Dad upset at topless neighbour

savingforarainyday

Could you not have a quiet word with the neighbour, explain that your dad is of a different generation and gets quite embarrassed by nudity, and not saying I dont think you should sunbathe topless etc,, because you understand that she is in her own garden etc, but to spare your dads blushes could she pop on a vest top when she is gardening down yon end without the fence.

Unless you mention it she may not realise it is a problem.

ailuro2

catkins wrote: »

My dad has a 200 foot back garden which is his pride and joy. He spends most of the day out there working.

What if it was someone else posting.....

I moved into my new house last year, but my next door neighbour is out in his garden day and night, I find it hard to enjoy my garden in peace when he's always huffing and puffing away , digging something up. He also whistles, which drives me NUTS! It's strange he's always up the far end of the garden where he can see into MY garden! - I had a 6ft fence put up, but I simply can't afford to do the rest yet - 100ft was all I could afford.

I admit I'm in the habit of wandering about with just shorts on , I've always been comfortable with my body, but now this old bloke appears to be always working in a part of the garden where he can see me, and I'm starting to get uncomfortable,
surely I should be allowed to do as I please in my own home without someone letching at me over the fence.What can I do to stop him looking at me?

Sorry to play Devil's advocate, but there's always another side to the story. Yes, OK I made up the whistling bit, but knowing old blokes do have a habit of doing it unconciously without realising it drives other people round the bend....

Put up some trellis style fencing (a cheap option), and your Dad will know what to grow to provide a better privacy screen for him.

And if she is parading round to wind him up, then she'll have to try the bloke on the other side next.:rolleyes:

seven-day-weekend

Agree with the trellis and beans idea. Common sense needed here.

larmy16

onejontwo wrote: »

Ask her if a loan of his wheel barrow would help on the days she is topless!!!

Invite Buster Gonads around to help out with the gardening!:)

margaretclare

savingforarainyday wrote: »

Could you not have a quiet word with the neighbour, explain that your dad is of a different generation and gets quite embarrassed by nudity, and not saying I dont think you should sunbathe topless etc,, because you understand that she is in her own garden etc, but to spare your dads blushes could she pop on a vest top when she is gardening down yon end without the fence.

Unless you mention it she may not realise it is a problem.

DH and I may be of the same generation as your dad, and this would not bother us at all. What a person does in the privacy of his/her own garden is no one else's business, provided she's not noisy or abusive. 'Our generation' has far more problem with noisy pop music blaring at all hours and smelly barbecues. We have a problem with next door's Leylandii which encroaches on to ours. So long as the neighbour stays in her garden it's up to her.

Spendless

catkins wrote: »

Why should an OAP pay for a 100ft fence? He has lived there years with no problem.

I don't believe it is right for her to walk around topless. - sunbathe yes but not walk around.

Because he doesn't like the situation of being able to see his neighbour walking around topless in her own garden. Not sure why being an OAP comes into it, unless you are saying that he can't afford to pay for a fence. It's her own garden, it doesn't matter whether you consider it 'right' or not.

Debt_Free_Chick

catkins wrote: »

Why should an OAP pay for a 100ft fence

To buy himself the privacy he thinks he's entitled to .... ?

Minimum_Wage_2

be come a bee keeper!

carolinosourus

I don't really have any advice but would like to point out that if you do talk to this woman and it becomes an argument, when you come to sell your house, you have to mention in the new HIPs whether you've ever had a dispute with your neighbours.

My mum's neighbour put an extension in their attic which overlooks her entire garden, and as you now no longer need planning permission for things like this they only told her the day the work was starting! She wasn't sure what to do but was informed by a friend that if there was a dispute she would have to declare it when she was selling the house.

Just something to be aware of.

absolutebounder

Couldnt he open his garden up to the public and charge admission.