On a break with bf - don't know what to do

junkanoo

Hows your day going today? Hopefully better than yesteday. Your doing good, keep your chin up and keep plodding on, you will get there eventually.

BrownCow_2

Thanks all
Day going OK today. Had a lovely chat with my mum who's made me feel better about things. Saw some mates as well, it's difficult going over it with people so that upset me a bit. They just say how they hate to see me like this :-(
Having my hair done this weekend, going to go to aerobics this week apart from that I have no other pampering or different ideas - any help?

jenhug

book in at a local college beauty centre for some money saving pampering!
Glad to hear you are keeping your chin up.

greeniegirl

HI browncow,
couldn't read this and not post! have to say I agree with Banker and the other posters who say you should move on.If after ten yrs you're not married and you have to wait round to find out the status of your relationship, you have the answer.It's not going to happen i'm afraid.

you can either get upset and run it all round your head a million times or move on. I wasted a year of my life upset over an idiot who wanted to break up and get back together again.one day it hit me how stupid I was being even giving him a thought. I took a job in another part of the country, within six weeks I'd met someone else and was engaged 6 months later. We get on brilliant, can even argue but the bottom line never changes. Don't waste your time!

Skint_Catt

Sorry to hear you're in this situation, I always wished there was a headache type pill to take the horibble pain away, but only time does that. No advice I'm afraid, but maybe out with some friends for a bit of flirting and tequila (as previously suggested) is always a winner.

Massage? Manicure? Pedicure?

C xx

saram613

Hi Brown Cow, glad youve had an okay day, ive been following your story - going through a split myself so i know the pain but obviously yours is still in limbo.

Ive had to keep myself very busy, ive been running again which really helps with some vibrant songs on my ipod, im back at the gym, meeting friends for lunch and the essential pampering, have a facial or a massage, look after yourself, treat yourself. And im working my backside off whilst my ex is off sick (we work in the same place...)

Keep your chin up, thinking about you x

_:sophie:__2

hey, Im really sorry to hear what you are going through, but he sounds like a jerk especially if things keep flaring up between you when you're together and after 10 years he's confused about what he wants. Rather then hoping he decides what he wants, look for what you want in life and go for. He'll soon realise what he's missing out on when you're not around. But please don't just go straight back with him, really think about whether you'll be completely happy. Also (if it were me) i'd be worrying whether say 10 years down the line will he do it again. I've been in a similar situation although we werent together for 10 years, and now i'm in a new relationship with an amazing guy.

Don't give up and stay strong, but remember your happiness is very important too. xxx

Pee

None of us know him and so we don't know what is going to happen or whether he is behaving badly. I have to say I think there is a certain strength of character about confronting a problem rather than running away and being honest with a person you have been with for so long - who presumably is your best friend. (I.e. what he has done.)

Can you arrange an Orange Wednesday's trip to the cinema?

BrownCow_2

Thanks for your replies.
Your kind words are a great help, I need to be strong for another two and a half weeks and then be very strong as I'm probably going to have to be the one who ends it :-(
Of course I don't know that will happen but want to prepare for the worst
Please give me more ideas and pep talk for keeping busy and strong!
:-)

Sarahjovi

Have you got some friends you could meet up with for lunch, Dinner, Cinema, Drinks, Theatre, Night Clubbing, Concerts etc., And all those things you wanted to do, but didn't because your BF didn't want too!

You could also go to the gym, swimming, Shopping!

Sarah:D