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Relationship advice please
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Oh, that's alright then ... OP can be free -and everyone else can just go quietly into a corner and suffer in silence.
What a relief to learn it's all in my imagination when all this time I've been thinking that people are hurt by the infidelities of their loved ones. Silly me, eh?!0 -
paddy's_mum wrote: »Oh, that's alright then ... OP can be free -and everyone else can just go quietly into a corner and suffer in silence.
What a relief to learn it's all in my imagination when all this time I've been thinking that people are hurt by the infidelities of their loved ones. Silly me, eh?!
Yeah silly you. I doubt any of this would have happened if hubs had considerations for her. Loved ones? You really think he loves her do you, the way he is not responding?
Yeah right!more dollar$ than sense0 -
!!!!!!!! is it morals, I'm not religious, but I know what I should and shouldn't do to other people, especially people I love.
Are you married?
You might not realise it, but morals are part of the religious way of life.
Before Christianity lets say, multiple partners and marriges were a way of life (is still in some cultures) and everyone knew about it, so no-one was offended as it was/is the way of life.
Just look at France. It's an accepted part of culture that husbands take a mistress, and the wives know this. The wives accept this as they get the house and money but not all that messy stuff.
I understand cause and effect, and hopefully my cause would not effect anyone in a negative way, but it's nothing to do with morals- it's called respect.more dollar$ than sense0 -
You might not realise it, but morals are part of the religious way of life.
Before Christianity lets say, multiple partners and marriges were a way of life (is still in some cultures) and everyone knew about it, so no-one was offended as it was/is the way of life.
Just look at France. It's an accepted part of culture that husbands take a mistress, and the wives know this. The wives accept this as they get the house and money but not all that messy stuff.
I understand cause and effect, and hopefully my cause would not effect anyone in a negative way, but it's nothing to do with morals- it's called respect.
So would you have an affair or be happy if your partner had an affair?0 -
Yeah silly you. I doubt any of this would have happened if hubs had considerations for her. Loved ones? You really think he loves her do you, the way he is not responding?
Yeah right!
People show love in different ways. He works hard and provides a nice life for her and the kids, so nice in fact they can afford to employ workmen and she can stay home with the kids. That is love in my book.
The reason she is not walking away is because she knows how good she has got it. Her freedom would not taste so good in a grotty council house on benefits.....0 -
People show love in different ways. He works hard and provides a nice life for her and the kids, so nice in fact they can afford to employ workmen and she can stay home with the kids. That is love in my book.
The reason she is not walking away is because she knows how good she has got it. Her freedom would not taste so good in a grotty council house on benefits.....
No that's called doing what you think people expect of you. A certain route to misery.more dollar$ than sense0 -
im not in love with this guy, not in the slightest
We had no choice but to employ this guy, well yes we could have chosen another one
DH really is in his own world. Will happily watch TV for hours rather than listen to DS read even parents evening was frowned upon when I asked him to come
I guess you describe our relationship as me being a paid maid
We were both brought up in very strict families hence us being married early.
As I have said before as bad as it sounds I think this has been building up for a while and no I dont regret it. I question if DH feels that same. The thought of us splitting would kill both families.
I do agree that I need to get out of the house but as DS is so ill it involves me taking masses of clothes and medicines with me just in case.
College for a day time course I promise I will look into
Thanks for all your replies.0
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