Internet Dating and the problems it causes..

pocketrocket_2

I know it is a sign but at the same time he is never the type to get angry at stuff which is something I have noticed over the past year, so its hard to tell if he is angry at me for mentioning it or not.

He has returned from hol and tx from airport to meet tonight I feel sick dont know if I should part of me doesnt want to!

NOVASTAR

Hi Pocketrocket. I'm sorry that you are in this situation. This chap does not sound like he is going to be trustworthy as he has previously proved to you - the trust issue will eat away at you and take over in the end I think.
Just because you feel that you are getting older and not meeting that special someone does not mean that you should put up with second best - you deserve so much more!
I was in the same situation as you and constantly being let down by men - then just before my 38th birthday met a chap online - we have now been together over 3 years and are getting married next year! I trust him totally and he makes me feel good about myself (I could go on but you get the idea!)
Just realise that you are worth more than this current chap can offer you! Good luck.

pocketrocket_2

Your so right im glad you found love via the net, but for some its like being in a candy shop they become spoilt for choice! I cleared my profile off straightaway when we got together about 4 wks later out of respect he only hid original profile, so he actually 2 profiles on at he same time different ID's and info.

And this will shock you when I found out and asked him to delete the new profile he simply hid it then changed the ID name for a while until I asked again!

I dont get it he drives miles just to pick me up drop me off places etc I guess im saying he is good to me but my trust has gone.

sarahs999

Good luck pocketrocket. I married the man I met internet dating, and let me tell you you don't create profiles just to 'chat'. There are plenty of internet sites for chatting. He is a liar and a user. I hope you find the strength to see it through adn get rid of him.

Errata

How do you know he had only 2 profiles, he may have had more and may have been registered on several 'dating' sites. And still may be.
Your trust has gone because you know he's untrustworthy. I think you and he are paddling in different puddles and one of you has to take a mature role in the relationship so it might as well be you. The little voice whispering in your ear is telling you the honest truth about him, pay attention to it because it's rarely wrong, but we can be awfully good at conning ourselves that unacceptable behaviour is ok really.

Stephb1986_2

Sorry to hear about your situation, I too found love through internet dating and still nearly 3 years later we are still together after having some ups and downs Don't let this loser get the better of you hun you deserve better.

Steph xx

pocketrocket_2

Well maybe things will work out for us? or am I being naive?

BitterAndTwisted

He has already proven himself to be untrustworthy and the onus is on him to help you regain that trust, not you.

Betrayal is like a terrible cancer and it will eat away at you if he cannot or will not prove himself worthy of your trust again. Make him prove it by handing over all his phones and showing you that he's deleted all of his profiles on dating sites.

Being in a relationship with a liar and a cheat is not what you deserve. None of us do. Remember, you're better than that by miles and miles.

yoni_one

I haven't read every single post on this thread but of those I have, it kind of sounds like you already know the answers but just don't want to have to act on them.

Ask yourself the question, if he wants to 'just chat' with other women on a dating site, is that ok with you? He set up a secret profile, regardless of the reasons why he did this, is that ok with you? You only know about it because your friend told you about it, is that ok with you?

Sometimes, when partners treat you really really well on some or many levels and go out of their way to do nice things we tend to try and overlook the niggles and gut feelings - but that does not mean they are not there or not correct. Instinct can really get in the way of want, but I have found that it is wise to listen hard to it.

I hope you manage to get a satisfactory outcome to this.

GSXRCarlos

how did last night go?