Dad upset at topless neighbour

speranza

newcook wrote: »

hate to ask but would you still say the same if it was a man walking around with his kegs off?!

OP - I would suggest you have a quite chat with her yourself - its possible she doesnt realise that she is causing so much embarrassment or even that she can be seen over the fence.

She's not walking around with the equivalent of having a penis out. I accept that breasts are sexual, but they're not genitals. And yes, if a man was naked in his garden it wouldn't really be any of my business unless he was behaving inappropriately.

It doesn't bother me that someone wouldn't enjoy seeing a neighbour topless, but it is very wrong in my opinion to think that trying to shame them because of personal discomfort is acceptable.

loulou_lemon

anniecatz wrote: »

you could say he's setting up a cctv system on the house...

.....and if he happened to film her naked on her own property would that constitute an offence under the Sexual Offences Act?

takethemon

kazwookie wrote: »

I like the small nosey child and asking questions.

I like the 13/14 year old lads as well.

I sunbath topless as well, and lay flat onthe patio and stay there, twice so far this year! however my neighbours have put the kids trampoline next to the ajoining fence! now the kids bounce up and down so I have to lie on my front when they are out, I certainly wouldn't be wandering around my garden.

how selfish!

takethemon

he should bite the bullet. take down the fence,get a comfy chair and a pair of dark glasses and enjoy the view

catkins

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

Should we really expect to have a say in what people do in the privacy of their own homes & gardens?

Could the OP's father simply "not look" ?

How can it be in the "privacy" of her garden when she walks around the area with no fence?

The slightest bit of sunshine and she is out there. If she were just to lay sunbathing my dad would not object but she walks around as though on purpose.

How can he not look? Should he garden with his eyes closed?

catkins

Fen1 wrote: »

If she is a decent neighbour in other respects, why antagonise her?

She has every right to dress as she wants in her garden, and it really is your father that has the problem. The simplest thing for everyone is for him to put up a fence. Problem solved without hurting anybody's feelings or causing embarrassment. If the neighbour does ask why he's put up a fence, he can simply say that he was so taken with the fencing already put up that he thought it a good idea to continue it, making everything nice and consistent.

Why should an OAP pay for a 100ft fence? He has lived there years with no problem.

I don't believe it is right for her to walk around topless. - sunbathe yes but not walk around.

catkins

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

To be honest it is her private garden - if she wants to sunbathe topless then that is really her perogative.

Its unfortunate that your dad is uncomfortable with it but I think as it is his problem and not hers - the only thing you could try would to be as another poster suggests tactfully explain your dad's feelings and appeal to her better nature - she might be receptive

In the meantime your dad will just have to avert his eyes

It is hardly a "private" garden when there is only a metal fence dividing a lot of it. As I say she is not just sunbathing she is walking up and down to her shed and her greenhouse.

Debt_Free_Chick

catkins wrote: »

How can it be in the "privacy" of her garden when she walks around the area with no fence?

The slightest bit of sunshine and she is out there. If she were just to lay sunbathing my dad would not object but she walks around as though on purpose.

How can he not look? Should he garden with his eyes closed?

She's on her own land. Your dad doesn't have to look in her direction, does he?

Maybe he's now oversensitive and can't help but look to see if she's topless or not? Perhaps that's it ... he's now worried that she might be topless so has a look to check, whereas he should forget about her and just focus on his veg

He's your dad, so your bound to want to side with him but really ..... she's walking around her own garden topless. Think about it .... it's just "so what"

Savvy_Sue

catkins wrote: »

How can it be in the "privacy" of her garden when she walks around the area with no fence?

The slightest bit of sunshine and she is out there. If she were just to lay sunbathing my dad would not object but she walks around as though on purpose.

How can he not look? Should he garden with his eyes closed?

Take him to Abbey House Gardens on one of their clothes optional days.

Don't most of us look at faces rather than lower down when we're in polite company, clothed or not?

If he won't speak to her, and you won't speak to her, how is she supposed to know that it bothers him?

BritRael

Maybe I could help here and come round to do his gardening for him? Shall we say at a rate of 50 quid a day?
er...I can't afford to pay him any more than that! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: