Am I too controlling over money?

Brighton_belle

Juliffe - can't stop today but coudn't read and run - you last 2 post have made my day and I am so happy that you are turning things round for yourself. Such positive thinking and planning and courage:T:T:T

StressedSteph

Hi Juliff

I stumbled across this thread over the weekend and have sat and read the whole lot in amazment at how you have coped with everything that has happened to you.

I just wanted to send you a message saying, what a fabulous mum you are and how you have been so amazing at stepping carefully around your monster of a husband to try to save hurting your children anymore than you have to. I am afraid if I had been in your situation, he may well have had a blunt object wrapped around his head by now :eek:.

Keep smiling hun, you are so near the finish line. I can't wait to read the post from you when he has finally left and you and your daughters are living a nice happy relaxed life at home.

I hope you daughter is better soon.

Steph

GSXRCarlos

i heart juliff!!!!

Emmzi

buy the shoes now!!!

BitterAndTwisted

Buy two pairs! As impractical as possible. Because you're worth it

julliff

Oh, thank you so much everyone – your comments really made me smile.

When I got home yesterday, OH was waiting to talk to me. He said “What is happening about the savings, I have returned the forms. I would phone the solicitor myself, but she might charge me”.

He has obviously run out of money again – he is like a caged wild animal when he has no spending money.

He mentioned it again this morning “Are you going to speak to that woman?” I said “she is not ”that woman”, she is a solicitor!!

I am not going to let him get to me. He wants me to feel guilty for keeping the money away from him. I must admit, I thought by now he would have conceded that he needs to either go and sign back on again, or look for a job. Nope!

He had some dinner with us last night – I always ask him, but he usually says no. This morning, DD2 asked me if she could have a particular type of bread that was in the cupboard – or was it Dads. How sad that she does not think her Dad is/should be providing for her.


Anyway, I did speak to my solicitor, and she said it is OK to release the savings, but the transfer of equity cannot be done yet. So I put a cheque into his account today. I just want to keep him off my back. And it is a step nearer to to being free. to myself (I am mean really), because some of the saving are in his name. So I can’t touch them. I said – you will need to phone up IF and ask them to reset your online sign on details, so that you can move the money. Blimey, you would have thought I had told him that he had to go on a perilous quest to seek this money!! But, I can’t do it for him, however much he stamps his feet. My voice is not low enough to pass myself off as a bloke!


Ordered myself a nice new coat from Debenhams, a smart one for work. In true MSE style I managed to find one that was half price, and then used some voucher codes to get 20% off and free delivery. Result! Next – the shoes!!!

Primrose

Blimey juliff - how long is it going to take him to get the message about his share of the money running out. He really is in denial about who is going to provide for him when everything is done and dusted, isn't he? You're going to have to steel yourself for the pleadings once his money box is finally emptied.
Hope you get a lot of pleasure out of your nice new coat. You deserve it!

Dinah93

Has he bought a new house or just renting? Or does his share of the money cover the purchase price? I can't believe he'd get a mortgage with no income!

vandanfc

Good to hear you thinking about a positive future !!

Now go get those killer heels (and a foot spa for afterwards).

Vanda

GSXRCarlos

Well done on the MSE esque coat purchase, keep it up.

And don't ever forget, that little treats and rewards are a good thing, don't ever let anyone take them away from you