Best contraception? 28 no more children!

paulwellerfan

i have had the depo jab for the last 10 years.
no weight gain
no periods
but everyone is different

blackcoffee

Id abstain until your husband got the snip ..after what you did for him its the least he can do ...and he gets full pain relief !

ceridwen

It really does make more sense for it to be the man who "does the deed" - ie sterilisation - rather than the woman. Much easier thing for them and much cheaper - as DKLY says - about £400, rather than about £1300. £400 is a financial "walk in the park" for most of us - but £1300 is a bit more difficult to get (though still well within financial reach of most people).

Howsomever - as long as 'tis done either way. I'm surprised to see a "you might change your mind" comment coming up again later in the thread - message to O.P. "try not to 'clobber' them for that" - I really do find incredibly difficult to see why people have the nerve to come out with that comment time and time again - when, in reverse, its not considered acceptable to say "you'll change your mind" back in the reverse direction to those who say they want children. Come on people play fair - either both sides are allowed to say "you'll change your mind" to someone who has pronounced what they personally intend to do - or neither is - which is it? I personally just spent some years "blocking my ears" to those who dared to comment to the effect that I might want children later and just thought to myself "well - you've just told me what to think about you personally by saying that" - but some people might be hurt and/or swayed in their decisions by the "you might want children later interferers" and I think its seriously out of order for comments like that to be made. I do people the credit of believing that they mean what they say - and I think its the least anyone can do for someone else.:mad:

What part of "I had a traumatic labour and dont want to go through it again" do the "you'll change your mind" brigade find difficult to understand?:mad::mad: Poor woman has probably been through hell and back - one should sympathise with her....

teacherandmum

i'd recommend the mirena coil. lasts 5 years - doctor inserts it and it's pain free. my periods stopped within 2 months of having it fitted. Although i'ved just had mine out because we're trying to conceive no 2!

clairec79

You said 'we decided we didn't want children' before YOU decide to be sterlised you have to decide for YOU not for 'us'

If your dh got run over by a bus tomorrow and you met and married some rich man, would you want another child?

If you both won the lottery would you want another?

If both of them are a definate no then maybe sterilisation is the right option for you, if there is the slightist doubt then don't

ceridwen

clairec79 wrote: »

You said 'we decided we didn't want children' before YOU decide to be sterlised you have to decide for YOU not for 'us'

If your dh got run over by a bus tomorrow and you met and married some rich man, would you want another child?

If you both won the lottery would you want another?

If both of them are a definate no then maybe sterilisation is the right option for you, if there is the slightist doubt then don't

Another "you might change your mind" comment:mad:. Why dont people leave the O.P. alone - rather than attacking her in this fashion? - because an attack is precisely what it is when someone comes out with a "you might change your mind" comment to a person who has said they have decided no children/no more children as the case might be. Some of us are very decisive people - not forever changing our mind to and fro and this might well include O.P.

The answer to that post is there anyway in the original post by O.P. - ie she had a traumatic birth with her first one and that is one of the reasons she doesnt intend to have another child - money wouldnt protect her from the same happening again if she were to have another one. A lottery winner could afford the best medical care in the world - but still have an awful experience.

Anyway - lets face it...realistically what are the chances of winning the lottery?

clairec79

Then her answer is 'there are no citcumstances where SHE would want another child' - in which case be sterilised

The OP (to me) sounded like it was a joint thing - which may (not always) be a compromise. In something with regard to your own health you have to take other people's feelings out of it

DKLS

Am totally with you Ceridwen, If I had a pound for every time I have been told I would change my mind, I wouldn't need to buy a lottery ticket. Which from memory I think the odds are 14 Million to one chance of winning.

I researched every aspect of the vasectomy vs sterilisation for my OH, I even downloaded the surgeons guides and read a number of clinical research papers, and came to an informed choice of what was best for us as a couple.
That was vasectomy for me, I went to my Gp, presented him with my findings and he advised he wouldn't refer me, as "I would change my mind" :mad: thank heavens for Marie Stopes, who treated my like an adult with the upmost professionlism and clinical skill. To be very honest the fear of the procedure was much worse than the actual procedure which in fact was a doddle.

As a bonus, I accidently ran over a pro lifer on the way into the clinic who was there to terrify and upset 16yr old girls.

ceridwen

DKLS wrote: »

Am totally with you Ceridwen, If I had a pound for every time I have been told I would change my mind, I wouldn't need to buy a lottery ticket. Which from memory I think the odds are 14 Million to one chance of winning.

I researched every aspect of the vasectomy vs sterilisation for my OH, I even downloaded the surgeons guides and read a number of clinical research papers, and came to an informed choice of what was best for us as a couple.
That was vasectomy for me, I went to my Gp, presented him with my findings and he advised he wouldn't refer me, as "I would change my mind" :mad: thank heavens for Marie Stopes, who treated my like an adult with the upmost professionlism and clinical skill. To be very honest the fear of the procedure was much worse than the actual procedure which in fact was a doddle.

As a bonus, I accidently ran over a pro lifer on the way into the clinic who was there to terrify and upset 16yr old girls.

I shouldnt have burst out laughing at your last sentence - but I have to admit to it;) - the pro children being born at any price (no matter what the prospective parent thinks about it) brigade make me bl**dy angry too - its not THEIR own bodies they are trying to pronounce judgement on. Very easy to say what someone else should do with their own body - whether they want to or not..:rolleyes:

But yes DKLY - I know where you're coming from - it wouldnt be a Lottery Win equivalent if I had a £1 for everyone time someone was knuckleheaded enough to say "you'll change your mind" to me - but I'd have a nice tidy little sum to add to my bank account certainly. I guess the only plus side to the "knucklehead brigade" (which is how I came to think of them in the end many intrusive comments later.....) is that it helped me to "toughen up" to "fight other battles" in life. But I would still prefer that these knuckleheads had "minded their own business" in the first place - rather than me having to work out a repertoire of more-or-less polite responses to those intrusive comments.

DKLS

Glad I made you chuckle, I didnt really hurt him, I swung from the main road into the entrance to the Marie Stopes clinic, and was shocked to find some guy holding a huge colour poster of an aborted foetus, I slammed on, he put his hands on the bonnet and fell over. On entering I shared the waiting room with a number of young women, who were obviously terrified about the termination, yet had to face those idiots on the way in. :mad:
When doing my research I found a pro-life video on Youtube, advising women diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy not to have a termination, as "their research" proved, that you could carry to term quite safely :mad::mad::mad: I have never heard of anything more stupid in all my life.

Going back to others comments, since I announced I am getting married in february to my dearest fianc!e, this has prompted a barrage of advice on when is best for me to have children and "how they will be the making of me".
I think I will have to attend all family and work do's from now on wearing a huge badge advising "Jaffa and proud of it"