MSE Parents Club Part 5

cazscoob

thanks the HV said it was like i was waking her??? i dont even think she is properly awake she just screams, she is a really loud baby too so you cant just leave her! am off all next weekend so might be worth trying something then but i need my sleep right now lol! i tried shhhhh and rocking her side to side with my hand on her stomach but it didnt work?
she is a madam and wont take a dummy or bottle we have tried but thanks! was thinking about getting a travel cot and putting lewis in with the girls for a few nights and erin in with charlie? he wouldnt wake if a bomb went off!

workinmummy

:hello: Hello there.
Making the leap from pregnancy thread. Baby Alex born Friday 4th Sept by Section.
11 days before elective section date. Went into spontaneous labour, after a show at 10.30pm on thursday night. Has emergency / elective section and he was born to the strains of Abba "the winner takes it all". Section birth was fantastic and we were allowed home at 5pm today. Alex is adored by me, his daddy who had gone all gooey eyed for him and his big brother Joe (aged 5).

Congrats to glam, who beat me to it by a day.:T

MrsTinks

ARGH totally forgot to mention... Saw an Asda delivery van driving through our village today... thought it was odd - they don't deliver here... so went home checked online and they have started delivering to my area! :j :j :j - which is great as they do Tuborg beers much cheaper than Tesco hehehe and Hubby says it's the second best thing to come out of Denmark (I'm assuming he means I'm THE best thing obviously )
Now going to work out if I can see the baby event prices if I pick a delivery date after the event starts! hehehe

three2be

Caz have you tried the very old trick of the ticking clock it is meant to remind them of your HB in the womb. trying to remember all the stuff i tried but i'm fighting cobwebs and baby brain:rolleyes:

searching_me

tiamai_d wrote: »

(except searching, she's our favourite little nympho:rotfl:

why thank you :rotfl:x

BrunoM

Rrrrrrrrr. So I saw OH checking out property sites and asked what she was looking for, and she told me she was looking for somewhere further away from my mum so she couldn't visit us any more... now turns out she read my emails earlier :mad: (not quite as bad as it sounds as I had them open on laptop screen when she went to turn the mp3 playing off), and has decided that my mum is "sick" and "imbalanced", because she says something like "it's hardly an exaggeration that I really need these visits!" in her mail to me.
She says she is not comfortable leaving my mum or anyone else alone with the baby for more than the shortest periods, so there is no way her visits can be 'of use' by taking him out to the park etc, so they are always a trial, a demand on her time and a break in their routine.
She further says (regular readers may recall a loose TTC plan for end of the year...) she won't have a second baby 'this close to her'!

We had some problems soon after the birth because my mum did things like encourage OH to come visiting with the baby by travelling across London on the tube when he was a month old, and "pressured us" into driving over to visit on a weekend when he was a couple of weeks old. These are old history, once it came out how much OH was bothered by it I told my mum off, we cut her off for a month while OH settled into routine, etc etc, and since then my mum has been following the rules we give her.
This recent exchange is because she asked if she could come visit on Wed or Thu, OH said no ("due to his bad sleep schedule at the moment"), so my mum wanted to arrange something for the following week before she goes away for a fortnight. She offered to babysit for an evening if that was better for us.

I despair, for now. OH's reaction is so unreasonable I just want to blame it on PND and get help, but I might be being biased myself, dunno.

She may well still have some PND, MrsT/others. She adamantly says not in recent times, we have discussed it not long ago. She also has decided she doesn't like HVs now, won't talk to them about anything. I'm a bit lost today, will see if I can talk more to her tonight and then don't know.

Every third post of mine seems to be a rant sigh.

Krystaltips

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

MFD goes tomorrow doesn't she?

Yes, you're right, she said she was flying out on Monday didn't she... And has people round today... I'll let her off... For now

Hubbys had his head stuck in harry potter all afternoon (not literally...) figure if you can't beat em join em so I'm going to read the night watch again... Anyone else read them? They're Russian but quite good I thought...

elle_gee

**BIG HUGS** for Bruno

Sorry, but if it was me, I'd be frogmarching her to the docs.. I know that is completely unhelpful of me, but that was my gut reaction. I have no experience of PND (do of general depression though, but I didn't have any problems asking for help with it so maybe it wasn't that bad or I caught it early enough) but I do think there is something not quite right with her reaction and could do with some help - forced on her, if needs be And I wouldn't entertain the idea of moving either..

ETA: Was just reading something on Netmums, and there was a link about Dads supporting Mums with PND. Dunno if it's any help

Millie's_Mum

Bruno, its no exaggeration to say I can't stand my Mother in Law but even I think your OH is being really unreasonable about this.

Why isn't she comfortable leaving anyone alone with Elijah? Is she scared something will happen to him? Scared he might enjoy himself? (sorry that sounded mega harsh, hope you get what i mean) Scared she might enjoy being away from him? does she realise its probably not that healthy to never leave his side?

Hope you can talk to her about this, hugs no use to you, sending standing firm/up for your mum and staying calm vibes instead.

I've got a rant of my own brewing but will see what happens tonight before letting it loose!

Krystaltips

Aww Bruno, you can rant to us any time... I'd offer you a dodgy hug but I'm on the iPod and the link doesn't work... I hope you can talk together tonight and try and resolve things a little, it's not fair on you being stuck in the middle and it's not fair to your mum... I'm sure she could be a great source of support if your oh could let her in a little...