A new start for Mooloo

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo while you are in fighting spirit would (as I said in an earlier post) the Twins have rights re their disabilities hold any weight in delaying the adoption and a solution being found. Could your MP help, disability rights, Media?

Don't want to add extra pressure on you when I know that even though you want to fight it is absolutley beyond draining but I am racking my brain for angles for you to fight with.

thorsoak

I've kept up with the posts here - and I have to say that Mooloo comes across as a very strong loving woman who wants only the best for her family. I cannot imagine how I would feel in her shoes - I can only hope that I could be as strong as she is.

Mooloo - whatever you decide to do in the end, you have my sincere respect. Whatever is decided outside your control you will always know that you have done everything in your power for your family. I pray that there can be a good outcome where you all receive the support you all need.

Sending you many many {{hugs}} and love.

Whatever you dicide, you have the support of goodness knows how many people here.

queen_vi

MooLoo anyone who reads what you write nows how much you love you family and will do your best for them its very hard for all of yous at this moment (if you were not ill youself thinks would be a lot differnt we all know that)
take care and remember dont use up all your spoons

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo is guess what people were trying to say yesterday is not actually give up but don't repeat the same things ie you have already tried living with Twin2 and it was impossible for you, you know that taking 3 little ones alone with the amount of support you get off the children is probably not possible...so people are jumping to your defense however I don't think that they are suggesting you take it lying down and don't try to do 'something'..well thats the way I have interpreted it anyway. I guess posters on this thread feel protective of you so jump to your defense of 'you can't do it' and thats understandable but it is also understandable that with your bond and love and emotions involved that you will also feel defensive towards your little grandsons and Twin2 and keeping all your family together somehow.

tired_mum

I was not trying to hurt you Mooloo please dont think that I just dont want to see you in the state that you were in before , We are very protective of our Mooloo
Hope you had a good visit

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Mooloo you sound so angry and I totally get that. It sounds like what you are saying is you won't give up the fight no matter what, even though you don't fully have a solution you will fight to the bitter end. Good for you and I can't say I would be any different.

Keep fighting xx

No KM I am not angry.
I am just frustrated, and feel a very small cog in a very huge wheel that is turning without me.

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Mooloo has read some very negative posts which seem to have been deleted now and had a very difficult PM to read so I can understand why she is feeling very upset and angry. I know Mooloo personally and know what a remarkable woman she is and I want her to know that I will support her whatever happens. There is no right and wrong way but there is Mooloo's way and we all have to respect her and support her in whatever she needs to do in order to manage this very difficult situation. Just like there are no flies on DGD so there are no flies on Mooloo and she has her eyes open - she knows the odds are stacked against her and her family but still she is fighting and that takes true courage.

Ok Molly, thats got me in tears! Thankyou for the support.

I am not anti any of you or your posts. It is what it is.

The family life I lead is a mess.
But we are a strong bonded family. Which may or may not be good at times.


I had a good visit with the boys, and DGS2 is nearly walking already. He had a wonderful smile of us all.
DGS1 was practically extatic when DGD walked into the room, he ran across calling her name and gave her the biggest hug and kiss ever.
Precious memory that one may well be. Alas no photograph of that, just the one that will be engraved on my memory.

After seeing the boys I met up with Biggest of Mooloo in costalotta.
We drank pots of tea, and talked for an hour or so, then I had to come home as DGD was restless and still she is not that well.
She is in bed now. Infact she has been asleep for 3 hours. I suppose I should wake her, but as she is ill I have kept an eye and have decided to leave her to sleep. It doesnt matter if she wakes me up in the middle of the night. Or if she wakes up and stays up a bit late. She will get better quicker if she gets to sleep when she needs it.
EDIT. She has just woken.

I had a friend crawl out of the woodwork, that my kids grew up with. She has been in the area, and called in on the off chance. She doesnt drive, and had lost my number. etc
Well I probably didnt give her my mobile when I changed it last year when I was getting those death threats.
So we have had a couple of hours catching up etc. Her grandson is 17months old. I cannot believe we havent seen each other in years.
Her first family were taken off of her and put up for adoption. She had 5 children of various ages who were taken due to an abusive domestic violence scenario. But managed to go on and have 3 more children who grew up with my children. Her second marriage was stable. So there is life after social services intervention. Although she has has 2 of her children or is it 3 of them come back into her life, and infact the two eldest now live down here.
Anyway my afternoon has been interesting catching up.

There has been problems with twin2 this afternoon, she wanted me to go and sort some things out, but I was not able too. She had a run in with the family from hell users, because she has told them to pack up and leave. They are now calling her name's threatening her etc etc and the language i could hear over the phone was not good.

I have had to ask Biggest of Mooloo to come and babysit while I go and sort it out, but she has decided to take her rather large rugby playing partner and go and sort it out.! Oh dear I dont think I will like to be any of them, including twin2. She has not a lot of time for her at the moment, as she like me says it how it is, and she doesnt think that Twin2 has been helping herself and should have learnt by her mistakes sooner! ha.
We all know that in a few days twin2 will probably accept the stupid peoples appologies and be off with them again.

