MSE Parents Club Part 5

Jvic28

feelinggood wrote: »

I feel alright, got a lot done today. Just wish I was a happier Mummy. Not looking forward to OH coming home, finding things hard with him at the moment.

Sorry to hear your having a tough time. We've been a bit the same lately. He just had a week off and says he now understands how difficult it is to look after a baby 24 hours a day (although he still doesn't really have a clue if you ask me). I'm a bit out of the loop as I haven't been on here much lately so sorry I'm not much use with advise for people at the moment...no idea whats going on with everyone.

Jvic28

Tomos is lying in his basket at my feet at the moment...wide awake...grizzling and crying every now and again and when I look at him he gives me a little attempt at a giggle...lush.

feelinggood_2

tarajayne wrote: »

I'm also finding it tough with OH. Not the family bliss you want or expect is it. I snap so easily and he really irritates me, then I feel really guilty. I just want to be on my own with Maddy at the moment. You are getting help from GP now, aren't you. Please say you are! :A

I've started on anxiety medication, and should be having another bash at antidepressants soon. Sending a letter to Pyschiatrist tomorrow and will hopefully start therapy when I find a childminder.

I feel bad because OH is doing his best, but he is a bit depressed, mainly due to overwork. I need a bit more support than he can give. We just seem to wind each other up. It is easy when he is at work, I just do everythig for myself but when he is home I ask for help then get annoyed when he doesn't give it.

Krystaltips

Feely, you can probably have a bubble bath now... Toby will let you know if he doesn't like it I was really careful with Aimee, paranoid she wouldn't feed if I was wearing perfume... Not so bothered with Caitlyn though... I think I was just so happy that my sense of smell went back to normal so I could enjoy my nice perfumes again instead of gagging on them, I just sprayed away... She doesn't seem to mind... And I don't tend to use them if I'm putting her in the sling because it might be a bit overpowering...

Becles

SusanC wrote: »

It must depend on who you get as we were at Durham hospital too. We (well OH - I couldn't walk for 7 hours due to the epidural) had to bath Alice ourselves as they all just went off and left us with Alice covered in blood and with blood matted hair. On the notes they had written something like "parents shown how to bath baby" but at the time I was more bothered about getting out of the place than arguing about details like that.

Durham didn't bother showing me anything with Joshua as nobody had any time. I was struggling getting the hang of breastfeeding and needed help but they just ignored me. The girl in the bed next to me was only 15 and couldn't do anything and they were ignoring her, so I ended up showing her how to change a nappy and stuff as I felt sorry for her.

It was the community midwife when I came home who helped me breast feed and she left me her mobile number so I could ring anytime for more advice and she offered to pop back anytime. I soon got the hang of it though so didn't need to ring.

I wasn't in long with James. He was born at 10pm at night, so it was early hours of the morning by the time we got bedded down on the ward. They woke me up at 7am and said there was some toast and coffee on the table in the middle of the ward, and asked what time my husband was coming to pick us up as they needed the bed!

Jvic28 wrote: »

That sounds awful. i had trouble with most of the midwifes too. Can i ask....how did u hold her wrong?? No one ever told me the 'right' way...

If I was feeding from the left boob, I'd cradle her in my left arm with her head resting in the bend and then guide my nipple from the top into her mouth with my right hand. Then I'd cuddle her in.

The midwife's method was to hold her so her body was supported on my right arm with her head in my right hand. Then I'd push her towards my left boob and use my left hand under my left boob to guide the nipple in.

After doing both boys with the top method, I just couldn't get the hang of doing it the other way round. To me it felt harder to do as your arm holds the weight of the baby's head better than your hand.

scruffy96uk

Feelie That was a mammoth post!! I'm ok ta, just struggle somedays. Glad you got a nursery sorted and swimming lessons are great fun.

You mean to say we're not ALL still using cotton wool:whistle:

tarajayne

I just got a phone call from the church administrator. I enquired about Maddys christening and mentioned about seeing on the news that they were starting to combine them with weddings. She took a while to come back to me but has just had an email from the Dean who says she is willing to do it. Now just have to get my head round it, as it is what I wanted but the idea of getting married in a few weeks is a bit daunting!

carlamagee

Jvic28 wrote: »

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Originally Posted by Sami_Bee
poo poo poo

I was just thinking this morning that I should remind anyone that uses formula to make bottles up in mls not oz do you do that?
The boxes tell you to use (for example) 5oz/150ml water and 5 scoops but 5oz is actually only 142ml so if you make them up in oz's you're actually making it up too concentrated.

Please anyone doing them in oz don't feel bad, I did it too and its all the stupid formula companies fault for even putting oz on their packaging!!

Gd Afternoon everyone,
i used to do it in ml but my hv told me to do it in oz. not constipated tho, except when we tried hungrier baby food (bad mistake).

i missed your post about this 1st time round sami -- i never knew hat either, and im sure our hv told us - 5 oz, 5 scoops etc!!? im confussled now....

feelinggood wrote: »

I feel alright, got a lot done today. Just wish I was a happier Mummy. Not looking forward to OH coming home, finding things hard with him at the moment.

on a lighter note.....do u not thinkwe should all become lesbians, or perhaps have them as boyfriends, but live with other ladiees!?? it would make my life soo much easier i think. saying that, i do love him.

Jvic28 wrote: »

Sorry to hear your having a tough time. We've been a bit the same lately. He just had a week off and says he now understands how difficult it is to look after a baby 24 hours a day (although he still doesn't really have a clue if you ask me). I'm a bit out of the loop as I haven't been on here much lately so sorry I'm not much use with advise for people at the moment...no idea whats going on with everyone.

i dont think men will EVER understand how difficult it is. they dont think about things that we do everyday cos we know they need done - they just take it for granted thats the way it is!!!! e.g. bottles are ALWAYS sterilised - clothes dont need washed/dried and if they do, they find their way to the appropriate machine themswelves!!!! :mad:

Jvic28

Becles...thats ridiculous...

Tomos wasn't putting on any weight when I was breastfeeding so I was advised to feed him lying down and off the top breast which meant having to lie him across the top of me with his head hanging down (just insane if you ask me). As he wasn't gaining mind...I was advised a different method every couple of days..how anything was ever going to take effect I don't know as I never got a chance to give anything a decent go...so glad I've stopped now. In the end I had to feed off one, express off the other and feed him the bottle of expressed and do one feed a day lying down (as I said above). I had to do this evry 3 hours wether he was asleep or not....glad it's over with.

flip that post went on a bit didn't it..sorry to bore you all...i still find it quite easy to rant about all these things.

Jvic28

I know Carlamagee...I feel awful for having digs at thim all the time and he says all I have to do is ask but sometimes I just wish I didn't have to ask...It would be nice to not have to do anything unless I was asked but you have no choice with a LO. Speaking of which, the kettles boiled so must make up some bottles. (I know I should make them up as needed but this is how I'm doing it so tough!)