A new start for Mooloo

Molly41

Well done on getting a dentist! That was a feat in itself as we were without an NHS dentist for two years and had to use emergency services on two occasions. Its disgraceful - its because the area is affluent generally so you have to travel mile just to access NHS dental services let alone getting on their books! I got one in Banbury in the end but used to keep ringing around trying to get on their books.

I hope meeting with boys goes ok. I will look forward to our cuppa later today and catch-up. Be kind to yourself as it sounds like its been a stressful couple of days xx

Good luck to DS on his interview at college - fingers crossed xxx

Jo4

Try to get some time for yourself as it sounds like you have had even more stress recently.

Savvy_sewing

Jo4 wrote: »

Try to get some time for yourself as it sounds like you have had even more stress recently.

Oh I think Its been more emotional upheavel then stress as it was., either that or I am resigned to it now.! Its the lack of sleep thats getting to me.!

The boys meeting flew by. The SW met us afterwards to tell us that the boys protection plan review is at the same time as next weeks contact! Theres planning for you. Then the boys are away for a weeks holiday. So we have been advised to write appologies to the review and tell them that seeing the boys was more important, as she will not see them for nearly two weeks otherwise.
As what is to be decided will be decided by the professionals at the meeting and the parents cant really do much about it. !
I have also told twin2 to go back to her solicitor. They are seeing the solicitor tomorrow.
The SW offered them a lift to the town, and the meeting that they had to go to this afternoon, which got me off of the hook.
Twin2 and her BF said that they kicked up some fuss about them not doing any of the assessments etc. The only assessment that has been done, was last week, on the Tuesday after the meeting with the boys she had to go to see a phsyciatrist or someone to see if she was able to instruct her solicitor. He has deemed that in her own terms, on her own level she understood what was happening and what was needed to be done, so infact she could instruct her solicitor. We had a letter back today. So that is a relief. As the SW was trying to say that she was not able to instruct the solicitor.
Tomorrow is the second court appearance. Again its overlaps with something else I am doing so I cannot go. But the SW is now going to pick them up at 9.30 and take them.
Hopefully the solicitor will be able to shed light on whats happening.

DGD was brilliant at the dentist. Her teeth are fine.
Mine were...strong, but need a clean.:o

DS got on well at college and he has been offered a place next term. so once we get the details in the post then we can start to sort out his EMA and once he starts my Tax credits and Child benefit again! (possibly). that will h elp as his money has been stopped. Therefore he is living off of me again.!:o

I have brought home two big bags of washing/ one from each twin, as they had a huge back log again. I told them that I do not mind doing the washing, if they continue to improve the various homes. But that they must get the washing machine sorted out, and the laundrette accordingly, as soon as possible.

I ended up driving back to Towcester twice this afternoon, so all in all I have done a lot of extra driving and my neck is warning me that its not very happy at the extra positions it got into in the dentist chair, when my Xrays were being done, and of course all the driving.
I had hoped to do some more cutting out for the sewing, but I doubt I will manage it now.

DGD is running a little late as we were out, and is watching Jungle book, when thats finished its bath and bed! and lights out! probably for both of us. But that depends on whether or not I can sleep!

gizmo111

I don't understand this - the children are now in care and going through care proceedings, the child protection plan should have finished when the interim care order was isssued at 1st court hearing.

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

I don't understand this - the children are now in care and going through care proceedings, the child protection plan should have finished when the interim care order was isssued at 1st court hearing.

Well that is what I would have thought too. Maybe the woman was telling me the wrong things. I think I will ring her supervisor and ask him what is going on.

gizmo111

I am thinking that it may be a LAC Review for the boys - how long have they been in care and how many have they had so far?

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

I am thinking that it may be a LAC Review for the boys - how long have they been in care and how many have they had so far?

It could be, they were taken into care in May. Firt week I think it was around the 8thMay.
I have not been aware of any LAC reviews for them. But for a while I was not involved when Mum was blaming me, and now, I have stepped back from the boys meetings, unless the SW actually calls me in, like she did yesterday.
Twin2 is seeing her solicitor today, with the second of the care proceedings order? I do not remember the technical name as we havent done any of this for DGD. (Yet??).
I am hoping to get intouch with my solicitor today and make an appointment about our review, and the next stages.

Savvy_sewing

Well I decided that I needed to tire myself out, and after DGD went to bed, I sat cutting out triangles for bunting out of two mens shirts, (bought for £1 each in the charity shop on Tuesday), and two childrens aprons. I also cut out two hotwater bottle covers. It took me quite a while, as I had to draw up the pattern for the latter one first. I didnt do any sewing, as DGD didnt seem to be quite so deeply asleep, and so I didnt want to disturb her.
I can sew later on.

This morning, we have Stay and Play with Mum, but we have to leave early as she has an appointment at the Hospital for her Childrens health check, as required for a child in care.
I am not looking forward for the drive to the hospital, or trying to park.! There is a carpark a little way from the hospital that i used to always use when my kids were small, and is recommended. But I am not sure if i can walk that far? I can put DGD into her buggy, (we hardly use that these days), but its uphill, so again, pushing the buggy is going to be an extra "spoon" today.

Luckily Biggest of Mooloo is having DGD tonight, until I collect her on Sunday at 1pm.
We are going to go and watch Biggest of Mooloo practise her dancing on Sunday at 5pm. Its the dance groups dress rehearsals for thier exhibition in Disney land Paris next weekend! She must be so excited. She has been dancing and then helping teach the dancing since she was 5 years old. I remember how cute she used to look in her little red uniform with the little felt hat! These days they have black and white costumes, not so cute!. (for the little ones I mean).

BF is now communicating, but it still doesnt look very good for the future alas.

minimoneysaver

Take your time with BF. I suppose this is a lot for him to take in. It's easy for all of us to sit here and give advice, but at the end of the day, he is having to go through it with you. It is right that he stands by you and I would have thought that after six years, he would still want to do that, relationship or no relationship. One thing I have noticed is that you are communicating a lot by text and email. I don't know if this is a good idea, as things can often be taken the wrong way. I have an ex, who is now a very good friend and we often chat on the phone, either during the day or late at night when things have calmed down. Even though we don't get to see each other much because of things going on in our lives, it is a comfort to know that we are there for each other. If things work out, we may embark in a relationship in the future, but it isn't the right time for either of us right now.

Molly41

Mooloo this was on the benefits board and thought you would find it useful... asit looks like you can claim child benefit and ctc for DGD as there is no order in place is there? Hope you go on ok. Have PMed you - hope i didnt sound too harsh re you know who but dont want to see you hurt xx

Kinship Care Allowances
I specifically deal with the kinship care allowance and it's affect on benefits and other entitlements in Scotland.

As a rule of thumb, if you have a 'looked after child' (meaning there is an order in place through the Children's Hearing System, most often a Supervision Order) and you receive a kinship care allowance from your Local Authority, then you are cannot receive both Child Tax Credit and the Kinship Care Allowance.

If you receive a kinship care allowance for a 'not looked after child' (meaning it is an informal arrangement with the parents or you have a Residence Order) then you can claim both the Child Tax Credit and the allowance.

You should be able to receive Child Benefit in either case. It's always best to check everything out with an expert advice agency like Citizens Advice. Kinship Care is dealt with differently in England and there you would be assessed and paid as a Kinship Foster Carer and the same benefit rules apply as though you were receiving a foster payment.