How long were you together before getting Engaged?

splicecom

forkintheroad wrote: »

so pleased to see this thread, as my mind has been spinning all week. to all those who got engaged quickly, how was the news accepted by family/friends, and how did you deal with negative comments?

we met a year ago, and were talking marriage soon after. OH proposed every day for weeks, then said he'd leave it to me to propose when i was ready. well now i am, and I'm pretrified - of the response from others, and the fear of failing at marriage again, even though i know i won't go into a marriage if i think for a second it wouldn't work. we are both in our 40s, and divorcees.

i'm not impulsive, and met him when i least wanted a relationship. he fell in love at first sight and pursued me, and i realised on our first date that i had met the man i was going to marry - i actually feel sicky at saying those words lol, because they sound so cheesy, and i am so level-headed and 'sensible'.

dare I do it? i feel like a teenager too afraid to let my feelings out!!!

If your heart is in it then do it. Lifes too short to worry!

alipops1986

forkintheroad wrote: »

so pleased to see this thread, as my mind has been spinning all week. to all those who got engaged quickly, how was the news accepted by family/friends, and how did you deal with negative comments?

we met a year ago, and were talking marriage soon after. OH proposed every day for weeks, then said he'd leave it to me to propose when i was ready. well now i am, and I'm pretrified - of the response from others, and the fear of failing at marriage again, even though i know i won't go into a marriage if i think for a second it wouldn't work. we are both in our 40s, and divorcees.

i'm not impulsive, and met him when i least wanted a relationship. he fell in love at first sight and pursued me, and i realised on our first date that i had met the man i was going to marry - i actually feel sicky at saying those words lol, because they sound so cheesy, and i am so level-headed and 'sensible'.

dare I do it? i feel like a teenager too afraid to let my feelings out!!!

I know what you mean and i'm 22! :rotfl:

However, i'm sure your friends and family would be happy for you surely? You've taken your time, turned him down because you weren't ready so if you propose then it shows everyone that you're now ready! Not sure how people could argue with that.

I learnt very recently that sometimes you have to go with how you feel and what you want. Stuff everyone else! If they love you then they'll be happy for you and see how happy you are.

sunshine09

We got engaged at age 18 after 10 weeks and then went overseas and got married on holiday when he was 19 and I was 20. We had our 5th wedding anniversary a few weeks ago and we have a daughter who is a year and a half. My husband told his mum he wanted to marry me after a week and said he had found the girl he wanted to marry. When you know then you know.

Also we moved in after a month and we have never been apart since. We do everything together and if I went back I would probably have got married even quicker.

forkintheroad

thanks all. you're so right. here goes then...!

Chick

This is such an interesting thread! Am not engaged though am in a relationship at the moment...amongst my friends/colleagues there is a wide range of timescales.
One couple are marrying next month after just over a year together- they are in their early 30s. Another met at university, enagaged 9 years later & married the same year. Everyone's different, it's best not to worry about it too much- the most important thing is knowing that you are with the right person, that's the bit that counts the most!

kindofagilr

I had been going out with DF for 7 months when he proposed.

I know this will sound insane and some people will roll their eyes, but we love each other so much, I knew from the moment I met him that I was going to love him forever and vice versa

We met in Feb 2007, he proposed in September 2007, we bought a house together in April 2009

catkins

We met on 11th January. Saw each other every day. He proposed in March and we married on 21st June. We have been married 30 years. We did not live together before we were married.

I was 25 and he was 23. My parents were surprised but ok but his parents weren't happy. His mother kept saying I must be pregnant (I wasn't) and then accused me of "tricking" him into marrying me because I was older than him and "on the shelf"!!! Yes a delightful woman. She thinks it is not normal for the woman to be older (I am all of 2 years older!!!). As we came out of the register office she said "I'll give it a year if you're lucky". I still don't get on with her suprisingly!

arkonite_babe

alipops1986 wrote: »

Just a general question really

I have some friends who got engaged after 2yrs, some after a yr, some after 5 years.

Just wondered?

I've always thought after a year to be a bit quick!!

I met my now hubby in 2000, moved in with him in 2003. We then got engaged in 2006, married in 2007. Just celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary.

You do what feels right for you. For some people that works in weeks for others it's years, all personal I think

Odette

Belated congrats everyone, thanks for sharing your lovely stories. Going to a wedding this weekend and its got me all in the mood :beer:

As for me, I'll be 24 this year and no marriage proposals yet, but Im not bothered, plenty of time

brownbabygirl

this is a question for the guys who have been with their OH for let's say more than 3 years and not engaged.....what is stopping you from proposing? I am not having a pop at anyone, this is just comething I wonder aboout.