Asked to babysit every Saturday

SCAMPIDOODLE

So if she gives up her day job, she can sit arund all week while daughter is at school, and you and hubby at work, spending time painting her nails and planning outfits for the weekend. then when you get to weekend after long and hard week, you have to give up your staurday night and sunday morning presumably. No chance!! get a day job missy and look after your own child!

mrcow

She can't expect three different people to babysit one night each and every week going forward.

It's very selfish and quite confusing for the kid too.

Have you asked why she can't look for a job that she can actually do without causing problems for everyone else?

pelirocco

emlou2009 wrote: »

no doubt you would be posting something equally attacking if she was asking for money. at least she wants to work for her money rather than expecting handouts from you/OH! it may be that she doesnt qualify for tax credits towards childcare for one reason or another and it would therefore be pointless to work so she has chosen hours that she knows someone will be available to help her out with. it probably is also that as it is unsociable hours she gets more money to work them and can therefore spend more time with her child.
as someone else said, the child is 6 years old and will sleep from early evening right through. you will barely know she is there. unless you spend saturday nights going out yourselves, i cant see that it will really make much of a difference to you really. its not like shes asking you to babysit every saturday while she goes out on the razz.

Why would you assume the OP would post if she was asking for money?

Its a lot to ask baby sitting every saturday when you have brought up your own children and expect ( and rightly so ) a bit a time and fun of your own .

somehow i get the impression from what the op has said about problems with the step daughter in the past that working in a nightclub might actually be similer to going out on the razz

Rachie_B

Is she mad ?! giving up school hour job ? many people would kill to work during school hours!

mrcow

Rachie_B wrote: »

Is she mad ?! giving up school hour job ? many people would kill to work during school hours!

There was a receptionist job going in one of our local schools earlier this year. Apparently they had over 400 applicants!

freebiequennie

Triggles wrote: »

He did fulfill his responsibilities - he raised her - having a responsibility towards your adult children does NOT equate to being their free childcare!! Especially when the adult child is leaving a perfectly adequate job with already arranged childcare to take an ill-advised job where she has not got reliable childcare readily available OR when she is expecting the grandparents to drive a 40mile round trip TWICE in 24 hours for pickup and drop off, again at no charge to the adult child. And the idea that the grandparents should then HIRE and PAY for someone ELSE to watch the child when they want a Saturday night out, when the adult child is paying them nothing, is ridiculous!

sorry thought the 6yr old was the daughter of your OH not the mother really do apologise in this case I think she is being very unreasonable and should find a babysitter whom she trusts and pays for.

emlou2009

chipsdog wrote: »

I don't get on very well with SD (as you may have guessed) she doesn't tell the truth, I also don't think a Nightclub is the right place to work with a child and a drug problem in the past, I think she thinks its a night out.

i do get the feeling that the OP's views on the situation and possibly towards the grandchild are somewhat influenced by her dislike of the SD.
people do recover from drug problems, it may be many years ago and well behind her.
i do agree that the 80 mile round trip is a p!sstake though.

its no picnic working in a nightclub. its hard, sweaty work, you get abused by drunken people, the hours are long and tiring and most of the time staff will go home with a headache. you hear the same VERY loud music every night and have drunk people leering, grabbing and getting lairy cos they dont think you've served them quick enough. never mind the unsociable hours.
i loved clubbing so got myself a part time job in a local club thinking it would be easy money and really fun. i lasted one night.

BallandChain

Of course we are assuming the step-daughter is going to work behind the bar. Maybe she is going to work in a club of sorts, lap dancing!

NAR

Thursday to Saturday, dump child on others for free. Go to work in night club. Enjoy music, get chatted up, bought drinks = great chance to have an adult life for half a week without child harness!
Anyone else see this as a good deal?

littlemissmoney

If she is working Sat night, when is she going to sleep? I bet you would soon be looking after the child every Sunday too.