Relationship advice please

Barny1979

taxi97w wrote: »

I wouldn't worry about the worst case senario, you will end up with the kids if it all goes haywire

So she gets to have her cake and eat it?

Glen0000

taxi97w wrote: »

Despite what the seeminly religious fanatic is saying, you come first- not your children and not your husband.

If everyone thought this social services would be overrun.

This woman had children and married of her own free will and with marriage and children come responsibility.

If you want to put yourself first all your life, feel free, but stay single and childless.

LittleMissAspie

cookies_and_crem wrote: »

In fact I'm pretty impressed that she hasn't simply embarked upon an affair (of sorts) to get her thrills as this would be an easy option - she obviously loves her family.

Erm she doesn't even regret it. I'm sure she loves her kids but she doesn't appear to love her husband. You have very low standards if you are impressed that someone hasn't had a full-blown affair.

They don't seem to have much of a relationship and they need to sort it out. If husband isn't taking her complaints seriously then she needs to bluntly say that the relationship is at breaking point and she cannot live like this any longer. That should wake him up.

viktory

cookies_and_crem wrote: »

The OP sounds fairly upset to me - she does not sound like a wanton woman having her dirty way, she is not boasting...

No? I disagree. I think the OP is not in the least bit bothered.

vodaphonesimcard wrote: »

I think if I felt guilty id feel better. Id nenver admit to my friends what ive done. Theys ee a car,kid and nice house and think were happy. He would never tell DH what happened nor would he ever tell his partner. Ive recently lost a stone and felt vert flattered by it all. Sounds bad I know but its soared my confidence. Im not sex mad honest but more than once every 2 weeks would be great.

I think you are reading a different thread to the rest of us, cookies and crem.

taxi97w

Barny1979 wrote: »

So she gets to have her cake and eat it?

And why ever not?

Barny1979

vodaphonesimcard wrote: »

Saturday he told me he would like to sleep with me.
Yesterday we were alone again and ened up having sex in my bedroom. Thats all it was sex, no emotions involved but its made me feel alive. Hes been back today and weve been upstairs twice.

The OP could have got herself out of the situation if she wanted to, but she didn't and then went back for more. She hasn't thought of anyone's feelings apart from her own.

Barny1979

taxi97w wrote: »

And why ever not?

Because she has done wrong and benefits totally, whilst her husband is left with nothing?

taxi97w

Glen0000 wrote: »

If everyone thought this social services would be overrun.

This woman had children and married of her own free will and with marriage and children come responsibility.

If you want to put yourself first all your life, feel free, but stay single and childless.

B*ll*cks to Social Services. You'd rather a sad woman than an overrun Social Services would you? F that!

Responsibility? Not everything lasts forever, in fact nothing lasts forever. Get used to it!

taxi97w

Barny1979 wrote: »

Because she has done wrong and benefits totally, whilst her husband is left with nothing?

There's no such thing as right or wrong- but rather what works and what doesn't work
It was once wrong to be married out of wedlock, now it isn't.
It worked for society to keep women down, but that didn't last forever thankfully.

And for what it's worth, he doesn't seem to be putting anything into the relationship except money. So I'm not surprised he may be left with nothing. You put nothing in - you get nothing out!

Barny1979

taxi97w wrote: »

There's no such thing as right or wrong- but rather what works and what doesn't work

It's called having morals.