A new start for Mooloo

Keeping_Motivated

Oh Mooloo I got goose bumps all over my body at what you must have been feeling when you were asked that...such a turmoil...its impossible to look after them on your own and impossible to let them go...how awful for you.

Some might flame me for saying this but I think I would insist that both girls have hysterectomyys (sp) before you make any decisions or either of the girls could put you in this position again!??

I think even if you said yes that once the SS did another assessment they would see that 3 is too much for you so the decision would be taken out of your hands anyway.

Take care x

Errata

KM - nobody can insist that a woman has a hysterectomy, and in any case I think both the twins have implants.
I'm sure your post was well meant.

Keeping_Motivated

Errata wrote: »

KM - nobody can insist that a woman has a hysterectomy, and in any case I think both the twins have implants.
I'm sure your post was well meant.

I know that really but its just a knee jerk reaction to protect any future children and Mooloo, sorry if I caused offence to anyone.

How long does the implant last?

Molly41

Some good advice as always - Thank You. Im glad Mooloo put it out for reaction because Im truly shocked and angered that the powers that be and Twin 2 could even think to put Mooloo in this position:eek::eek::eek:

I suppose its because I know Mooloo in real life and can see how much she tries and struggles with the obstacles put in front of her. The thing is Mooloo will be "dammed if she does and dammed if she dont" and she has to live with the guilt of making that decision. ITS SO UNFAIR !!!!

Support and hugs as always my friend. I have new meds to try so hoping I will be up to meet next week and discuss theis situation face-to-face. Please try and get some time this weekend to relax and let B/F take the strain with DGD xx

queen_vi

oh MooLoo what a cheeky they have i cant believe they could do this to you

Errata

I think, to be fair to the court, it would have been very remiss not enquire if there was a family member who could look after the boys and it may be that the court is required to make enquiries. Gizmo would know.

Savvy_sewing

thanks all.
I have been off to take DS back to his mates, and went to see my parents to talk to them. They agree that its impossible for me to take the boys on. I know that, It was just awful having to think about it all again, unexpectedly I suppose, and to see Twin2 looking at me and asking me if she could come and live with me. (With the BF of course).

I know that I cannot do it, and its tearing me apart.
I fear that I am loosing my darling grandchildren and its an unbearable feeling.

Mum and her BF have to pass through all the hoops that SS and the Courts are throwing at them, and i am not sure if they will pass the next tests.
So I am in great fear.
I believe that they should be given the chance and the support to care for the boys as a couple. Her BF is willing to do this. Why wont they support them in this?
Its so frustrating.

I know that I couldnt live with her again. AS everyone has said its just too much.
I just feel that I am failing the kids.
My Mum and Dad have said that I couldnt do anymore then I have done for the family.
They said that I have to think about the boys being with a family who will want and love them, and I am trying to see these things.
My BF would be horrified if I was to even attempt to have any of them back home. He is not enarmoured of them "taking advantage" of me anyway.

I suppose its just my heart wanting to have the family together, but my head is trying to look for ways, when it already knows really that this time, "Mum cannot fix it" and that I am as you say, not superwoman and no matter what good intentions I would like to have, I would probably just kill myself and then I would be no good to any of them.
I just do not know how I am going to console Twin2 when the final decision is made if it goes against her.


I was probably not supposed to mention Biggest of Mooloo's good news, as she hasnt told many people yet, she is waiting until she comes back from her holidays, so If she is going to have a read of this. I am sorry Darling, I hope that nobody you wanted to tell first is reading this!
I was so wrapped up in the reasons and problems.

Its time to put DGD to her bath and bed routine so that I can then have an early night.
BF is coming here tomorrow, as far as I know.

floss2

Mooloo, why not discuss this with your SW and any that are involved in DGD's care plan? They will have an opinion I am sure...

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo maybe you could use the angle of SS not letting you have all 3 so that Twin2 cannot offload any blame on you?

Errata

I know that I couldnt live with her again. AS everyone has said its just too much.
I just feel that I am failing the kids.
No, you're not. You've done everything possible and if you hadn't this situation would have happened a very long time ago. You've been a success.
My Mum and Dad have said that I couldnt do anymore then I have done for the family.
They're right, and the twins dad has also said you have done more than enough for them.
They said that I have to think about the boys being with a family who will want and love them, and I am trying to see these things.
That won't be easy for you, but the most important thing is that the boys are settled and happy in a loving and stable environment. You've spoken about how much they've thrived since they've been with their foster carers and they deserve to continue to thrive.
My BF would be horrified if I was to even attempt to have any of them back home. He is not enarmoured of them "taking advantage" of me anyway.
From what you've said in the past and they rocky time your relationship has had this year, there's a chance that he'd simply give up and clear off. That would leave you without any companionship and a big hole in DGD's life.

It's a rotten situation and must be quite a shock to you but perhaps deep down you kind of knew it might be on the cards.
I don't think there's anything much that any of us could post that would bring you comfort right now. Just do your best for the boys - which may not be what you actually would like to do, but will be what they need. In all of this, their needs and happiness must come before anyone elses.