Internet Dating and the problems it causes..

dieselhead

I don't know how true this is but I have been told that apparently some dating sites will repost your profile long after you have 'taken yourself off the market', in order to make it look like there are more members than there actually are.

pocketrocket_2

Im afraid this was not the case he made a totally new profile with new info that he only had during our time together such as one of his children (he is divorced) has just turned 10 that happenend about 2 weeks before the profile was found. he also stated he wanted to meet someone as soon as possible and not chat for ages via emails and phone chats ..not sounding good is it? but he maitains it was because he was lonley and I was at times distant ??! which I dont recall but all I can say was that we live one hour apart and sometimes I was too tired to meet after work.

harley1

Sounds like he is already trying to blame you for his behaviour.

honestly? Get out now. Whilst you still can.

He doesn't sound like someone I would want to waste my time or energy on.

xxxx

pocketrocket_2

I did walk away when all this flared up a few weeks ago but he begged me to stay and how much he loved me etc, I said lets have 2 weeks apart and that he needs to think things over think about what he needs.

He said he could not live without me and that he felt so low and was going to see his doctor about it, but I think it was his other problems he has regarding his work etc that he is already stressed over I dont think he was that down over me to go and see a doctor.

Errata

he maitains it was because he was lonley and I was at times distant

He said he could not live without me and that he felt so low and was going to see his doctor about it

He's good at pressing your buttons, I'll say that for him. How you respond is your choice.

pocketrocket_2

Maybe it was all true? maybe I gave off bad vibes maybe he was lonely?

maybe im fooling myself...

SailorSam

Do you know why he got divorced.
I wonder was he cheating there ?

pocketrocket_2

No there was no 3rd party regarding the divorce. He has been away for 2 weeks with his kids its the longest time we have spent apart and its got me thinking, I missed him so much the 1st few days now im feeling indifferent dont know what to do whether to confront him again? he wont be expecting it

becs

As an outsider looking in and as someone who's done the internet dating I would say your relationship isn't going to last. If he's doing things like creating a new profile whilst in a relationship there is something not right. If it was innocent and just for chatting why keep it a secret? And why say he'd removed it the first time and then not do do? I would have thought if you had been seeing each other for a year there would be a good level of committment there but he obviously does not see this.
I went out with a guy from an internet dating site for a while and got the gut feeling something wasn't right then my friend saw him camping one weekend with another woman! So trust your instinct! I carried on with the internet dating and a few toads later I found my prince charming, that was 4 years ago and we've now been married for 2 years. So don't give up on internet dating just this one toad! Good luck.

pocketrocket_2

I know deep down your right, sometimes I just want him to dump me so I know its the done thing then, if I do it I will always be wondering if he was sincere about being sorry for what he did and that he does care for me..does that make sense?