How long were you together before getting Engaged?

MinniMe_2

I have found this thread great. I have been with OH for 3years now and still no ring, is it wrong that I am a bit obsessed with him proposing?

galvanizersbaby

alipops1986 wrote: »

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

Just because it's not like we could rent a property for 6 mnths, try it out and then move on if it didnt work out. One of us might well need to sell up first!
Also, the age thing isn't a problem it just makes our outlook different sometimes. To him, gettin engaged and married is something he wants whereas to me i think ive got ages for all that! Especially, as alot of my circle of friends arent engaged yet whereas most of his are in the middle of getting married.

Hence, my question. :j

I see now, myself and my OH both own our properties (well 3 between us as one of his is currently rented to tenants)
We are planning to move in together next year but at the moment the plan is to rent our properties and then rent somewhere together (we would be moving to an area neither of us have lived in before so not sure how we are going to like it) so we are going to 'try it out' first before selling in a falling market.

In theory one of you could rent out your property and you could live in the others to 'try out' or you could both rent your properties out to get your mortgage paid and then rent somewhere together.

Plenty of possibilities without one of you having to sell up!

Re the age thing - I guess there are lots of other factors aside from age that make people's outlook's different - main thing is that the 2 of you are on the same page and if it feels right then go for it I reckon!

LameWolf

Met for the first time 2nd Jan 2002.

Started "going out" (if that's the correct term) 3rd May 2002.

Moved in with him 27th May 2002.

Engaged 13th Sept 2002.

Married 13th Sept 2003.

poppycracker

DH and I had our first 'date' 9th August 2008, got engaged two weeks later, I moved into his flat 11th Sept 08, we got married 7th August 09. Seems a bit quick when I think of it but felt right.

clarence83_2

MinniMe wrote: »

I have found this thread great. I have been with OH for 3years now and still no ring, is it wrong that I am a bit obsessed with him proposing?

I went through this phase, but you will get over it I promise. You would much rather him do it when he really wants to, rather than being forced wouldn't you? I know I would. Nagging him into a proposal is not the way to have a happy and healthy engagement/ basis for marriage. Give him time, 3 years is nothing

MrsTinks

Friend of ours met someone, got engaged, she got up the duff and they rushed the wedding - all in less than a year...
We got engaged after about a year and a half and married on our third anniversary

minerva_windsong

Not engaged or married myself, but my eldest sister was 'engaged' for ten months (she got married in New Zealand as that's where her husband's from and then had a church blessing last December which we count as her 'wedding') and she was 33 when she got married. My other sister was engaged for fourteen months (Christmas 2003 to March 2005, got married the week after her 26th birthday).

My parents got married in the April and had my eldest sister that September, when my dad was 21 and my mum was 20. They're still together after 34 years of marriage.

I had a friend at uni who was engaged for three years and got married last summer. He's now 23. Also my best mate from high school got engaged recently (no definite wedding date yet though) - she's 21 and has been with her boyfriend for five years and living with him for three.

So it's different strokes for different folks really. The important thing is knowing when it's right for you.

Penny-Pincher!!

We were 13/14 when we met, engaged at 18 and married at 19. Didnt live with each other until we were married. Had DD 12 months later.

*Louise*

Started going out - May '97

Engaged Nov '98 - so about 18 months

First child Oct '99

Bought first home together Oct '99

Married...May 2009 on our 12th 'anniversary' took a wee while but we got there in the end lol.:D

feelinggood_2

feelinggood wrote: »

OH & I got engaged after about a year I think. It was pretty fast, and looking back, I think getting married was a bit quick too! We'd been together 3.5 years when we married. I was very young at the time, and I did a lot of growing up while engaged, and then a lot more while married. It made it a lot more difficult, but we got through it. From my experience, I'd say age should be the more important factor, not time together. My 17 year old self (how old I was when I married!) would have told you that she wasn't going to change, and that she knew what she wanted etc though.

Didn't really put ages in.

Started dating at 14, Engaged at 15, Married at 17, Baby at 22. Husband was a bit older though. Didn't live together before marriage.