That has unfortunately reminded me that all is not as well as we would like it to have been and that we have some way to go to get it sorted. Also the Jobcentre have still not paid thier benefit dispite signing on on Monday. This is becoming a habit and and expensive one. To get it sorted out means telephone calls, visits to town and extra bus fares and the never ending waiting game!.


I have decided that today is just not a good day for us.

The Estate Agents want to show someone around the house tomorrow evening at 4pm and i have said no. That I am off to Oxford and not changing my plans as want to take DGD to bonfirenight in Oxford. Cannot they come anotherday, its not as if the property is available until the 1st January 2011 anyway.
After quite a few phonecalls they finally agreed to view on Wednesday afternoon instead.

I think that today Mooloo isnt taking any prisoners!Shes firing from the hip somewhat. Sorry.

By the way, I do not think any the worse from any of you that I know/have got to know through here. I am just trying not to be a complete defeatist. Yet.

Optimism is what carries me through the worst things that have happened in my life and that I will have to dig deep to my boots at times. My depression is only a sad time away. That is something that i really cannot cope with creeping up on me at the moment.
A friend of Biggest Of Mooloo's has just hung himself (friday) and we have that to deal with as well. He was known to me, but more the children. He was a volunteer at the youth drop in centre. Its such an awful thing to have to deal with, and they all need support over this too.

Guess what I am trying to say is, that i am trying to hold up my family. That I have to be strong, assertive and determind. For all of them as well as for me.

minimoneysaver

Keep smiling and keep strong Mooloo. Make sure that you look after yourself as you will be no good to anyone if you end up laid up in bed. I tell myself that all the time, as it is just me and my daughter and if i'm laid up, there is nobody to look after her. Give DGD a huge hug! xxx

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

The Estate Agents want to show someone around the house tomorrow evening at 4pm and i have said no. That I am off to Oxford and not changing my plans as want to take DGD to bonfirenight in Oxford. Cannot they come anotherday, its not as if the property is available until the 1st January 2011 anyway.
After quite a few phonecalls they finally agreed to view on Wednesday afternoon instead.

I think that today Mooloo isnt taking any prisoners!Shes firing from the hip somewhat. Sorry.

:T:T:T:j:j:j Way to go Mooloo, no need to apologise for that! :rotfl:

Savvy_sewing

OK, I have just had a terribly narrow escape from being beaten to a pulp!
If I had gone to help twin2 I was about to be greeted by an ambush of the family from hell. I was going to be beaten up for telling twin2 to get rid of the hangers on etc. Biggest of Mooloo and her BF walked into the scene instead. Nice family they are then!. Adults are supposed to talk civilly. This is the family that DS is now stopping with supposedly for Christmas.

I have a horrible feeling that the world is just started to collapse around me.

I didnt say anything about this family,( of late.) Years ago I had a run in with the father, and do not like him. But I spoke civially enough to him when I saw him a few weeks ago, and asked him if my son was OK, and not out staying his welcome. All seemed fine. But today, his loving daughter has told a pack of lies and his mum and his dad were going to kill me. What a pair of role models they are. Now they have 7 kids, who are hell makers all over the town, so I suppose its not to be surprising. The girl in mention who is supposed to best friends with the twins is a nightmare. Now Biggest of Mooloo has warned me not to go into town where I would/used to go at usual times as they are gunning for me.
DS is not answereing his phone but is in thier clutches at the moment. It looks like I will have enough on my plate without worrying about the boys.

Biggest of Mooloo has just put across afew points that has just made me do a double take.

Twin2's place was trashed again.
Twin2 has let this family back in time and time again.
That her new BF has apparantly told DS and this so called family, that he is going to go back to Wales as he is fed up of the mess etc etc.
Biggest pointed out that if these are the type of people that are there, then the boys will be better off not going home to Mum, what kind of life will they get. I can see that she does have a point.
She has also told Twin2 that if she goes back on this and makes friends with this girl again, then she will disown her and not wade in and help again.
(told you she doesnt hold any punches! literary speaking).
She has also told me that she thinks that the boys would have a better life with an adoptive family, then to have to come to me, again as someone else has mentioned. DGS1 may have ADHD etc as his mother, and how would I cope with that. that DGD and DGS will probably fight like cat and dog after a few weeks together. etc etc. So Biggest of Mooloo has painted the bad pictures too.
She also said that if anything happened to me, then who would have the children, she couldnt take them all, that we had as a family agreed that she would have DGD, but she couldnt cope with the boys as well, not with hers on the way too.


Told you this was going to be a bad day.

I think the wind just got taken out of my sails. What is the point of me fighting the enevitable, if I am the only one fighting for it? What is the point of denying the boys a better life? If someone out there wants them. (God its going to kill me inside, but I suppose, just perhaps that its better then killing me literally!).

Oh God what a Bl))dy mess!

I am posting this, writing this as I think and as its happening. so if its a bit disjointed then sorry.

Is it really time for me to Walk Away?