Dad upset at topless neighbour

needaspirin

My work colleague told me she sunbathes nude in her secluded garden.

She's on Google Earth :rotfl:

amandada

I occasionally (VERY occasionally, I live in Scotland!) lie in the garden topless when it's sunny. It's nothing to do with sunbathing as such, I have quite bad eczema, and the sunlight helps it.
OK I don't wander about the garden topless, but I would if I felt so inclined. I'd be EXTREMELY cheesed off if a neighbour asked me to stop

Zazen999

amandada wrote: »

OK I don't wander about the garden topless, but I would if I felt so inclined. I'd be EXTREMELY cheesed off if a neighbour asked me to stop

Even if there was no fence and you were coming face to [er] face with them on the way to the greenhouse?

littleowl

I haven't read the whole of this thread and therefore don't know whether it has centred purely on topless females.

I find the sight of my male neighbour topless offensive and off putting. What he does in his own garden is his affair but he does this outside in full public view. Why is it that men seem to discard their tops at the first sight of sun? Worse than this most of them are middle aged and have less than desirable bodies with rolls of fat and beer bellies - and that is in public streets too! I don't care what age a person is but going without a top in public is offensive. In Europe it is the English who stand out - most Europeans would not dream of doing so outside the privacy of their own homes.

Horace

Put some canes up and plant runner beans - the screen is temporary and provides some nice veg, or he could plant some sweet peas (sorry that was a bad idea because they need picking all the time and it would bring him into contact with her boobies).

Instead of looking at her boobies he should look her in the eye instead - it hardly ever warm enough in this country to wander around topless or naked for that matter:rolleyes:

Quasar

catkins wrote: »

Well the title says it all really. My dad has a 200 foot back garden which is his pride and joy. He spends most of the day out there working.

His neighbour moved there last year and had a 6ft fence erected between the gardens but only for the first 100 ft. The rest of it just has a low metal fence.

The end bit of the garden is my dad's veg plot and that is where he spends most of his day.

The neighbour has taken to sunbathing topless in her garden (she is about mid 30's). Even when she was laying on the grass I think my dad felt a bit embarrassed about it and tried not to look that way but now she is walking up and down the length of the garden back and forth to her shed and greenhouse.

Yesterday my dad was working away and did not realise she was walking down. As he looked up she was level with him and although she said "hello" he could not manage to speak.

Last night he was upset and said he could not work in his garden if she was going to carry on as she has been as he is just embarrassed.

I know there is nothing wrong with the human body but it does seem out of order that she is doing this. I know my dad should just speak to her but he won't. I don't really want to get involved as I hate confrontation and I know she has a bit of a reputation of being mouthy.

What do you think my dad should do? Also is not actually against the law to be doing that?

Am I the only one to feel that this lady lacks self-awareness? Either that or she gets a kick out of it.

While she is perfectly entitled to do as she pleases in her own garden, when said garden is not completely fenced in but is visually connected to another house's garden, then she is also in the public eye so to speak. I don't know of that many women who would walk up and down topless in the non-fenced in area, full knowing there is a (male) neighbour in the next garden who is most likely to see her.

That said, one could argue that he has no business looking into her garden (how to avoid this completely is another matter altogether), but something tells me she is not that bothered about that. Quite the opposite.

I say your dad calls a few friends around when she is so (un)attired. I'd really like to know how she behaves then.

movingforward2010

look but dont touch

ashnojutsu

Depending on her appearance, she could be the best neighbour ever!

catkins

Well a lot of replies but I still don't know what to do for the best. Dad cannot afford more fencing and neither can I.

It's unfortunate that his veg patch is beyond the fence but she has 100ft of garden in which to sunbath so why keep walking around? Yes it is her garden but her neighbours the other side can see her as can the neighbour the otherside of my dad.

I have sunbathed nude when I had an overlooked garden but not if the garden is overlooked. To me it is a matter of decency. If she walked out in the street topless she would be arrested so how come she is allowed to do it in her garden when she can be seen by quite a few people?

As for the comments about little opportunity to walk around topless well she seems to manage to do it almost every day - doesn't seem to need much if any sun.

DougWeller

Fen1 wrote: »

If she is a decent neighbour in other respects, why antagonise her?

She has every right to dress as she wants in her garden, and it really is your father that has the problem. The simplest thing for everyone is for him to put up a fence. Problem solved without hurting anybody's feelings or causing embarrassment. If the neighbour does ask why he's put up a fence, he can simply say that he was so taken with the fencing already put up that he thought it a good idea to continue it, making everything nice and consistent.

I agree. I can't sympathise with the people who suggest harassing her until she stops.
Doug