Best contraception? 28 no more children!

becky_rtw

Well surely the fact they are willing to go through said medical procedure is enough of an indication??

And the paying of £1300 for the privilege might be another clue??

ceridwen

Spendless wrote: »

How would they have realised if they didn't ask? Just cos you had gone there in the first place you mean? I put 'AFAIK' cos the women who have told me these questions are asked are the ones whose husband have had the snip. No one has ever told me what if any questions are asked when a female is sterlilised (and I've never asked), I just thought it would be the same for both.

To me it makes sense to make sure someone is absolutely certain that they don't want any/any more kids before letting them go thru a medical procedure.

Whilst I agree that no one seems to ask people why they WANT a child, I've certainly known people question about the sensibility in having ANOTHER child.

Well - I guess that Society as a whole has to assume that at some point somewhere along the line a person REALLY does "know their own mind" when they say that they have made a "major" decision about their life. The age at which a person can be "trusted " to "mean what they say" about a Major Decision will obviously vary from person to person. Some people might be capable of a Major Decision they will stick by for the rest of their life at 15 - others at 30 - others at 50 - others never/ever. It will vary from person to person. I was a bit of a "late developer" in many ways I do know - but I personally had pretty much formulated my Life Decisions/decided on my tastes/what sort of person I am by about 25 years old I would say...and I've obviously developed since then (one never ceases learning hopefully) - but the main thrust of what and who I am was very much in place by that age I would say and I have made a lot of changes to opinions/learnt a lot since that age and hope that will continue - but my most Major Decisions had all been made by that age. I would think 25 was a pretty typical age for most people to have made their Major Decisions in life by - with some it will be earlier/with others it will be later - but that seemed like a pretty "average" age to me. I would think by that age that most people know what their decisions are as to:
- what job/career to pursue
- what their attitude is regarding marriage/living together/staying single
- what they feel about having children
- what sort of person they believe they are

There will always be exceptions - but that seems pretty reasonable to me and I do recall a friend who has known me for many years commenting to me pretty recently that it was pretty obvious what sort of person I am and what my opinions about things are likely to be by about my mid-20s - so thats not just my opinion in that respect.

So - to get back to the point - one DOES have to give credit to people that at some point in their life they really DO have their opinions worked out on all Major Issues and will have thought through all the ramifications of any decision they make.

Personally - I believe strongly in "personal responsibility" and I really do think that at some point in peoples lives they DO have to be given credit for "knowing what they are doing" - otherwise one gets the situation of someone being able to lie there on their "deathbed" at 80+ years old and still insisting that "someone else" must explain everything to them in great detail - or its that "someone else's" fault if they make the wrong decision.....hmmmph!

Savvy_Sue

Well ...

I still think that the BEST place for the OP to go initially is to the Family Planning Clinic or a GP in her practice with an interest in the subject, so that all the options can be discussed.

Although I'm interested to learn that you can be given the choice of general or local for sterilisation, I asked about local (epidural) but was told it HAD to be general because of the gas they blow you up with.

UKTigerlily

I asked my GP about sterilisation before i knew it wouldn't be suitable for me & he said 'When you're 35' *despite* me being at a 1 in 3 risk (Compared to 1 in 500) of Puerpural Psychosis, on a med that'd seriously damage a foetus (Sodium Valproate), not at all able to look after myself etc etc & also having physical problems. How on earth would it be right or fair to have kids even if by some miracle I could? I need to make sure I can't!

jellyhead

I'm happy with my mirena coil, although it took 6-9 months to work properly and I had awful moodiness and bleeding until then. It's worth it for the rest of the 5 year period though, so I'd do it again, and plan to unless we win the lottery (and can then afford another child). Horrific periods were a factor for me though, I'd have a mirena even if my husband got the snip (which is a good excuse for him to wimp out lol!)

Glamazon

keelykat wrote: »

It's trial and error with most contraceptives, everyone reacts differently to different things. The pill doesn't always make you put on weight, ive happily been loosing weight on it! I also had bad side effects with the implant but others have loved it.

Why not have a chat to your nurse at your gp surgery about it? Mine was very clued up on it, and came up with plenty of suggestions!

keely.

Think this is the best advice

I've tried the Combined pill - ended up with HUGE boobs so get changed to the Progesterone only pill then Depo Injection - had no problems on Depo at all. Had a breast reduction (Yes they got THAT BIG!!) and was told the implant was much better than the Depo and exactly the same thing so def wouldn't make my boobs grow. Cue 5 months later, had implant taken out as boobs were back up to a big size and I ended up having a second reduction.
Turns out I am super sensitive to hormones - only took 6 years to work out :rolleyes:

We just used condoms from May 2007 until January 2009 and only once did I need to visit the GP for morning after pill. Not bad going and no side effects - after this baby is born (was planned) we will continue using condoms as I don't want to risk using anything with hormones.

ratkarth

all contraceptives work well, they just dont agree with every woman
if not fussed on more children would be looking at LARC (long acting reversable contraceptives) choices are
1 Implanon (implant 3 years)
2 COil
3 mirena Coil

The mirena coil has been shown to be MORe effective than steralisation in some studies and is reversable should at some point you change your mind, despite some irregular bleeding for first 3 months most women started on it think its fantastic, there will obvious be the odd one though who it will disagree with

sarahs999

I'd recommend diaphragms. They're quick to use, you can put them in before the action starts and there are no nasty hormonal effects. The pill made me swell up like a balloon when I came off it, and I don't like mucking about with your hormones anyway. My friend had the mirena coil and was one of the unlucky ones who got it stuck in the lining of her womb and had to have it surgically removed.

I would say that a non-permanent form of contraception is still best. You just never know, and I'm speaknig as someone who had one traumatic birth in which I and the baby (three months prem; my heart stopped on the op table) nearly died. Now five years later we're desperate for another. At the time though I was adamant that I would never want another one.

DKLS

If speaking to the practice nurse, ask politely they have they have done the courses offered by the faculty of reproductive and sexual healthcare.

woody01

You could try buying a telly.