MSE Parents Club Part 5

tiamai_d

Yeah yoru right Krystal, her jaundice has gone so I'm doing something right.

Ebay packages packaged up and ready to go.

Buttonmoons

Jvic28 wrote: »

We got told off for changing Tom on the bed, even though one midwife said I could as I'd had a c-section. Also didn't get shown how to bath him until discharge day when he was 4 days old. I could go on forever complaining about them.

eg. The pads no where near absorbed enough blood and every time I stood up blood pouring everywhere (tmi..sorry). So not to get it on my nightie I'd sit in bed with it around my waist but our bleedin midwives wouldn't let us have the curtains shut so it was a nightmare trying to get out of bed with any dignity. :mad: Also had no help getting Tom in and out of his cot...took me ages to sit up and get out of bed after the section. Nightmare!

On the upside...I HAD COTTON WOOL!!! So couldn't get told off for that!;)

Even when the midwife bathed Keira, she seemed dead rough with her and I was standing there clasping my hands together, and wondering to myself if I should say something.She didn't even wash her properly, she still had dried in placenta goo stuck to her scalp, it stunk!!

tarajayne

Wooo, big post Feelie, thank-you. Are you ok?

Re hospitals, Dorchester everyone has their own room and we had no interference whatsoever. I know it was only about 7hrs but it was much appreciated!

Krystaltips

They don't tend to bath them too soon because smell is very important for a baby to recognise it's mother... In our hospital the midwives will show you how to bath them if you ask but don't automatically offer it... I did have a midwife ask me if she could bath Caitlyn because she loved to do it... I took the opportunity to go and have a wash myself and get dressed lol...

Jumperoo has arrived! And I have to leave for the school run in 25mins... What happened to the day?!

feelinggood_2

About smell, when am I safe to start using nice bubble bath? I've avoided everything since having LO, have unscented soap and deoderant so not to put him off. Think he'd mind if I had a bubble bath?

I feel alright, got a lot done today. Just wish I was a happier Mummy. Not looking forward to OH coming home, finding things hard with him at the moment.

Millie's_Mum

elle_gee wrote: »

WHAT?! No Lindum door bouncer?! *sobs*

(Ta for the list tho! )

I've just sorted out OH's clothes into work tshirts, things I like (aka everything I've bought him in the last two years) and other stuff.. Hmmm, hope he doesn't want to do the same to my clothes!

A lindam door bouncer could find its way to the fairies maybe? We've got a jumperoo so the door boucer is a bit redundant.

Jvic28

tarajayne wrote: »

Wooo, big post Feelie, thank-you. Are you ok?

Re hospitals, Dorchester everyone has their own room and we had no interference whatsoever. I know it was only about 7hrs but it was much appreciated!

The hospital we were going to has thy're own rooms...Ikea furniture, double bed, tv, vcr, pool, en-suite....very nice...gutted I ended up having to go to UHW instead as I was stuck on a large ward for 4 nights then a ward with 3 other women and newborns for 4 nights after.

Jvic28

Krystaltips wrote: »

They don't tend to bath them too soon because smell is very important for a baby to recognise it's mother... In our hospital the midwives will show you how to bath them if you ask but don't automatically offer it...

That wouldn't have been a problem, but they wouldn't discharge me until they'd showed me and I ended up waiting around for ages when I really wanted to get out of there.

tarajayne

feelinggood wrote: »

I feel alright, got a lot done today. Just wish I was a happier Mummy. Not looking forward to OH coming home, finding things hard with him at the moment.

I'm also finding it tough with OH. Not the family bliss you want or expect is it. I snap so easily and he really irritates me, then I feel really guilty. I just want to be on my own with Maddy at the moment. You are getting help from GP now, aren't you. Please say you are! :A

SusanC_2

Jvic28 wrote: »

That sounds awful. i had trouble with most of the midwifes too. Can i ask....how did u hold her wrong?? No one ever told me the 'right' way...

Nobody told me either.

Jvic28 wrote: »

We got told off for changing Tom on the bed, even though one midwife said I could as I'd had a c-section. Also didn't get shown how to bath him until discharge day when he was 4 days old. I could go on forever complaining about them.

Me too! I intend to have a homebirth next time ideally with an independent midwife. I am also writing a referenced birthplan.