Husband too strict

LonelyLil

gizmo111 wrote: »

Your first post on this thread says he over reacts atthe slightest thing and you cna see him turning into an aggressive bully like his father, yet you now try and blame yourself for his behaviour.
I think your family needs professional help and support.

Yes, I am worried he may turn into his father, but people have made me see my part in all this and that I may be over reacting.

robpw2

LonelyLil wrote: »

I think he compromises a lot to be honest. He stays in a job he hates to support me and the kids for example

shame you won't
:rotfl::rotfl:

poet123

gizmo111 wrote: »

Your first post on this thread says he over reacts atthe slightest thing and you cna see him turning into an aggressive bully like his father, yet you now try and blame yourself for his behaviour.
I think your family needs professional help and support.

Or just maybe, she has realised that getting worked up over something as trivial as an unwashed PE kit, and ranting on about it started the process? It is very easy always to blame the other person, but we do sometimes need to look at our own behaviour too.

If every family had counselling for this type of issue, we would all be there.:rolleyes:

LonelyLil

robpw2 wrote: »

shame you won't
:rotfl::rotfl:

I do work full time, but thanks anyway. I stayed at home to look after the kids for many years, hence why I earn a lot less than my husband.

robpw2

LonelyLil wrote: »

Yes, I am worried he may turn into his father, but people have made me see my part in all this and that I may be over reacting.

going on your behaviour on this thread i think your the one to be worried about
if you miniuplate your home life like you do the people on this thread no wonder theres issues

robpw2

LonelyLil wrote: »

I do work, but thanks anyway.

i never mentioned work i meant about compremise ..

Any

robpw2 wrote: »

going on your behaviour on this thread i think your the one to be worried about
if you miniuplate your home life like you do the people on this thread no wonder theres issues

Very very true but as she is saying she has seen the light let's stop giving her hard time.:T

Pee

If you've recently gone back to working full time and lost your best friend, you're going to be in a difficult place mentally - feeling you are not making enough time for your children, having noone to talk to in a "girlie" way. If you just want to vent and let off steam, a man is probably not the best person to do it to as he will try to identify a problem and want to help - there is no real problem, or not one that can be solved, you just need to get it off your chest.

I wonder would counselling through the doctor for grief help? Do you have any other close friends?

Any

Pee wrote: »

If you've recently gone back to working full time and lost your best friend, you're going to be in a difficult place mentally - feeling you are not making enough time for your children, having noone to talk to in a "girlie" way. If you just want to vent and let off steam, a man is probably not the best person to do it to as he will try to identify a problem and want to help - there is no real problem, or not one that can be solved, you just need to get it off your chest.

I wonder would counselling through the doctor for grief help? Do you have any other close friends?

I agree.
I know what helps me - a big big hug and tickling on my back and feet from my husband. God knows he hates it, but does it because he knows it helps to put my mind to rest.

Edinburghlass_2

She "lost" her friend due to a fall out, not death.