son), but alas, he did not want!

Some time later when we moved on, I found out he was a bamkrupt and divorced!

tandraig

angel delight hun? havent forgotten you - wondering what is happening in your life? can you update us hun?

IWish

Hey AngelDelight - been thinking about you too - let us know how you are xx

angel_delight

Hi everyone

I am so sorry for not updating sooner. The last few replies I didn't realise I had until several hours ago. I do continue to pop into this forum section aswell every couple days but must have genuinelly missed the thread being bumped up. Thank you for still caring/thinking about me. The past few weeks have just seemed to have flown by as usual in a blur of work, kids, continous driving lessons with adi & mum, decorating and so on. As for the o.h and I- well wev'e been closer of late but still have the odd bickery day and the eldest two have mostly been okay.

I still have bad days- in approx a months time my baby would of been due so all the pain/guilt of the termination (for medical reasons endangering me) is beginning to resurface and gradually get worse as it's getting closer. This is where the o.h has been a bit of a ****. I don't know maybe i'm expecting too much from a partner, man in general to click on, realise the dates? When reminded him hold me without me having to ask?, be able to talk things through for my sake without me being made to feel even worse by making him feel uncomfortable/guilty (as it reminds him of the previous time too years back when he pressured me into the other termination). Him coming out with classic gems such as "I should try to move on, focus on the little one/other things in my life" just seems partronising when that's all i've tried to do for the past several months.

It's been so hard especially when I don't want to talk to counsellers/other family but him and have at times felt so depressed in momentary bouts of upset I long for/beg for another child which alienates him further as he doesn't understand. I myself know deep down that isn't the answer, i'm happy with coping with just three kids- it's just I don't know when this pain will go away, if it ever will? The only thing which healed the last termination was having my little girl.

ailuro2- in reply to your post- yes it made me smile/laugh. If only,lol. Well I can imagine for the time being but i'd have to decline being a dog groomer as Iv'e got a thing about dog hairs and their smell. The rest sounds great though.

Thanks again everyone and sorry for only just updating.x

tandraig

hi angel delight - so glad you have updated us!
hun - it sounds as life is a little better! or are you trying to convince yourself it is? dont want to say much more - but - remember what i said in PM!
still up to you hun.
hugs ((()))