MSE Parents Club Part 5

searching_me

wow seems to be alot going on tonight for people ............. :grouphug: for everyone even if you dont need it x

Jakesmummy

evening hope everyones well,

bruno sorry ur having a hard time, i have to agree with elle and millies mum though, I think she's is being a little out of order tbh (really sorry if that sounds harsh, especially since im 'new' here!) My partner has just lost his mum to cancer so life is too short, its not only your son thats missing out on his gran your missing out on your mum too? I would insist she seeks help to be honest, hopefully you'l be able to sort it out xx

MrsTinks

I'm with elle on this one - both the hugs and the frogmarch... I've had depression many years ago - I never got help for it because at the time I lived on my own with 2 cats 4 hours from everyone I knew in this country and it was only the cats needing me and food that meant I got up in the morning and occassionally remembered that I ought to buy food for all 3 of us - and occassionally I even ate some of it But if you'd asked me at the time I'd have told you to naff off I was fine thank you very much and how dare you say I couldn't cope etc etc etc.

My MIL is a bit of a force of nature - I'm deeply grateful she lives abroad as I don't think we'd remain on friendly terms if she lived closer by - but that's not so much because she's pushy as because she's flipping hard work! And frankly we'd be a lot poorer if they lived closer... it costs us £100s of pounds each time they come over for one reason or another *sigh* bus tickets - forgotten cards - banks messing up so they can't get to their money - something has happened so they haven't any money... you name it.
I've told hubby to be stern - we have a family of our own now - we can't keep bailing them out when they never repay us!
But no matter how much hard work she is I'd never stop her seeing her grandchild - provided she wasn't in any way a threat to her obviously!
I know I have moments when I feel like screaming at Alex, but I never quite get to the point of loosing it enough to do it... I sometimes go in another room if she's in her cot bawling - just for 5 minutes to calm down and then I go back in with a big smile and happy voice and usually Alex has forgotten why she was screaming in the first place and is just happy to see me. I guess it's my baby version of a computer reboot :rotfl:

Tigsteroonie

workinmummy wrote: »

:hello: Hello there.
Making the leap from pregnancy thread. Baby Alex born Friday 4th Sept by Section.
11 days before elective section date. Went into spontaneous labour, after a show at 10.30pm on thursday night. Has emergency / elective section and he was born to the strains of Abba "the winner takes it all". Section birth was fantastic and we were allowed home at 5pm today. Alex is adored by me, his daddy who had gone all gooey eyed for him and his big brother Joe (aged 5).

Congrats to glam, who beat me to it by a day.:T

:hello: :hello: :hello: :hello: :hello: to another Preggie graduate!

I'm soooooo jealous. I was in for two weeks after my emergency section (for a baby so small, I got a lot of bruising) and I'm still not sorted

Sami_Bee

Welcome WM, my memory is fuzzy are you local to me?
(wigan)

elle_gee

MrsTine wrote: »

.. I guess it's my baby version of a computer reboot :rotfl:

:rotfl:Hadn't thought about it like that!

Can't say I've ever done it but then I often think I don't know what a normal baby's crying it like so I don't know if Rhys' crying is excessive or not Always feel very "new mum" when he's bawling and I don't know why..

ETA: or rather what he wants me to do to cure his boredom..

elle_gee

Hey Tigs, how's things with you and Andrew today?

money_maker_3

Evening, havent caught up, but had to come on and say
I dropped my baby :eek::eek:
I am such a bad mummy, I was setting him down on his play mat and my hand just slipped away too quickly and he banged his head _pale_
I cried more than he did, but I have just been cuddling him not allowing him to go to sleep for the last 3 hours and my arm went numb. Have just given him his bottle and put him to bed. He seems OK though
Chris kept coming over to him and saying 'bad mummy, daddy would never drop you'
I know he is taking the pi$$ but I already feel bad enough
I still feel sick

cazscoob

hi tigs i was just talking about you i was telling my sister about andrew doing so well! as she was here when i first saw his picture! i hope your all doing well xx

Bruno i was just thinking, do you think you OH is pushing your mum away as she is scared to get close in case she looses her like she did with her mum? just another angle for you to look at?

MrsTinks

elle_gee wrote: »

:rotfl:Hadn't thought about it like that!

Can't say I've ever done it but then I often think I don't know what a normal baby's crying it like so I don't know if Rhys' crying is excessive or not Always feel very "new mum" when he's bawling and I don't know why..

I'm not a geek for nothing ya know

I still get the "new mum" feeling too so don't worry - I do recognise her various screams and cry's though... The only one that bothers me is the REALLY high pitched wail... because it's obvious it means something is hurting her And me no likey! The hungry cry is easy to distinguish - and can be verified by sticking a finger in her mouth - if she tries to gum it off you she's definitely hungry! :rotfl: There's the tired cry which is lower and slower... like a toy running out of batteries... stick a dummy in if she refuses a bottle and give her Raffi and tuck up somewhere... sorted! The "I'm crying because I'm mad or summat" cry is the one I end up putting her in her cot for and coming back in like a smiling loon 5 minutes later - because there is no ACTUAL reason for her crying it 99.9% of the time works
The hig pitched horrid one is a toughie... it can be painful wind, or she's scratched herself etc but there isn't always a solution to that one if it carries on despite tummy rubbingm back patting, etc etc etc then I eventually surrender and let her have calpol - so far I think she's had 4 doses since she was born so it's not like it's a common occurence!